MSE Pregnancy Club 21

Perdi

dusty *hugs*. I don't think you're alone, everyone reacts differently.
The thought of nappies and blankets and clothes just causes my brain to shut down, it's all so confusing. I still don't think I've made the mental connection between the little one I see on the screen actually being inside me, probably why I feel queasy sometimes when people talk about my bump.
Don't beat yourself up about it x

hngrymummy - your TMI post made me laugh, pg+IBS=really bunged up for me. Sometimes when I come out the bathroom I have to stop myself from cheering.:rotfl:

Charlie - at least yours offer to empty it out for you, mine just screw the lid back on and give it back :eek:And I usually forget to empty it when I get home.:o

galvanizersbaby

Hugs Dusty

From memory I think having your first is pretty scary - I hated being pregnant both times I'm sorry to say - hated getting fat - hated people commenting all the time and trying to touch my bump - just hated the whole experience - I found out the sex of both of my children as I found it helped a bit to name and bond before birth.
I had a miscarriage before DS (found out at 12 week scan) and was terrified something would go wrong so I had I had a touch of self preservation going on.
When DS was born I did feel the rush of love that people talk about - I just thought I was the luckiest woman alive
However soon after the birth I suffered PND (I now recognise that my feelings at the time had a lot to do with how my marriage was) but I ended up having a tough time.
With DD she was totally unplanned and again I didn't feel that interested throughout the pregnancy - it took longer to bond with DD - she was a demanding child (still is, lol!) and I'm afraid to say there were times during the early days that I felt she was surplus to requirements again the PND kicked in and I was divorced by the time she was 18 months.
With this baby I am trying to enjoy every minute of it cos it will be my last pregnancy - but I am so worried and anxious all the time I know I am trying not to hope for too much.

Just go with the flow - try not to worry about not being excited or bonding - just take each day as it comes - you will be fine

madbird_2

Ladies, can I suggest that nobody talks about the Facebook thing and Facebook in general. We've a reminder about exchanging personal info at the top of this forum. I don't want this thread being closed as its wonderful source of information and comfort.

Goes back to bag of Haribo...large bag at that.

nic2075

GB Im dreading that feeling again. I thought it was the baby blues but it lasted for a long time. infact the feeling lasted form DD until DS then after for a while. ive only started feeling good in the last year or so.
I think what you just admitted about feeling DD was surplus to requirements is a hard thing to admit, but im sure a lot of us feel it. I struggled with DS a lot. He was a squealer! It sounded like a kettle whistling and Id swear he'd break glass one day lol. He was very difficult to settle compared to DD. I felt guilty about wishing he was different or not there at all .
But after I gave up BF and he started to sleep more and settled better thats when we bonded. He still has a very high pitched cry (seriously it hurts your ears) but Im so glad he is who he is.
Just shoes you how each baby is so different.

nic2075

madbird wrote: »

Goes back to bag of Haribo...large bag at that.

Ive just munched 4 slices of toast and Nutella :cool: i feel a bit sick now.

babyboysmommy

Thankfully DS is a lot better today. Not quite well enough for school so he's home & wanting attention just as I'm ready to collapse. I was up in the night with him again last night, so tired. He will be back at school tomorrow & I'll be having a long nap! LOL I've not watched OBEM yet, will watch it later with DH. Been baking this morning & now my SPD is playing up, at least we have some yummy things to eat

Rockinbikergal

nic2075 wrote: »

Ive just munched 4 slices of toast and Nutella :cool: i feel a bit sick now.

I've just had some toast too and hubby is coming home to make me soup for lunch woot woot lol

am watching last night's OBEM (with my feet up, lol)

lilian1977

£5 off a £5.01 spend at Holland and Barrett, £1.99 delivery so really saving £3.01 - buy one get one half price on raspberry leaf tea so I thought I'd share!

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3037674

Krystaltips

Ooh thanks Lilian, I need some more

madbird_2

Baby going mad at Haribo!