MSE Pregnancy Club 21

galvanizersbaby

nic2075 wrote: »

GB Im dreading that feeling again. I thought it was the baby blues but it lasted for a long time. infact the feeling lasted form DD until DS then after for a while. ive only started feeling good in the last year or so.
I think what you just admitted about feeling DD was surplus to requirements is a hard thing to admit, but im sure a lot of us feel it. I struggled with DS a lot. He was a squealer! It sounded like a kettle whistling and Id swear he'd break glass one day lol. He was very difficult to settle compared to DD. I felt guilty about wishing he was different or not there at all .
But after I gave up BF and he started to sleep more and settled better thats when we bonded. He still has a very high pitched cry (seriously it hurts your ears) but Im so glad he is who he is.
Just shoes you how each baby is so different.

I know it's awful isn't it - I feel so bad about it
My life was just very difficult at that point and when she came along it made matters worse - not her fault of course.:o
Nowdays she is still a very demanding child but then again so was I apparently - my mum says she is a carbon copy of me and we clash a lot - I wouldn't change her for the world.
A midwife did tell me that having a section could make PND more likely apparently - but then again so can lots of other factors.
I am in a totally different place mind set wise this time around so have my fingers crossed but at least if I do start having those thoughts and feelings again I will recognise them and get help

madbird_2

Have Haribo crisis.....will be back later when replenished stocks!!

mrsspendalot

brednall wrote: »

[QUOTEIt certainly amused hubby!!! We've also decided now to find out whether we are having a footballer or ballet dancer .... find out on Monday!!! ]

I have my 20 week scan on Monday too and my husband is desparate to find out the sex but he won't make a prediction. My mum already thinks I'm having a boy this time but I don't feel any different to when I had my DD last year so we'll just have to wait and see.

Emma[/QUOTE]

Well he really didn't want to know, and I really wanted the surprise when I gave birth, but we have decided for practical reasons it is best to find out.

He thinks it's a girl, I hope it's a girl!

I felt that my early pregnancy sickness pattern was the same as I had my my DD, because I wasn't actually sick much - just nausea. With both my sons I was actually sick, a lot! I seem to carry my bumps the same regardless, so there is no telling that way!

2girlsforme

Hi Girls - just had a very brief lurk back - congrats to Chakani and Giz - well done :j:j

Just wanted to say to all you girls who are worrying about not bonding with the bump - I just had this conversation with DH this morning - I was really concerned about not 'liking' my baby before she was born - because she was not planned and had made me so ill and I also worried about resenting her for all that she had changed in my life - I also had not really taken it in that we were having a baby - but as soon as she was born and cried it all hit home! But do you know what - I LOVE my little girl now that she is here - it really is true about the whole loving them thing - there was no 'rush' of love but I would do anything for her! Helped hugely of course that she is so beautiful and has been such a good baby - in comparison to DD2 - scared I am tempting fate by saying that! Actually briefly felt sad this morning that she will be the last one! was brief though :rotfl:.

Lena is doing wonderfully well - she has fired on so much weight - was 8lb 2 yesterday - DH reckons it's gold top I am producing! Am being very good with my diet though and eating for Scotland!

janinie7 wrote: »

Good evening all! Havent had chance to catch up on the 20+ pages I have missed since last properly on here... been busy with work and sorting last minute things. Had a scan today to check baby position. Still breech and they have booked a c-section for next Tuesday, the 15th!!! Bit shellshocked at first but come round to it now, was offered the chance at going for breech birth but would have had to have a MRI scan before to check the size of my pelvis in relation to size of the head. They went through all the risks associated with both breech birth and c-section and we decided to go for the c-section for the health of the baby more than anything. Bit worried about it all but then I would be worried about a vaginal birth too no doubt... think its a time of worry generally (the unknown).

Janine - just wanted to say that this is what happened to me - and I was really scared about C-section - but do you know what - it really was not that bad! and then I feel really smug watching OBEM - :rotfl::rotfl:, would never have thought I would say that!

Got to go now - little person demanding attention! Good luck though to you all - and will still lurk randomly to check on you all - waiting patiently for you Hungrymummy!!

ticklepenny_2

Phew finally have cleared inbox lol.

Just eaten 2 Macdonalds double cheese burgers... 1 for me and 1 for baby I seem to have a craving for Beef. Last 2 days I have had pot roast beef and now cheese burgers...and planning cottage pie for tonight lol.

