MSE Pregnancy Club 21

sharkeybabe

madnessandmayhem wrote: »

haven't read through all the replies regarding pigpen, but surely it's better that she vents her frustrations at not being able to snap her fingers and magic her dd's problems away, here, to strangers rather than her family, in particular her daughter. I for one know I woould not be ble to cope with what pigpen does.
It is hard when your children aren't behaving the same as everyone else, and it can be a long road to get them the help and support they need. I don't think pigpen has mentioned anywhere that she doesn't love or want ANY of her children-when I say i could quite happily have left ds 1 at school, I don't MEAN it-it's just frustration at his attitude and behaviour sometimes when he gets home and is tired and ratty.
Funny thing is though, when ds 1 was a teeny baby who didn't answer back or misbehave I would probably have reacted in the same way as a lot of the posters on here..........
Perhaps unless we have walked a mile in pigpens shoes, we should cut her a bit of slack and let her continue to vent all she needs to keep herself sane!

Maybe PP shouldnt have concentrated on the small amount of children that she had before adding more to her brood. No1 asked her to have 9 children and if she had them then she should be able to care fore them adequetley.

madnessandmayhem

leandygandy wrote: »

I have a general pregnancy question.

This is my first baby (I'm 14+3) and I want to know when the panic/anxiety stops?!

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I don't think it ever does lol even when they are here!!! Thats it now......a lifetime of worrying i'm preg with no 3 and I still worry about ds 1 and ds 2 lol xxx congratulations by the way! x

gratefulforhelp_2

Princess_Coupon wrote: »

Congratulations GFH I am about to read your birth story.
But what about Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee;) I thought we were going to suffer together, you've left me! even worse you've left me with bickerers!

Sorry hon, that's rubbish I know. x

leandygandy wrote: »

I have a general pregnancy question.

This is my first baby (I'm 14+3) and I want to know when the panic/anxiety stops?!

This is a much wanted child and we have been fortunate enough to not experience any miscarriages in the past, and for the first 12 weeks I held my breath, thinking 'I just have to make it to the scan and once I see everything is ok, I'll stop worrying'. Well, I'm still worrying!

Now it's 'well if I can make it to the 20 week scan, I'll stop worrying' but no doubt that'll be followed by 'if I can make it to 23 weeks' and then 'if I can make it to term'.

Please tell me this anxiety will ease off, I think I may go crazy with irrational fear otherwise!!!

You will learn to live with it, it goes maybe when they turn 21?? xxx

madnessandmayhem

madbird wrote: »

Pregnancy is great for blaming everything on....eating doughnuts, McDonalds etc etc! You still count every day and week,I'm 29+2.

When baby arrives do you suddenly not know how many weeks it was etc, just it just go out of your mind lol!

Thanks Madbird........I now REALLY want a Mcdonalds!!!!!!!! think I will talk DH into talking me tomorrow while the kids are at school/playgroup-I can tempt him with the monopoly thing they are doing at the minute-he's such a kid when it comes to things like that :rotfl: I might even tell him he can buy me a large meal so he can have more stickers :rotfl::rotfl:

wendz86

I certainly will not be doing much tomorrow! Need to finish packing my desk into boxes which they are storing for me and just generally tie things up etc.

Pixiepops

pigpen wrote: »

We think she may have a split personality disorder of some kind but getting her a proper evaluation is impossible.. there is no interagency communication or cross referencing.

the entire family/school/friends are at their wits end.. extended family too.. we want to help her we want her to be the nice lovely pleasant little girl we know she can be.

You may not be aware of this, but you can do self-referral to a lot of different mental health organisations in the UK. Also, counselling and therapy lasts a number of weeks and so, if there really is an issue that is down to her mental health (as you believe) then it would eventually present itself. Self-referral is what many people do when their GP doesn't refer them. You can also get private therapy, which does cost money, but if the issues are as bad as you say then maybe it would be an option for you.

vroombroom

good luck tomorrow Wendz, enjoy it! x

pigpen

sharkeybabe wrote: »

To be totally honest PP I dont hold much hope for your DD learning anything that is not a derogatory word againt them, if your language is F this and F that. What a disgusting way to behave on an adult forum. (how very mature) We are all here in similar situations (pregnant or not long given birth) and at the end of the day your DD was not asked to be born an before you sit there (and I cant understand how you can post here so much with 9 children, when I can only get on here maybe once a week with my 6 week old - I really fear for the care of your children who seem to negleted, and hense there phycological problems may stem from this), I think maybe you should take a step back, and look into the mirror an decide on an adequate contraception that would prevent what seems to be a burden on your internet posting life.

