MSE Pregnancy Club 21

galvanizersbaby

Congrats to all the new mummies x

Labour vibes to the boldies - hugs to Teenie never been in that position myself but can imagine how rubbish you must be feeling.

I am now counting down the days till I go off on maternity leave - last day is 27th May :j
I am moving house on the 20th May so flying by the seat of my pants!

Just trying to finish up buying the last bits on my baby shopping list while Boots have their 3 for 2 offer on.

Charlie1978

Teenie_D wrote: »

Morning ladies

Firstly massive congratulations again Nic, well done hunni gorgeous!:j

Debs so excited for your scan tomorrow it feels like it has come round quickly!:)

And as you can see I'm still here looks like this baby is being forced out tomorrow and if I'm honest I am completely devastated about it, this was the first thing I said when as soon as I spoke to my midwife and consultant, that I wanted to avoid as much as possible. unfortunately he/she has to come out one way or another and yes I suppose I could ask them to put it off but I think that is just proloning the stress of it all.

Most of you probably think what's the big deal, but to me it is a big thing, not only because what I went through with DD but I really wanted to experience the whole labour thing from the first twinge and the "oooh is this it or not" to deciding when to go up to hospital etc etc and this is definately my last so will never get a chance again, I am scared about it not working again, I am scared that I am going to be in hospital for days on end again, I am scared that my waters wont break and the gel wont work and I will end up being put on the drip ... in fact that would be the worst case scenario, and most of all if it doesn't work I don't want to leave my DD for days on end!

I know by tomorrow or Thursday (or dare I even think it Friday!!) I will have my gorgeous baby and it will all have been worth it but at the moment I am just gutted.

Sorry for that woe is me post, I really needed to get that out

I kinda know where you are coming from hun. I was fully prepared for my C Section, knew it was going to hurt and the epidural was going to be a nightmare due to back problems but I really really wanted to avoid having to have a GA. It was the only thing I actually didn't want having done. I'd have gone through all the pain in the world to avoid it and at the time it felt like I had. I had a plan:

1) Deal with all the prodding and poking beforehand. Needles, blood taking whatever. Get that out of the way.
2)Deal with the anaesthetic pain in the back
3) Deal with the epidural pain in the back

Once i'd gotten those 3 steps out of the way I pretty much thought that was my job done and I could take a chill pill and leave them to it. Mentally that took a lot of preparation and then on the day I was cacking it. Everything then happened very quickly and before I knew it I was in the theatre and it was all about to start. It was very emotional but I got through my 3 steps successfully. Or so I thought!

Half an hour later the epidural hadn't worked and I was told they could top it up and we could give it a bit longer. I said ok was ready for more pain and then another doctor came over and said well actually more epidural wouldn't make a blind bit of difference and that they would have to give me the GA after all.

Gutted doesn't even describe it. I broke down completely and I think it's going to take quite a while not to feel resentment about it all. Even though I now have my beautiful baby boy and he's so worth all of it, I hate the fact that I missed the first few hours of his life. I missed that first look between his dad and him and I missed the skin to skin contact. In fact, I was pretty much out of it for most of the day. Memories that I can't get back

But... onwards and upwards. I'll have other memories to treasure and lots of cuddles to look forward to and I will have to deal with that and move on.

Hugs hun. x

twi1ight

Clarieloo - my boss kindly pointed out I'm "ballooning" this morning. I'm 22 weeks

Good luck with the scans puzzled and ddebski.

madbird_2

fantafan wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek:6 days to go and I'm top of the list excl boldies. Why does it feel like 10 minutes ago I was adding myself to the bottom?:eek::eek::eek:

:D:D:D:D Top of list :D:D:D:D I remember your BFP as well! What a journey! Good luck hun xxx


Lovely news re BBM and Alfred, have been thinking about them

Hugs Teenie xxx

twi1ight

Oh yeah, I've found my aversion to baby shopping was a good thing. I've been given SOOOO much stuff including bagfuls of baby boy 0-12 months clothes and an electric pump and bottles, play mat/gym, swing. With Moses basket and (hopefully) bedding to come from family I think I'll probably just need a new basket mattress and a pram + carseat (which in-laws have offered to buy). Then cot at some point.

