MSE Pregnancy Club 21

madbird_2

sharkeybabe wrote: »

Hi Madbird,

Im doing well thanks, just been so busy with Sofia, that I havent had a chance to post anywhere, she is such a demanding baby. Today though she has been as good as gold and me an Mr Shark are having a wee glass of wine and celebrating the quietness.lol. x

Glad she has been good, enjoy the wine hun! Speak soon I hope x

vroombroom

well sorry if my rudeness offends you chickwiggle, but I find it quite upsetting some of the things Pigpen has put about her daughter. She's 10 years old and I dont think its very nice slagging the poor kid off on an internet forum.

I'm logging off now before I get banned. See ya'a later x

pigpen

Cheers chicky.. it does pee me off that everyone immediately assumes I am just horrible whenever I mention her horrible side even the doc which is why we got to the point of everyone resenting her and disliking her.. If it is all me why do her dad and her siblings have huge issues with her too? and now her teachers at school.. not just 1 teacher!!!

Cutterby

vroombroom wrote: »

Pigpen, without sounding rude and I'm sorry if I do, I'd be devastated if my mum said that about me.

I make NO apology for what I'm about to say....

pigpen wrote: »

How would you know.. she might have done.. just not to you...

It was parents evening today.. her teacher wants to wring DD's neck on occasion.. I said thank God it isn't just me!

She has been ignorant, rude, obnoxious.. apparently she had a wobbly today because she got her maths wrong and insisted the answers the teacher gave were wrong and she was right. She has been removed 4 times in the last 2 weeks from the classroom for having tantrums

I am so pleased she is being a !!!!!! at school as well.. it can't all be for my benefit then.. so they will actually back me when I demand a referral to a pychologist for her next time we are at bedwetting clinic..

Why the HELL do you keep having children?! You don't seem to like them very much at all! My DD might pee me off at times but I would NEVER say the things you say!!!

pigpen wrote: »

that's because you don't know her or live with her.. people always say that then soon change their tune when they've been with her a while.. I am not some evil b!tch of a mother like you appear to think.. she lies and steals and is malicious and evn hides and breaks her own stuff to get others into trouble. you have absoluteky not a clue what she is like.

We can't have anything nice because she steals or breaks it, no nice food because she eats it the other children get sweets for birthday for examples she take them she takes their ds games and wipes their saved games.. she wee'd all over the bedroom floor a few weeks ago and said it wasn't her even though I caught her in the act.. she has a serious psychological issue going on somewhere in that head of hers and it in't nice.

The ones who deserve your sympathy are her long suffering siblings who miss out on lots because of her!

And unless she can read my mind she has no idea what I think of her .. apart from when I have told her the things she has done are not acceptable.

Why does she do all these things? Children aren't born 'evil or malicious' - it's learned behaviour and a lot of it is a coping mechanism! And I have to requote this from your own words -

"The ones who deserve your sympathy are her long suffering siblings who miss out on lots because of her!" -


STOP ADDING TO THE LONG SUFFERING SIBLINGS THEN!!!


Do all your children get quality time with you? It sounds to me like they're crying out for attention and some Mum cuddles and you're just adding to the stress with this new Bubs. I honestly don't understand how you can spend so much time posting online with so many children and a house to run - I have one child and I can only nip on while she's at school or asleep and even that's in between housework/shopping/cooking/homework/reading/Mummy cuddles!


Before anyone jumps in with "you haven't got a clue, you've not been posting" - no I haven't but I have been reading. For me my child is the be all and end all of my universe - not some burden to be tolerated.

GarnetLady

I'd try looking at the way you word things, if it comes across as offensive to so many then maybe you need to modify how you say it.

And I'd be having a good thing about the fact it all sounds like a vicious circle and I'd look up 'self fulfilling prophecy' when it comes to kids too. I'm sure she's well aware of the resentment and anger felt towards her.

pigpen

vroombroom wrote: »

well sorry if my rudeness offends you chickwiggle, but I find it quite upsetting some of the things Pigpen has put about her daughter. She's 10 years old and I dont think its very nice slagging the poor kid off on an internet forum.

I'm logging off now before I get banned. See ya'a later x

surely it is no different to if I said how awful a neice or cousin or neighbour was which is what 9/10 posts on this board are doing... I think it less nice being a cow to someone who really struggles with their childs unnatural behaviour (as do the teachers her siblings and grandparents and dad and aunts) and has tried getting her help and noone is concerned enough to take any time or help the 'poor child' God help her as an adult... she is going to have one hell of a time.

I wouldn't wish a child like this on anyone but just for you to experience a few days of it would do you the world of good

Pixie.. if I could I'd get someone to see her like I requested 6 years ago and she has been seen by various people who say she is fine after spending half an hour with her I would.. noone is interested in anything other than making out it is me (despite her dad and siblings and my mother knowing she isn't fine) What else shoould I do? The only crap they came up with was counselling which won't do one bit of good she needs a proper assessment not some twerp of a counsellor patronising and agreeing how badly done by she is and making her worse.

you know the phrase.. walk a mile in their shoes... come borrow mine!

abby35

I have to say i totally agree with you. When my son was 10/11 i wanted to kill him, what a nightmare there were days when i wanted to send him to boarding school anywhere but with me, but YOU dont you just deal with the situation the best you can and hope all works out. I have to say in my case it did and we get on great. My 20mth old aready knows how to push my buttons but dont all children. I have my next one on the way in 2mths and i know it will be demanding but lucky for me i dont have to deal with the same situations as PP.Maybe PP just doesnt get a moment to herself to breath so i would judge her on the fact she may just be having a bad day.:o

chickywiggle

can we all stop with the backstabbing!!

this can be a lovely supportive forum, we don't all like others methods of parenting and unless you have actually come accross children like this you have no idea how hard it can be and how much strain it can put on your life. Where are people supposed to vent anger if not anonomously on a forum??

this thread should be to offer helpful advice and sorry but sometimes Disney says things better "if you don't have nothing nice to say then don't say nothing at all" (Thumper in Bambi).

no one is saying you can't hold an opinion and by all means you are welcome to it but some of the posts here are really spiteful. I for one won't be returning until tempers have cooled as I am soo cross at the horrible accusations flying around.

could we please calm down now or the thread will get closed again and I'm sure no-one wants that.

pigpen

abby35 wrote: »

I have to say i totally agree with you. When my son was 10/11 i wanted to kill him, what a nightmare there were days when i wanted to send him to boarding school anywhere but with me, but YOU dont you just deal with the situation the best you can and hope all works out. I have to say in my case it did and we get on great. My 20mth old aready knows how to push my buttons but dont all children. I have my next one on the way in 2mths and i know it will be demanding but lucky for me i dont have to deal with the same situations as PP.Maybe PP just doesnt get a moment to herself to breath so i would judge her on the fact she may just be having a bad day.:o

I just don't want everyone in the world to hate my daughter.. and seeing as noone here knows me or her the anonymity makes it a 'good' place to offlload about her.. like hundreds of others do their friends and family and neighbours on a daily basis... but obviously there are just idiots here too who know sweet fa.

GarnetLady

That is so out of order pigpen! :mad:

If you can't cope with others opinions then I suggest you keep your mouth shut.