Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! 2

BeNiceToMySelf

yesterday I was getting pee'd off and fed up with everything! managed to contact my midwife and get a later appointment on Tuesday thank goodness so that should be OK with work. Maybe I'm getting the mood swings now! I just don't want the awful sickness that some of the poor peeps on here are having. Or the fatigue either ick!

I keep hearing stories about family spreading the news, how embarrassing! We have a big gossiper at work so I'm going to avoid telling her until I really have to. The way I see it, pregnancy is very private and personal and has nowt to do with anyone else apart from OH.

Kayalana99

bella2121 wrote: »

I told her about my fears and what an awful time I had last birth she is suggesting I go the birth centre instead of the hospital she said its a much better experience and everything would be fine I'm not convinced well we will see but I'm still stuck on the idea of having a hospital birth

Welcome newbies xx

I havn't read any of your prevouis posts about your birth (if it has come up) but no one is conving me to have my baby anywhere else but a hospital! My last birth was easy (compared to most I have heard about ) but I still want to know that if anything did go wrong....I am in the right place.

Bangton

Early pregnancy is hard work. Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles through a day at work and then is tucked in bed at 8pm? I'm only awake now because I have had the day off and napped half the day.

On the plus side I bought some sea bands yesterday (for travel sickness) which have either helped with the dizziness or pyschologically are helping with it...either way I'm beating that demon a little!

Boy I'm tired,...........

fluffysox

I am the same. energy gone by 7pm. Last pregnancy my DH was working late shifts- home at 9:15pm. I got in from work about 4:30, would have some toast or breadsticksand then go to bed til 9. This time i have DS so will have to wait til 8pm bedtime rather than having a cheeky little power nap whenever i feel like it. Get sleep whenever you can. Naps are good.

sweaty_betty

Hi there - I'm sorry if I put people on a downer but wanted to ask your opinion. This is my first pregnancy since my miscarriage last year, I'm just over 5 weeks along but can't help worrying that I'm going to miscarry again - I even had nightmares about it the last couple of nights and am finding myself going to the toilet much more frequently just to check that I've not started bleeding etc. I was a big worrier when I was pregnant with my LO a few years ago, but this feels like 100x worse!

I know that I should be trying to relax and not worry, but I feel that it's so entrenched in my subconscious that I can't get rid of the nagging feeling... I'm bordering on obsessive-compulsive about this.

Has anyone else experienced this and if so, what did you do to talk yourself down??

pigpen

sweaty_betty wrote: »

Hi there - I'm sorry if I put people on a downer but wanted to ask your opinion. This is my first pregnancy since my miscarriage last year, I'm just over 5 weeks along but can't help worrying that I'm going to miscarry again - I even had nightmares about it the last couple of nights and am finding myself going to the toilet much more frequently just to check that I've not started bleeding etc. I was a big worrier when I was pregnant with my LO a few years ago, but this feels like 100x worse!

I know that I should be trying to relax and not worry, but I feel that it's so entrenched in my subconscious that I can't get rid of the nagging feeling... I'm bordering on obsessive-compulsive about this.

Has anyone else experienced this and if so, what did you do to talk yourself down??

AAHhhhh the old knicker twitching... yes it is completly normal after a loss.. I just look at it along the lines of. what will be will be and nothing I do or don't do will make the slightest bit of difference.

You will relax as you get further on.. or neurotic me usually does!

maire1

Sweaty Betty I could have written that post. That's exactly how I'm feeling.

I'm a wreck! Hoping for an early scan as I have had two losses and I'm diabetic.

I think I'll feel better when I pass 8/9 weeks as that's where things began to go wrong last time.

Pigpen is right though. What will be will be and there is nothing we can do to change it!

fluffnutter

sweaty_betty wrote: »

Hi there - I'm sorry if I put people on a downer but wanted to ask your opinion. This is my first pregnancy since my miscarriage last year, I'm just over 5 weeks along but can't help worrying that I'm going to miscarry again - I even had nightmares about it the last couple of nights and am finding myself going to the toilet much more frequently just to check that I've not started bleeding etc. I was a big worrier when I was pregnant with my LO a few years ago, but this feels like 100x worse!

I know that I should be trying to relax and not worry, but I feel that it's so entrenched in my subconscious that I can't get rid of the nagging feeling... I'm bordering on obsessive-compulsive about this.

Has anyone else experienced this and if so, what did you do to talk yourself down??

Unfortunately there's not much you can do. Anxiety is normal, particularly after losing a baby. You'll feel better as time goes on but there's no magic solution - only time. Like all anxieties, when you find yourself worrying, try to distract yourself. Do something, talk to someone (not about pregnancy), read a book, throw yourself into your work, make a cup of (decaf ) coffee. Anything to take your mind off what you're worrying about. Try not to 'spiral', i.e. try not to sit there thinking 'what if this happens or that'. There's just no point.

bella2121

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I havn't read any of your prevouis posts about your birth (if it has come up) but no one is conving me to have my baby anywhere else but a hospital! My last birth was easy (compared to most I have heard about ) but I still want to know that if anything did go wrong....I am in the right place.

I agree I'm sticking to my guns and having baby in hospital my main concern with that is its in another town now and I worry about getting there in time my last labour went from tiny twinges into full blown agony 4 hours later baby was born, there would have been no way on earth I could have travelled in that much pain, luckily I was already in hospital, my last birth was not pretty, big baby, big tear :eek:

Oh well we will cross that bridge later in the year

As for the worrying it doesn't stop like everyone has said what will be will be there is nothing you can do other than try to relax easier said than done i know.

Xx

sharkeybabe

Hi everyone can I join please?

Got my bfp yesterday have worked out I'm about 6weeks. I've got a 2 year od aswell. Hope everyone is well. X