MSE Pregnancy Club 21

Rockinbikergal

madbird wrote: »

Baby going mad at Haribo!

LMAO Sugar russsssssssh lol

mrsspendalot

Just had a bath and saw my belly moving!!!!!

nic2075

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Just had a bath and saw my belly moving!!!!!

its weird isnt it? but a great feeling too. I love putting the sky remote in it and watch it dance about.

mrsspendalot

It certainly amused hubby!!! We've also decided now to find out whether we are having a footballer or ballet dancer .... find out on Monday!!!

Perdi

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Hugs Dusty

From memory I think having your first is pretty scary - I hated being pregnant both times I'm sorry to say - hated getting fat - hated people commenting all the time and trying to touch my bump - just hated the whole experience - I found out the sex of both of my children as I found it helped a bit to name and bond before birth.

That's why I wanted to find out the flavour, but the stubborn little thing wouldn't give I'm surprised how chilled I am about not finding out though. Giving them a silly nickname helped I think.

Talking about things that we think we shouldn't be feeling really does help. When I finally told OH how I was feeling I was really scared to admit to being so icked by being pregnant, I thought he'd be shocked but he essentially just shrugged and said 'well sure you will, it's a massive change ot your body'. He was so matter of fact about it, and made me feel daft for getting so worked up and guilty about it, it was a huge weight off my shoulders.

I'm being virtuos atm, I used the code from the mse email to sign up to graze.com and get a free box, so I'm snacking on black pepper cashew nuts and lemon infused raisins mmmmmmmm

ticklepenny_2

dustystar02 wrote: »

Does anyone else feel this way? I think maybe because i've had such a good pregnancy that I still feel detached but I don't know.....

I dont get attached to the bump, also having had a Csection with DD I didnt get a "rush" of love. I did get the "Wow thats my baby! Thats not just a baby its my baby!" And I grew to love her over the next few days.

I think pregnancy is such a varied thing there is just one way that we are all supposed to feel however we do feel guilty if we have thoughts that dont fit in with how we perceive we should feel IYKWIM. I will say that if you are worried and it is getting to you just have a word with your MW thats what they are there for (even the smelly ones)

DueMarch11

I dont mind admitting that I didnt get a rush of love with DD either, normal pregnancy, labour and birth etc but when they plonked her on me I was a bit like 'hmm, its a girl and she is covered in muck'

When we got home it took a few weeks to realise that I did love her but I wasnt in love with her straight away. Now I would die for her though, so obviously it does come.

Im expecting to be the same this time around too, Ive not really bonded with the bump, I do have the odd moment of 'Oh it'll be nice to have a little baby again' but if Im completely honest Im not majorly excited but Im sure that by the time baby is 6 weeks old or so I wont be able to imagine life without him or her. Ive been assured there is enough love for them both lol!

Teenie_D

Nic you very wise woman I think you have totally hit the nail on the head, i really don't think she is 100% yet and she seems to be getting yet another cold, maybe she just needs a wee break. And like yours, she was just staring at me yesterday with these really sad wee eyes and looking so forlorn....my heart just broke (hormones!!!). She already says "I'm a big sister" and I'll say yes you will be and you are going to be a very special big sister and we can go walks with our buggies etc, but I don't want to push it too much iyswim??

She has been going to daycare since she was 18 months so I don't think it's that and she loves the "school" bit, but her carers have recently changed and anything like this I suppose can unsettle them. I will speak to them anyway and see how she was but tbh I'm sure she will be fine and dandy LOL.

Ladies who have not yet had a child........the worrying just gets worse LOL

Dusty hugs honey, I think it probably is normal to feel the way you are feeling. If I'm honest my feelings for this wee one is a bit stronger than it was with DD when i was pregnant with her, but as soon as she was born I did love her. You don't have the same "pressure" second time round, I very rarely have anyone asking me aobut my pregnancy, and that actually suits me just fine. You'll be fine

Like DM said and in my experience the love grows stronger, I'm not sure if this will sound stupid but the love I feel for toots is 1000 % more than when she was a baby but I did love her then and didn't think I could love her anymore. Not sure if that sounds right or not sorry.

Nic toast and nutella :drool: I wish I could stop feeling so hungry!!

RBG I hope you really are resting today.

Lilian thanks for that will have a look now, not bought any yet but if it's on a good offer may as well stock up!

brednall

[QUOTEIt certainly amused hubby!!! We've also decided now to find out whether we are having a footballer or ballet dancer .... find out on Monday!!! ][/QUOTE]

I have my 20 week scan on Monday too and my husband is desparate to find out the sex but he won't make a prediction. My mum already thinks I'm having a boy this time but I don't feel any different to when I had my DD last year so we'll just have to wait and see.

Emma

ema_o

Hey peeps & bumps

Sorry not time to read back properly - missed the drama last night but did have a message asking me if I wanted to still be in it. Upset to hear some of you have been removed and that there was drama tho

Have MW today and going to discuss my birthing plan, just though I'd be cheeky and post it now in case it is useful to anyone, or in case anyone thinks I'm being unrealistic with anything. Did LOL at the comment about adding "if you give me an episiotomy without my written conset I will sue" especially in very small print at the bottom!

Hope everyone's doing okay, will probably catch up properly this evening but :wave: and :grouphug:dodgy hugs for now

xx


Ideal Birth Scenario

Active labour – I want to move around / try positions that help me cope with labour.
Labour in pool
Water birth

Pain relief – TENS
- Gas & Air

I expect to cope better in a calm environment.
If I need instructions (eg when to push) please could just one person give them.

I would prefer to be left alone with partner & baby for a time straight after the birth (1 hour).

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I do not want forcepts
I do not want to labour / give birth on my back or sitting up in bed. Please encourage me to lie on my side if I am unable to be more upright.
I am aware of other pain relief available – please do not offer anything unless I ask for it.
I do not want an episiotomy unless I am consulted and it is the best option.

I am happy for 1 student to observe only and only if they are able to maintain the calm environment.

I don’t think I want the injection for the placenta (discussing with MW today).
Please keep me informed about what you are doing (any procedures etc).
Please do not tell me something is going to really hurt!! (from watching OBEM - I definitely do not want to be expecting something to really hurt!!)