MSE Pregnancy Club 21

Apricot

Hungrymummy that's not very nice of your friend but it's possible that she knew you would say no and didn't want to put you in an awkward position perhaps?

Madbird I've got two cats and they are both quite aloof characters os not really too worried about them being jealous of baby but I may get a feliway plug in to start using when baby first comes home just to keep them as calm as possible. My cats do like visitors though, especially if the visitor doesn't like cats, they will both sit on their lap! My OH's nan keeps telling us that the cats are going to eat the baby! Um, no they're not (she just hate cats) but I researched the smothering thing anyway and there is not one single confirmed case of a cat smothering a baby which made me feel a bit better. Obviously I won't be allowing them in the bedroom once baby is here but I was pleased to find out that the smothering thing is just a bit of an urban legend.

nic2075

hngrymummy wrote: »

Just found out that a friend of mine has had a hen night, and I wasn't even asked to go I know I wouldn't have gone as I'm sooooo pregnant, but I'd have liked the invite so I could send a few quid for a drink for her and wish her well. I guess that this is what's to come - invites dropping off because people think I won't go anyway. I do understand why I wasn't invited, I'm just a bit sad about it.

This started happening to me with my first (6 years ago) and i still dont get invited to anything
I mentioned here when I was 12 or so weeks pregnant I was meant to be meeting a supposidly good friend for a meal and some cocktails. I called her the week before to tell her I was pregnant and all she said we may as well cancel Friday then. I said I was still happy to go but she said it wouldnt be the same as she was up for a mad one.
Now they dont even ask me and I see all the nights out on FB. The fact that ive moved isnt going to help, but even when I was in the same city they never bothered.

Like you say, you wouldnt of went, but it wold of been nice to be asked.

hngrymummy

Thanks Dusty it's nice to know it's not just me. The friend who's actually getting married has invited me, DH and sprog to the wedding, it's another mutual friend who organised the 'do'. So I know that the hen wouldn't have wanted me to be forgotten.

Maybe I need to organise something once sprog is here so I can prove to people that I'm still me and I haven't become a different person.

nic - they won't show the normal, straightforward births, only the 'exciting' ones. So my advice is STOP WATCHING THEM ON TV

Apricot - I completely understand why I wasn't invited, I just would've appreciated that they thought about me. Even if they said 'it's M's hen do this weekend, we haven't invited you to it because it involves waaaay too much drinking, dancing and staying out all night, so we didn't want you to feel bad about not coming'

Oh well, next load of bedding in the wash for sprog. We got the Kidsline Jungle themed set (thanks to Granny-to-be, who is wonderful) and DH want's it on the cot for sprog's first night at home. Also washing the blankets as they're new and shedding fluff everywhere.

LabLover

Im quite lucky , one of my friends still asks me, the rest of them dont and TBH I havent heard from them since I told them I was pregnant(none of them are interested in children) I went out for a meal on sat night with OH and another couple, got all dolled up (false eye lashes and everything) was great , but as soon as I get home I was straight into PJ's , was out untill 11. It had knock on effect tho ,spent most of yesterday on the sofa.

Teenie_D

Nic I hear you! There does seem to be a lot of intervnetions but I am still confident about my birth. DD was relatively easy once she got going and the next one will be the same and that't that!!! LOL

I think as the home birth is concerned, as long as you feel comfortable and the mw has no concerns, you should be ok, but obviously there never is 100% guarantee. I've not had a homebirth so don't really know what I can say to put your mind at ease (although my Mum had 2 out of 5 and she said they were the best births).

Ooh sounds like you will have fun at the weekend, it will be nice wee break for you.

Hngry I've been there too and it really hurts, I did get a wee dig in though Like you said it's not as if you would probably go out but to be asked is nice (and only good manners I feel) so you are not being completely forgotten about

vroombroom

back from physio,was fab. My pelvis is out of joint on my right side - left leg longer by an inch!! haha! got some exercises to do and most importantly, a support band:D I have to go back next week so she can see how I am doing but honestly, just the difference getting in/out the car is amazing!

