MSE Pregnancy Club 21

Doglover

Evening ladies, congrats GFH and enjoy tomoz Wendz!

Talking of counting down the days I've got my 20 wk scan tomorrow and I'm petrified!! I hope to be back with a good report then.

pigpen

Pixiepops wrote: »

You may not be aware of this, but you can do self-referral to a lot of different mental health organisations in the UK. Also, counselling and therapy lasts a number of weeks and so, if there really is an issue that is down to her mental health (as you believe) then it would eventually present itself. Self-referral is what many people do when their GP doesn't refer them. You can also get private therapy, which does cost money, but if the issues are as bad as you say then maybe it would be an option for you.

We do have the info for RAPPS (childrens counselling) but she refused to go.. I have asked her a few times and the school nurse spoke o her about it a couple of times and she says to here she doesn't want to go as well.. I even tried bribery to get her to go.. that didn't work either.

We had a few sessions with the interagency link team (since disbanded) who said the family as a unit is managing fine, the children are well cared for and provided for and there are no issues there and there was nothing they felt they could offer, they didn't look at her individually which was what I had agreed to.. The rest of them are being seen by the various relevant person and are sorted as they can be it is just her ongoing issues we are struggling to get anywhere with. If she was overweight, which she probably would be if she didn't do football and dance and netball several times a week, they would be bouncing on my head.

The SENco is trying to get the ed psych to see her again but as she isn't struggling academically he is being difficult about it... but even if we had his backing to get her a referral to someone else it might help. CAMHS did one 30 minute assessment.. that wasn't beneficial to anyone.. even I can be nice for half an hour

madnessandmayhem

wendz86 wrote: »

Not a pointless post madness! Hope your last two weeks go OK!

I only work part time, so not too bad, although i do still have 'mum' things to do-school run etc, but my 'work' hours are in the evening and i am thinking i'm going to struggle!!! but at least it's not long left!!

madbird_2

Pigpen - can I ask is DD in a mainstream school or could there be a better educational centre for her. I just ask as a DS of a friend of mine was moved from mainstream to a special school and has since flourished as he was getting the help he needed.

pigpen

madbird wrote: »

Pigpen - can I ask is DD in a mainstream school or could there be a better educational centre for her. I just ask as a DS of a friend of mine was moved from mainstream to a special school and has since flourished as he was getting the help he needed.

she is in mainstream and is doing well with her school work.. she is average which is plenty good enough for me and she tries hard. It seems to be behavioural, emotional and social situations she lacks control in.

sharkeybabe

pigpen wrote: »

You mean my children that wouldn't dare utter a profanity?

Where is your evidence my children are neglected? The SW who visited last summer seemed to think they were more than adequeately provided for and cared for.. would you care to take it up with them? (I did, I demanded they change 90% of it and get names correct)
Or maybe anyone else who does actually have some kind of clue about my children.. ooh.. I can give you my mother number.. she isn't talking to me at the moment so she'd love some reason to b!tch about me so I'm sure if you have an axe to grind she will help..



thanks chuck..



They are cared for adequately and how dare you even suggest otherwise.. what an ignorant and totally unjustified thing to say.. you have no idea who well cared for my children are.. or not.. but they are.. I challenge you to find better cared for children.. i amost was going to qualify myself but it is such a ludicrous remark I shall laugh at your stupidity and ignore you

Let's hope you just stick with 1

So many jealous people.Seriously.. if you think you can do a better job.. come try it.

Why are you all convinced my daughter has nothin wrong with her because she is 1 of a brood rather than a single child.

If i just had her would you all be so quick to judge?

DD4's consultant tried telling me I was neurotic because I insisted there was something wrong with her... turned out.. mrs 'lack of care mother' here had pinpointed she had cerebral palsy 5.5 YEARS before the doctors acknowledged it.. and I picked up DS2's problems 4 years before anyone else.. despite them both being seen every 3-6 months the entire time. It took them 18 months to diagnose DD1's hip dysplasia after me taking her to docs and HV every other week saying it wasn't right.. 90% of children with disabilities are first highlighted as having problems not by doctors or nurses or teachers but by their parents. (KIDs surveys 2006) I am currently watching DD1 for signs of thyroid problems being aware of other issues she has, and DS1 for depression and getting DD4 started on growth hormone replacement..