I need curtains + pole and some shelves for the spare room/nursery and most of all need to have a gigantic clear out to make way for all these donations.

mrsspendalot

Just had a phone call from my GP regarding my rhesus blood antibodies.

She has put my mind at ease for now - I do love my Dr.

The blood results that have come back from the additional test show the levels are low at 1 (even though the initial test showed 4.2) so for now they are low enough to not really be worried about. I guess the test they sent my sample away for is far more accurate. She said if they go over 4 they will feel more concerned - so I hope the initial test was inaccurate at 4.2. I have to have fortnightly blood tests now until delivery to check my antibody levels. She said they would probably want to test hubby, but I told her we knew he was O+ because he asked last week, so she said they may still want to test anyway, but the fact that he is + means the baby is more than likely to be positive anyway.

She said if my levels remain under 4 it is unlikely to be problematic at all, and there should be no real reason for me not to be able to deliver at the local hospital. I should expect to remain in hospital until the baby's blood has been tested at birth and the results have come back, and then it will depend on how jaundiced he is and whether he needs any treatment, which at this stage obviously they can't tell. I can't deliver on the midwife led unit, and will have to see the consultant now for the rest of my pregnancy. I'm waiting for the appointment to drop on the doormat.

She said I've got to pick a card up from the surgery reception to carry around with me that states what antibodies I have etc in case I have an accident in the future and need any blood. She's left an information leaflet for me too. I see the midwife on Thursday anyway, so will have my bloods done then. She said that as I am so adamant this is my last pregnancy, it isn't as much of a concern as the effects and risk would be worse for future pregnancies.

8 weeks and 4 days left until D Day

pigpen

I have a card with mine on too.. it is just like a floppy credit card or the exemption card so nothing exciting.

Glad you are feeing happier about it.. these things aren't usually worth worrying about..

I am supposed to be going for my bloods again tomorrow.. note the 'supposed'

delain

I was supposed to have a blood test ages ago... I didn't, and I know my iron levels will be low, that's why I haven't gone. I don't want to end up back in hospital

hngrymummy

pigpen wrote: »

Actually it does matter how they got here more than anything. I've had PTSD twice brought on by mismanagement of births. It is very very traumatic for things to be out of your control and not what you want.

Teenie.. I know you want the baby out but I would seriously discuss this induction with someone before it happens. I am concerned you are setting yourself up for PND and unwanted intervention.. have you heard the term birth rape? Look it up.. I don't do worry or concern about people who are not important and I am actually very concerned about you here.. 42 weeks is the upper end of term and NORMAL it is only the medical profession here who think it isn't.. and they know diddly!

I was given a sweep without permission while I was being examined. I wouldn't class it as 'rape' though. More a MW not listening to me and thinking that she knows best. I had a different MW for the birth, and I was quite happy to submit to her judgement regarding examinations etc. I trusted her, and she knew what she was doing. There were times when I wasn't entirely happy with what was going on at the time, but that's because I was in labour and in pain. My brain wasn't functioning in it's normal way. Afterwards I could see that what was done was best for me, and more importantly for my baby.

I do think that 'rape' is too strong a word to be honest, especially having read this http://bigthink.com/ideas/23964
Are we traumatising women even further by making them think that they've been raped?

pigpen

delain wrote: »

I was supposed to have a blood test ages ago... I didn't, and I know my iron levels will be low, that's why I haven't gone. I don't want to end up back in hospital

LOL.. you know what my response to a hospital visit would be!

hngrymummy wrote: »

I was given a sweep without permission while I was being examined. I wouldn't class it as 'rape' though. More a MW not listening to me and thinking that she knows best. I had a different MW for the birth, and I was quite happy to submit to her judgement regarding examinations etc. I trusted her, and she knew what she was doing. There were times when I wasn't entirely happy with what was going on at the time, but that's because I was in labour and in pain. My brain wasn't functioning in it's normal way. Afterwards I could see that what was done was best for me, and more importantly for my baby.

I do think that 'rape' is too strong a word to be honest, especially having read this http://bigthink.com/ideas/23964
Are we traumatising women even further by making them think that they've been raped?

It is 'being assaulted/penetrated without consent that gives it the 'rape' term.. and until it is taken that seriously medical staff will think it is ok