MSE Pregnancy Club 21

mrsspendalot

Morning all

I'm having a PJ day today .... another really bad night last night with SPD and I still feel like I've run a marathon today I ache that much. I'm actually starting to think this is going to the be the norm from now on, as I have done nothing at all these past few days to make it flare up.

I'm supposed to be at a friend's wedding in a couple of weeks and I'm really thinking that I'm going to have to pull out I just don't see how I'm going to cope with it. It's a teatime wedding and night do, and I'm at my worst on an evening as it is. I'll have to wear small heels to go with the dress I've bought (which was cheap in the Next Sale so I can ebay it if I don't wear it and get my money back), which I don't think I'll be able to stand or walk in with my pelvis being so dodgy. Just not sure what to do for the best. Do I tell her now I can't make it, so she can give final numbers and do final seating plans, but risk her being annoyed I've pulled out now without seeing how I am on the day? OR do I leave it til the day and just pull out then if I can't make it?

When does everyone pack their hospital bag? I'm 33 weeks on Saturday.

koalamummy

MrsS you just need to do what you can to make life as easy as you can for yourself no matter what that may be. . Regarding your friends wedding it very much depends on you and your friend the type of person she is and the usual dynamics of your relationship unfortunately. In most situations I would say give her a call and talk to her about what is going on and try and arrange a friends day out for the post wedding slump period......but if she has become a bit of a precious bridezilla type regarding her big day only you will know what is best. If it is any help at all we have friends where the woman has become the latter and it would cause too many problems not attending so I have seen my doc and arranged a one off prescription for some good pain medication for that day. Maybe a bit extreme but long term the best solution.

koalamummy

Becky I was worried about my little guy doing that too as he is certainly not the gentlest child in the world! I ended up taking him nursery shopping so that I could see which beds he could access and knock over. There were quite a few quizzical/confused looking people here that day! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

mrsspendalot

koalamummy wrote: »

MrsS you just need to do what you can to make life as easy as you can for yourself no matter what that may be. . Regarding your friends wedding it very much depends on you and your friend the type of person she is and the usual dynamics of your relationship unfortunately. In most situations I would say give her a call and talk to her about what is going on and try and arrange a friends day out for the post wedding slump period......but if she has become a bit of a precious bridezilla type regarding her big day only you will know what is best. If it is any help at all we have friends where the woman has become the latter and it would cause too many problems not attending so I have seen my doc and arranged a one off prescription for some good pain medication for that day. Maybe a bit extreme but long term the best solution.

To be perfectly honest - I'm not sure she'll care She's not a close close friend, she's not once been to see me whilst I've been off work and she never texts me. She's invited more people than she expected to turn up, and has moaned about the fact that no one turned the invite down, and there aren't enough seats at the venue for everyone to sit down whilst the ceremony takes place. I feel like 'just a number' at the moment anyway. Whilst our other mutual friend was given lots of notice where the venue was to be so she could book a hotel room there for the night, I was never even told about the venue and found out via someone else who is not even going to the wedding

pigpen

Mrs S.. I wouldn't go!! She is obviously not bothered about you as a friend so why put yourself through it?!

mrsspendalot

pigpen wrote: »

Mrs S.. I wouldn't go!! She is obviously not bothered about you as a friend so why put yourself through it?!

That's what I have at the back of my mind too. I think I just thought that if I made the effort to go, she wouldn't have anything to hold against me but I honestly don't think she'll notice if I'm there or not. I just think if I put myself through it just to say I went, I'm going to really really suffer so badly afterwards and I have my kids to think about. My parents are out of the country too, and if anything was to happen earlier than planned as a result of me pushing myself, I'd be really stuck

I guess whichever way I go with it, I can't really win

koalamummy

In that case I seriously wouldn't bother . I realize that most of it is probably just a pre wedding blip and she is usually probably a great friend but she doesn't sound all that brilliant just now. Just call her and cancel and then if you feel any better at all on her wedding day go out somewhere nice with your children anh husband and maybe even have a few sips of wine with your lunch/dinner to toast her future happiness.

LabLover

Koala , I dont have a floaty dressing gown. Just massive fleecey things , lol. Im thinking I might steal a pair of OH's boxers and wear as shorts and a nice baggy t-shirt. All my pjs are too small now , lol.Just been really bad and ordered a jacket and top from New Look on next day delivery....:o The weather is so changable I wanted a nice light jacket to take away. It'l be handy when Im out with the pram once bubs is here tho , it looks like itl fold really small.... Ive kinda justified it right ?

becky_sleaf

koalamummy wrote: »

Becky I was worried about my little guy doing that too as he is certainly not the gentlest child in the world! I ended up taking him nursery shopping so that I could see which beds he could access and knock over. There were quite a few quizzical/confused looking people here that day! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Yeah you never really know how it's going to go do you!? That was why I was so keen to make sure the baby had a room all ready :cool: I'm sure Ruby will be fab! :T I'm just being cautious! :rotfl:

mrsspendalot

koalamummy wrote: »

In that case I seriously wouldn't bother . I realize that most of it is probably just a pre wedding blip and she is usually probably a great friend but she doesn't sound all that brilliant just now. Just call her and cancel and then if you feel any better at all on her wedding day go out somewhere nice with your children anh husband and maybe even have a few sips of wine with your lunch/dinner to toast her future happiness.

No, sadly, she is not usually a great friend either

I have a friend (A) who I have known years since our kids were at playgroup together, and when they went up to infant school, we got to know this friend (B) too. We started going on girly nights out etc. and doing things with our youngest pre-school children. When I started working again I got effectively cut out of all arrangements. A & B see each other all the time, text each other constantly, do things together with their kids. They even have couples nights out with their respective husbands. I'm lucky if I get an invite to a girly wine night once in a blue moon This has been steadily going on since reception year at infant school, and the kids are now in year 3 in junior school

I've talked it over with my mum to see if I'm just being over sensitive, but she doesn't think I am. Friend A would feel awful if I explained to her how I felt etc. but I have never gone down the road of discussing it in case it looks like I'm trying to cause problems. Friend A does contact me and has been round to visit, and helps with the kids when I need to go for MW appointments etc.