So I am telling you, same as I told the docs and everyone else.. Whether you or I or anyone else likes it or not something is not right with this girl.. as sad as it is, it is true. It isn't in my head.. it is in hers and we will, one day, get to the bottom of it.. though she may be 90 lol

Maybe you should head the same advice rather than taking benefts from the goernment to care for your brood. I never asked for you to have 9 children. I think you should have a bit of empathy towards your daughter maybe she would respond to you.

Regardless of your child's problems maybe a wee bit more mummy's attention would be more beneficial rather that sitting on an internet forum discussing your child "supposed" problems, you should maybe address professional help for her.

nic2075

hope your scan goes well tomorrow Doglover. are you going to find out the sex?

Teenie_D

pigpen wrote: »

Why are you all convinced my daughter has nothin wrong with her because she is 1 of a brood rather than a single child.

If i just had her would you all be so quick to judge?

DD4's consultant tried telling me I was neurotic because I insisted there was something wrong with her... turned out.. mrs 'lack of care mother' here had pinpointed she had cerebral palsy 5.5 YEARS before the doctors acknowledged it.. and I picked up DS2's problems 4 years before anyone else.. despite them both being seen every 3-6 months the entire time. It took them 18 months to diagnose DD1's hip dysplasia after me taking her to docs and HV every other week saying it wasn't right.. 90% of children with disabilities are first highlighted as having problems not by doctors or nurses or teachers but by their parents. (KIDs surveys 2006) I am currently watching DD1 for signs of thyroid problems being aware of other issues she has, and DS1 for depression and getting DD4 started on growth hormone replacement..

To be fair I don't think anyone is suggesting that there is nothing wrong with your daughter, nobody would want that or wish it on anyone else and I do hope you get the answers you are after, it must be very hard on you . I think though what a lot of us can't understand is the way you talk about your children on these forums, maybe they are terms of endearment to you but for others they come across as being very harsh.

I think as well people really don't understand why you do keep having children, especially when you have mentioned the above problems with your other children. You have mentioned a number of times the problems you have in pregnancy, so why put both yourself and your children through that? I understand that with your last pregnancy you were very, very poorly what would have happened to your children if anything happened to you and why are you putting yourself at risk again? Obviously this is your choice and you are not answerable to anyone and to be fair it's none of our business really but personally it's not something I can really understand.

pigpen

sharkeybabe wrote: »

Maybe you should head the same advice rather than taking benefts from the goernment to care for your brood. I never asked for you to have 9 children. I think you should have a bit of empathy towards your daughter maybe she would respond to you.

Regardless of your child's problems maybe a wee bit more mummy's attention would be more beneficial rather that sitting on an internet forum discussing your child "supposed" problems, you should maybe address professional help for her.

Have you actually read any of my posts? Clearly not...

I, being a decent parent, have my daughter in bed where she has been for the last hour.. as is proper.

I never asked you to look after my children, when I do, then you may complain, until then I suggest you mind your own uninformed bigotted business... and rememer it is them who will be paying your health care and pension when you are old and coffin dodging

madbird_2

pigpen wrote: »

she is in mainstream and is doing well with her school work.. she is average which is plenty good enough for me and she tries hard. It seems to be behavioural, emotional and social situations she lacks control in.

Has an alternative been discussed, if she tries hard then maybe she'd do even better with the other issues being addressed at the same time by people who can give the attention and support she needs. She can't be that much of a !!!!!! if she is bothered to try hard and is doing well. As a teacher my brother always says he will help those who may not be the brightest but are willing to learn and get on.

To be honest with you I think your descriptives of your children is what upsets people here most and the manor in which you say you deal with them. You've called your youngest a little git at times which in my opinion isn't a nice way to speak about a 7 month old who can't know any better. May be "playing up" would be a better phrase. I know its an anonymous forum for you to offload on but sometimes there is a time and a place and all that....