MSE Pregnancy Club 21

GarnetLady

Flower08 wrote: »

I am so glad to hear that! I was going to actually make my second post on here, but by the time I had read everything I completely forgot what I was going to ask. Can I blame preganncy brain when I'm only 13+2? :rotfl:

I feel like I am constantly counting down the days. I was counting down the days til 12 week scan, and now I'm counting down the days til 20 week scan!

Yes you can blame it on pregnancy brain lol, and probably still will for sometime after you give birth!

I think there's always a worry no matter what part of your pregnancy you're at. But you have to do your best to enjoy it anyway.

wendz86

Evening all,

GFH - Congratulations and glad you got your home birth.

Vroom - great news on being engaged, my next appointment is tues, hope she is engaged then! I need a few more days before i start eviction process though hehe.

Last day of work tomorrow, feels really weird! Getting taken for a nice lunch at jamie olivers restaurant and they are taking my computer away at lunch as they are reshuffling so will only really be working in the morning.

pigpen

Pixiepops wrote: »

First of all, I was just trying to offer some helpful advice.

I know.. thank you.. and I explained she has had referrals but they are not in depth enough, long enough for her to get 'comfortable' or productive.

Secondly, why don't you at least let her try counselling? It might help her and if it doesn't then at least you can say you tried it. At which point the doctor might consider other options.

She didn't want to and refused.. she was given the option and said no.. and she will just sit and say nothing.. arms folded, face like thunder, chin on chest. that is the usual stance when asked anything

Lastly, I and the other ladies that have offered any advice or replies don't need to borrow anybody else's shoes. They have their own and their own opinions whilst standing in them.

and before jumping to extremely incorrect uninformed stupid conclusions they should actually have some experience of other peoples circumstances.. with respect none of you have any kind of idea.. the offer stands.. you want to come experience just DD3 for a few days.. fill your boots... my mother lasts 10 minutes tops.. my sister who is a nursery nurse can make 30 minutes.. her dad maybe 15-20 minutes.. I have her 24/7 bar school of course.. Her class teacher has the classroom assistant on her table constantly.

Yesterday she had a meltdown because they grew cress and were cutting it to make sandwiches.
Today she was screaming the teacher was lying about the answers to the maths work because she got them all wrong
She stood and wet herself on a trip to the beach because she refused to ask the correct person if she could go to the toilet (she asked one person who said she needed to ask another who had the keys)
She ate my 6 y/o's entire birthday cake.. all of it.. she got up at 4am special... hunted it down and ate it
Her friends won't have her round after she stole at their houses.. nothing expensive.. mainly food but things like photographs and notepads and silly things
She kicked off at dance class because the teacher wanted her to do a special solo bit because she is good at dance! She is on the able, gifted and talented for dance.

This is NOT normal behaviour for a 10 year old.. She is my 6th 10 y/o and this is not right.. We think she may have a split personality disorder of some kind but getting her a proper evaluation is impossible.. there is no interagency communication or cross referencing.

the entire family/school/friends are at their wits end.. extended family too.. we want to help her we want her to be the nice lovely pleasant little girl we know she can be.

This isn't a problem I solely have with her this is a problem that she takes wherever she goes.

wendz86

Flower08 - i am always counting down for something, latest ones have been being full term and going on maternity leave!

Flower08

Apricot wrote: »

Flower I have been blaming pregnancy brain since I got my BFP and am planning on using until baby is at least 2 years old!:rotfl:

Ooh that suits me just fine then :rotfl:

sharkeybabe

To be totally honest PP I dont hold much hope for your DD learning anything that is not a derogatory word againt them, if your language is F this and F that. What a disgusting way to behave on an adult forum. (how very mature) We are all here in similar situations (pregnant or not long given birth) and at the end of the day your DD was not asked to be born an before you sit there (and I cant understand how you can post here so much with 9 children, when I can only get on here maybe once a week with my 6 week old - I really fear for the care of your children who seem to negleted, and hense there phycological problems may stem from this), I think maybe you should take a step back, and look into the mirror an decide on an adequate contraception that would prevent what seems to be a burden on your internet posting life.

Please remeber that there are adults more than willing to give there lifes to a unruley child, who unfotunately cannot have them - so please think of this in the furture before number 11 is thought of.

And with that comment, I better look after my own daughter - who is 6 weeks old, beautiful - may be an attention seeker, but she is my world and I would never downcry her and certainly never wish I had left her in the hospital - regardless of how many sleepless nights I have had.

Sharkeybabe

madnessandmayhem

haven't read through all the replies regarding pigpen, but surely it's better that she vents her frustrations at not being able to snap her fingers and magic her dd's problems away, here, to strangers rather than her family, in particular her daughter. I for one know I woould not be ble to cope with what pigpen does.
It is hard when your children aren't behaving the same as everyone else, and it can be a long road to get them the help and support they need. I don't think pigpen has mentioned anywhere that she doesn't love or want ANY of her children-when I say i could quite happily have left ds 1 at school, I don't MEAN it-it's just frustration at his attitude and behaviour sometimes when he gets home and is tired and ratty.
Funny thing is though, when ds 1 was a teeny baby who didn't answer back or misbehave I would probably have reacted in the same way as a lot of the posters on here..........
Perhaps unless we have walked a mile in pigpens shoes, we should cut her a bit of slack and let her continue to vent all she needs to keep herself sane!

madbird_2

wendz86 wrote: »

Evening all,

GFH - Congratulations and glad you got your home birth.

Vroom - great news on being engaged, my next appointment is tues, hope she is engaged then! I need a few more days before i start eviction process though hehe.

Last day of work tomorrow, feels really weird! Getting taken for a nice lunch at jamie olivers restaurant and they are taking my computer away at lunch as they are reshuffling so will only really be working in the morning.

Lunch sounds fab, enjoy your last day!

Cutterby

Flower08 wrote: »

I am so glad to hear that! I was going to actually make my second post on here, but by the time I had read everything I completely forgot what I was going to ask. Can I blame preganncy brain when I'm only 13+2? :rotfl:

I feel like I am constantly counting down the days. I was counting down the days til 12 week scan, and now I'm counting down the days til 20 week scan!

Congratulations!!! Hehe, baby brain - one of the best things about being pregnant Alongside meeting the little person who's been kicking the carp out of you for the last few months obviously:cool:

I was exactly the same, was terrified of going to the 12 week scan, cried with relief that everything was ok, spent the next 8 weeks terrified all over again, then started feeling movements and relaxed a bit, then the 20 week scan and then bigger movements and finally could stop knicker checking and overanalysing everything! You do still worry obviously but nine months is a long time to spend on tenterhooks! Funny how everyone says it goes so quick - doesn't feel like it when you're right at the beginning but I'm 19 days off now and have no idea where the last 17 weeks have gone!! Try to relax and enjoy it!


One more thing - we're always here for reassurances and hugs but we do expect to see scan pictures!!! :rotfl: xx

iceicebaby

I got taken for a meal on my last day too Wendz. Have a nice day and make sure you do as little as possible!