MSE Pregnancy Club 21

ticklepenny_2

nic2075 wrote: »

Ive just checked again on the PC (not my phone) and i definently cant see the group. i didnt leave as I had posted and thought I would be allowed to stay and do so.

Im really not that bothered. i was this morning as i felt a bit rejected lol.
i just thought id mention as you thought no one had been chooped. Unless something else has happenned. but I could see all the posts last night at 10 pm when I went to bed and this morning its as if it doesnt exsist.

I got chopped too, no message just can no longer see the group. Fair dinkum though I didnt post there.


RBG.....I would send some if baby didnt want to consume them all within moments of them escaping the oven

Apricot

I really like the flower on that one. I looked at the sola but my car boot is quite small and folded it was quite big - I think it would have fitted but it seemed a bit awkward which is why I preferred the spotty one. Saying that, by the time we get around to buying it I might have changed my mind!

nic2075

Teenie, my Dd is definently a lot more emotional than my DS. She sometimes has this wee sad face and looks so depressed looking off into space, it breaks my heart.
Usually she is tired or not feeling 100% and she cries at everything. Who knows what goes their wee heads. i was very careful when i was pg with DS. There is 22 months between them and I felt DD was still so young and didnt understand what was happening. I tried to talk about the baby with her a lot, but made her feel like the big sister and that would she be able to help me? She loved it then and is looking forward again to all the responsibility.
They must realise now and again that someone else is about to invade the family and take mummy and daddies attention. I would just keep reasurring her, plan some big sister tasks for her to do when the baby comes and keep doing things with her to make her feel special. I know you do that already though.

Maybe shes just not gotten over that virus she had. At that age everything just seems too much sometimes. Hope she perks up soon.

LabLover

Im hoping to stay team yellow, thats why Il try not to look too much. Apricot when I went to the pram shop the other week there was a very harrassed husband trying to quickly pay for a pram and kept dropping his card he was like "I need to pay for this quickly incase she changes her mind AGAIN, im so fed up , they all look the same " lol

dustystar02

Ok ladies, bit of a deep post coming up............

My mum has just rang me to tell me about some knitting she is doing and how one of her friends has knitted us a blanket too, she is so excited.....and I honestly do not care.

I'm so daunted by it all and baby stuff is ALL anyone wants to talk to me about. I'm not excited in the slightest about this baby, I don’t think I love him/her yet, and it is worrying me how unbothered/uninterested I am about it all. I'm excited about doing the nursery because I love designing rooms, it could be our bedroom it wouldn't matter.

I'm putting it all down to the fact that at the back of my mind is always the slight worry there'll be something wrong with the baby and because of that I'm subconsciously stopping/protecting myself from getting too excited, but I don’t know if it is that or if I'm genuinely not happy about it.

I'm worried I'll be like this when baby comes and just wont care about them. I'm expecting this massive rush of love and bonding when I first hold the baby (even though i've been warned that may not happen) and if it doesn’t happen then I'll be devastated. I honestly don't care what people have bought us and what they are knitting (sorry if that makes me sound ungrateful) but it just feels like it is happening to someone else and I have no interest in it.

Does anyone else feel this way? I think maybe because i've had such a good pregnancy that I still feel detached but I don't know.....

LabLover

Im a bit like that Dusty. I recoiled in horror when my mum lifted my top to see my belly last weekend and I wish people would stop saying "How you getting on " or "How you feeling" when I bump into them instead of just saying hello. I feel detached from the whole thing , but Im forcing myself to get through it in my own way. Ive ordered bits and pieces that people have told me I wont need because I want my baby to have them. Im just alot slower at coming round to the idea that Im going to be a mum.

hngrymummy

dustystar02 wrote: »

Does anyone else feel this way? I think maybe because i've had such a good pregnancy that I still feel detached but I don't know.....

Me. I know I said I wouldn't post. But I think this is fair enough.

I put on an 'excited' face and tone when people ask if I'm excited, but I'm not really. I think it's because I had such a rubbish time of things with the MS. I feel very detatched at times. I liked going to the scans and listening to sproglet's heartbeat, but never got excited, thrilled, or cried. It was just 'nice'

So you're not alone. I think it's far more common than most people realise!

GarnetLady

Oh Dusty, have a hug.

I think it's probably your minds way of protecting itself tbh. Doesn't mean you're not going to love the baby when it come along though. I don't always feel a massive bond with the bump either. If you're really worried about it though maybe have a chat with the midwife next time?

(This isn't the same but... I was always desperate for a baby when I was younger, soo broody. then it looked like there might be a problem and that it might never happen. Instead of turning into a wreck that got upset every month I went the other way, wasn't sure I even wanted a baby at all, ever! It was just my minds way of protecting itself.)

nic2075

dustystar02 wrote: »

Ok ladies, bit of a deep post coming up............

My mum has just rang me to tell me about some knitting she is doing and how one of her friends has knitted us a blanket too, she is so excited.....and I honestly do not care.

I'm so daunted by it all and baby stuff is ALL anyone wants to talk to me about. I'm not excited in the slightest about this baby, I don’t think I love him/her yet, and it is worrying me how unbothered/uninterested I am about it all. I'm excited about doing the nursery because I love designing rooms, it could be our bedroom it wouldn't matter.

I'm putting it all down to the fact that at the back of my mind is always the slight worry there'll be something wrong with the baby and because of that I'm subconsciously stopping/protecting myself from getting too excited, but I don’t know if it is that or if I'm genuinely not happy about it.

I'm worried I'll be like this when baby comes and just wont care about them. I'm expecting this massive rush of love and bonding when I first hold the baby (even though i've been warned that may not happen) and if it doesn’t happen then I'll be devastated. I honestly don't care what people have bought us and what they are knitting (sorry if that makes me sound ungrateful) but it just feels like it is happening to someone else and I have no interest in it.

Does anyone else feel this way? I think maybe because i've had such a good pregnancy that I still feel detached but I don't know.....

Aww Dusty, i feel like that and this is my third. I think youve hit the nail on the head with saying you are protecting yourself from being hurt. Theres no point in us saying dont worry the baby will be fine. You know it will but you will never stop worrying.
I always find something new to worry about, whether its about DD fitting in at school, are eating healthy enough, what if theres a fire, how will we get out etc. You never stop.
But thats only because you love them so much. I felt nothing towards DD or DS at all when pregnant, but I felt the huge rush with DD. But with DS it took several weeks for us to bond. but now I could carry him about all day and nibble his cute little cheeks.

I get the odd moment now that i cant wait to meet this baby, but most days I forget im pregnant and dont think about the baby at all. I guess as its my 3rd no one really talks about the baby that much like they do with your first.
Dont feel guilty, I think you sound perfectly normal. its had to feel connected to someone you havent met yet. im sure you will get that rush of love when bubs is born. it takes time to adjust after that too. This person youve been waiting for 9 months comes in and turns your life on its head. But after a fw weeks you get it sussed, get to know this little person and you start to bond properly. its like any relationship. it may be love at first site but you have to get to know each other.

GarnetLady

Tickle, your PM box is full funnily enough.