MSE Pregnancy Club 21

wendz86

Afternoon everyone,

I got a nice message from the group about newbies etc but decided to leave as I didn't really post for similar reasons to others.

I got my HIP money today yay. So glad I made the midwife give me form as was in the last two days eligable. That money will be go towards getting a cot, going to see if there are any on offer at the babyshow on offer.

Bad news of the day, car is in garage again and is going to be expensive to fix. One step forward, two steps back...

SusanC_2

Teenie_D wrote: »

Anyhoo with regards to the FB group I removed myself last night as I was pretty disgusted with the way things were being conducted and the things being said. That said I do understand where they were coming from and it was set up for a very good reason, it was just the whole we will pick and choose who stays and who goes and to encourage the others to vote so publicly when they knew we were reading was pretty humiliating.

There was never any suggestion of voting on who could stay and who would be removed from the group. The (pretty unanimous as far as I could tell) consensus was that those people who were unknown because they'd been added and not really posted would be contacted so that those who weren't and did not intend to take part could be removed. There was never any voting of any kind on removal of existing members and it was made clear that anyone who wanted to stay and take part was welcome.

Make-it-3

Congratulations Chakani - sounds like you got your ideal birth, in the pool, at home, a big bouncy baby and you tea and cake straight after. Well done, look forward to seeing some piccies.

annibee

SusanC wrote: »

it was made clear that anyone who wanted to stay and take part was welcome.

I think thats not how people felt tbh susan but thanks for your opinion. Maybe we need to just drop it though.

dustystar02

thanks for the replies ladies, I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way.
My mum thinks it's very odd that I don't love the baby already. I would be devastated if anything went wrong now but i still dont feel I love it.

The people who talk about this rush of love are already mummies and so I do not know what to expect. I also know that not everyone gets this 'rush' and so am preparing myself for this.

I'm hoping the love will evolve over time (trippy man )

Ema - brill birth plan, I'm not making one officially but it would be good to jot a few things down for OH if nothing else so I think I will steal yours if that's ok?
Obviously we want and don't want the exact same things :rotfl:

Question?
I told OH this morning that i'm going to do my hospital bag this week and he said 'oh yeah, you need to give me a list of things to do too, but not jobs in the house' (he already has that list ) and I was like 'yes ok' but now I'm wondering what I need him to do.

I thought fitting the car seat was one but I'll have to do that as he doesn't drive, all the DIY jobs in the house I mither him about but he says he'll do them anyway, I will pack a few bits for him in my hospital bag, he has warned his work of my due date...........is there anything else I need him to do?

Rockinbikergal

Can we just drop the whole mentioning of groups etc as it's really starting to grind on me and I will end up leaving everything and just forgetting about getting advice from everywhere....I'm getting really annoyed that it seems to have been dropped then someone else drags it up.......there has been enough bad feeling in the threads...can we please just leave it now??? Sorry but I am preggers and hormonal and don't want to be stressing about who or what has annoyed who or what!!!! thank you xxx

hitchins

Best bit of advice I ever got was about the bonding Dusty when I was pregnant with DD. My friend said don't expect this rush of love etc, and I didn't . I still can't beleive that I'll be giving birth in over 3 weeks, god knows what I'll be like when he's plonked on me!

GarnetLady

I have a randomn Paternity leave question... Can DH work make him start Paternity leave before bump gets here? As in, they know my due date and book his time off for then with no flexibility.

hitchins

GarnetLady wrote: »

I have a randomn Paternity leave question... Can DH work make him start Paternity leave before bump gets here? As in, they know my due date and book his time off for then with no flexibility.

Hmm not sure, there is some good info here.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/parents/moneyandworkentitlements/parentalleaveandpay/dg_10029398

Rockinbikergal

GarnetLady wrote: »

I have a randomn Paternity leave question... Can DH work make him start Paternity leave before bump gets here? As in, they know my due date and book his time off for then with no flexibility.

if they are really being tetchy about the whole thing they can make him take it from your due date but if they are a nice bunch to work for then they will let him take it when bump arrives....my hubby's work is being flexible in that way but I know some places that aren't flexible at all....it's maybe something he should check with his HR dept if they have one xxxxx