Please remeber that there are adults more than willing to give there lifes to a unruley child, who unfotunately cannot have them - so please think of this in the furture before number 11 is thought of.

And with that comment, I better look after my own daughter - who is 6 weeks old, beautiful - may be an attention seeker, but she is my world and I would never downcry her and certainly never wish I had left her in the hospital - regardless of how many sleepless nights I have had.

Sharkeybabe

You mean my children that wouldn't dare utter a profanity?

Where is your evidence my children are neglected? The SW who visited last summer seemed to think they were more than adequeately provided for and cared for.. would you care to take it up with them? (I did, I demanded they change 90% of it and get names correct)
Or maybe anyone else who does actually have some kind of clue about my children.. ooh.. I can give you my mother number.. she isn't talking to me at the moment so she'd love some reason to b!tch about me so I'm sure if you have an axe to grind she will help..

madnessandmayhem wrote: »

haven't read through all the replies regarding pigpen, but surely it's better that she vents her frustrations at not being able to snap her fingers and magic her dd's problems away, here, to strangers rather than her family, in particular her daughter. I for one know I woould not be ble to cope with what pigpen does.
It is hard when your children aren't behaving the same as everyone else, and it can be a long road to get them the help and support they need. I don't think pigpen has mentioned anywhere that she doesn't love or want ANY of her children-when I say i could quite happily have left ds 1 at school, I don't MEAN it-it's just frustration at his attitude and behaviour sometimes when he gets home and is tired and ratty.
Funny thing is though, when ds 1 was a teeny baby who didn't answer back or misbehave I would probably have reacted in the same way as a lot of the posters on here..........
Perhaps unless we have walked a mile in pigpens shoes, we should cut her a bit of slack and let her continue to vent all she needs to keep herself sane!

thanks chuck..

sharkeybabe wrote: »

Maybe PP shouldnt have concentrated on the small amount of children that she had before adding more to her brood. No1 asked her to have 9 children and if she had them then she should be able to care fore them adequetley.

They are cared for adequately and how dare you even suggest otherwise.. what an ignorant and totally unjustified thing to say.. you have no idea who well cared for my children are.. or not.. but they are.. I challenge you to find better cared for children.. i amost was going to qualify myself but it is such a ludicrous remark I shall laugh at your stupidity and ignore you

Let's hope you just stick with 1

So many jealous people.Seriously.. if you think you can do a better job.. come try it.

Why are you all convinced my daughter has nothin wrong with her because she is 1 of a brood rather than a single child.

If i just had her would you all be so quick to judge?

DD4's consultant tried telling me I was neurotic because I insisted there was something wrong with her... turned out.. mrs 'lack of care mother' here had pinpointed she had cerebral palsy 5.5 YEARS before the doctors acknowledged it.. and I picked up DS2's problems 4 years before anyone else.. despite them both being seen every 3-6 months the entire time. It took them 18 months to diagnose DD1's hip dysplasia after me taking her to docs and HV every other week saying it wasn't right.. 90% of children with disabilities are first highlighted as having problems not by doctors or nurses or teachers but by their parents. (KIDs surveys 2006) I am currently watching DD1 for signs of thyroid problems being aware of other issues she has, and DS1 for depression and getting DD4 started on growth hormone replacement..

So I am telling you, same as I told the docs and everyone else.. Whether you or I or anyone else likes it or not something is not right with this girl.. as sad as it is, it is true. It isn't in my head.. it is in hers and we will, one day, get to the bottom of it.. though she may be 90 lol

madnessandmayhem

I'm back to work tomorrow after having nearly 3 weeks off-using up my hol from this year, but i'm only back for 10 days before i start maternity leave, as my boss was being an awkward so and so and wouldn't let me take the next 10 days as hol-oh well, if i have baby early and have to finish early then it serves him right!!! although i still have 7 weeks left so dont want to have it this early-although the past few days i've felt soo uncomfortable and strong bh (but not painful if thats possible??!!??) that i've been convinced my waters were going to go lol think i'm paranoid as the other 2 were early (ds 1 at 38 weeks, and ds 2 at 36 weeks)

sorry, bit of a pointless post really :rotfl::rotfl:

wendz86

Not a pointless post madness! Hope your last two weeks go OK!