Apricot

Im impressed ema Im still formulating mine in my head before I put anything down in writing. I think my hospital plan will be pretty similar to yours except I want to include:
Vaginal exams to be kept to a minimum
I do not wish to have continuous monitoring unless it is essential
As few people as possible in the room
Lighting to be kept low (I don't even know if this is possible but hospital lights seem so bright)

galvanizersbaby

2girlsforme wrote: »

Hi Girls - just had a very brief lurk back - congrats to Chakani and Giz - well done :j:j

Just wanted to say to all you girls who are worrying about not bonding with the bump - I just had this conversation with DH this morning - I was really concerned about not 'liking' my baby before she was born - because she was not planned and had made me so ill and I also worried about resenting her for all that she had changed in my life - I also had not really taken it in that we were having a baby - but as soon as she was born and cried it all hit home! But do you know what - I LOVE my little girl now that she is here - it really is true about the whole loving them thing - there was no 'rush' of love but I would do anything for her! Helped hugely of course that she is so beautiful and has been such a good baby - in comparison to DD2 - scared I am tempting fate by saying that! Actually briefly felt sad this morning that she will be the last one! was brief though :rotfl:.

Lena is doing wonderfully well - she has fired on so much weight - was 8lb 2 yesterday - DH reckons it's gold top I am producing! Am being very good with my diet though and eating for Scotland!





Janine - just wanted to say that this is what happened to me - and I was really scared about C-section - but do you know what - it really was not that bad! and then I feel really smug watching OBEM - :rotfl::rotfl:, would never have thought I would say that!

Got to go now - little person demanding attention! Good luck though to you all - and will still lurk randomly to check on you all - waiting patiently for you Hungrymummy!!

I feel a bit bad watching the ladies on OBEM suffer in labour - especially that lady last night that wanted an epidural and then was too far gone for one, she seemed so frightened - I never had any of that - my experience of c section has been very calm but I guess both of mine have been planned.
It is painful afterwards and usually takes longer to recover than a natural birth for most women but it doesn't feel like much compared to what some of the ladies have to go through - hats off to them!

Teenie_D

ema_o wrote: »

Ideal Birth Scenario

Active labour – I want to move around / try positions that help me cope with labour.
Labour in pool
Water birth

Pain relief – TENS
- Gas & Air

I expect to cope better in a calm environment.
If I need instructions (eg when to push) please could just one person give them.

I would prefer to be left alone with partner & baby for a time straight after the birth (1 hour).

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I do not want forcepts
I do not want to labour / give birth on my back or sitting up in bed. Please encourage me to lie on my side if I am unable to be more upright.
I am aware of other pain relief available – please do not offer anything unless I ask for it.
I do not want an episiotomy unless I am consulted and it is the best option.

I am happy for 1 student to observe only and only if they are able to maintain the calm environment.

I don’t think I want the injection for the placenta (discussing with MW today).
Please keep me informed about what you are doing (any procedures etc).
Please do not tell me something is going to really hurt!! (from watching OBEM - I definitely do not want to be expecting something to really hurt!!)

This is a really good birth plan, I think I might pinch some of it just 'cause I'm too lazy to do my own :D There are lots of things I don't want either but I think you do have to keep an open mind and be sensible and aware of any scenario. I doubt however they will ask about a birth plan, they didn't the last time!

Arggh I'm starting to get a headache grrrr not had one of those for a while, hope I have some paracetamol in my bag!!

annibee

madbird wrote: »

Ladies, can I suggest that nobody talks about the Facebook thing and Facebook in general. We've a reminder about exchanging personal info at the top of this forum. I don't want this thread being closed as its wonderful source of information and comfort.

Goes back to bag of Haribo...large bag at that.

I dont think anyones put too much personal info mb and if the thread was closed I think it would be a shame as it would in fact be a result of someone having a huff about everything that went on in a certain group.

For the record - On the front page of the thread I joined it said to join the mse group message sammibee (or however you spell it) I thought that was in fact the group I had joined, it is apparent from the issues someone has raised about things being mentioned and apparently that group is and never has been mentioned on either this thread or the parents thread (apparently) so that cant be the group I intended to join thats obviously just one for the admins and their mates presumably that we have somehow got our wires mixed and crashed.

Im bored of all this nonsense anyway its just a you / us atmosphere that really is pathetic.
That is all

annibee

Right back to business and the reason Im in this thread.

Went to tesco and had bad bh all the way around....... have stocked up on chocolate, biscuits AND haribo so feel surprisingly much better lol!

Is the weather good everywhere? Its lovely here today sunny and breezy so just right . There was nothing particulary interesting in the Mr T baby section so no bargains to report on Im afraid.

Have to buy a new fridge today as ours really is knackered! Sounds like a bloomin plane and is not cold in the fridge and too cold in the freezer lol