Lablover I have two dogs - a grumpy one who will just moan if the baby wakes and a highly excitable collie who I imagine thinks like this: "wowIamgoinginthecar wowIamgoingforawalk, wowdadishome, oooohmumisgoingtothrowtheballforme" so I was very worried when I found out I was pregnant. She's fab round OH's nieces and nephews and I'm going to get a dogwalker in once a week just so she can let some steam off.

I'm really worried about what to dow with them around my due date though. Kennels for a week? x

ema_o

Hello

Not had much time to post - had a long weekend and its all been either DIY with OH or doing housework / cooking so OH can spend more time on DIY!

Nic, I think you're worrying unnecessarily, especially since you have had 2 already so you already know pretty much what to expect for you. I think if this wasn't my first I'd have been more keen on having a homebirth. I know what you mean about the worry tho, and reading stories / watching OBEM is making me unsure whether I'll cope at the birthing centre or will decide to go to hospital, am going to talk it through with MW at next appointment (if there's time!).

Am now a lot more organised for bubs. Picked up my boots changing bag, and have actually packed a few outfits for baby / nappies etc, not entirely sure what I need though. Will I need vests, and if so are these the short sleeved / short legged versions of babygrows or are there some that look more like vests?? Will baby be alright wearing babygrow in hospital or will I need jumpers / coats for him (I have jacket / hat for going home but expect hospital will be okay in a babygrow). Glad you asked about oiling baby's bum twinny, have been wondering the same thing!

Went to antenatal BF class last night - it was interesting, I think especially good to have OH there so there is a chance one of us will remember what I am meant to be doing! She very briefly mentioned co sleeping, and about the fact that mothers that solely BF will curl up around the baby and even move dads arm if he invades the space which was fascinating. Plan is for baby to sleep in crib, but good to know that co sleeping might be an option if needed.
Luckily when she asked where was the least safe place for baby to sleep OH's response "on the railway line" was quiet enough that no one else heard!!

Boo to friends not inviting you out hngrymummy and Dusty I've not seen much of my friends lately but that is more because we are busy with the DIY all the time. I don't think I'd have much fun in a busy bar with an orange juice either but shame they didn't invite you along.

DP sorry to hear about Max

OTE loved the pics, especially the one in the bucket Congratulations

Apricot, glad you had a lovely time, had a sneaky look at your link and it looked fab Would love a few days away but suspect the best I'll get is one night in a hotel then rush home to carry on with DIY Still will be worth it when house is all lovely

RBG can't remember how you said the baby showe went but hope you had a lovely time Any of your gifts left they looked fab!!

Hugs & bump rubs to everyone else xx

Ooh I just remembered I have taught Wriggle incy wincy spider!! When I do the spider crawling over my bump he goes mad Am I insane?? xx

mrsspendalot

Morning (well, afternoon actually) ladies!

Just caught up on all the posts. Congrats to all those who have had their babies!!!

I remember when I had my first baby and stopped getting invited to parties and nights out. I was the only one in my social group who had a baby, and my partner left me when she was 18months old. We hung out as a big group prior to the split, and then once he left, even my female friends stopped inviting me out. I remember being really upset by this, and at the time (being only 21) I felt my life was over!!! I tackled my friends over it and their response was simply 'we didn't think you would be able to get a babysitter' and I remember just saying it would still be nice to be asked. I never bothered with them after that and found some new friends with children who understood. I've just turned down an invite to a hen do in May because I know I won't be able to cope, but it was nice to be asked all the same.

I had strep B in my 2nd pregnancy which was discovered by chance at 27 weeks when I had what seemed like a small show. My GP sent me to hospital thinking I was going into premature labour, because my braxton hicks had been quite strong. I was swabbed there, and that is what it came back with. I had antibiotics in labour on a drip and 48hrs observation in hospital afterwards.

I was tested for it with 3rd baby as had it previously, but the tests came back clear. I was asked by my consultant this time whether I wanted to be tested again this time. I said yes, so I am being tested at 36/37 weeks to see if I am carrying it this time. Hope not, as I really want to be in and out of hospital quickly for the birth.

LabLover

Ema_o your not insane.When Im in a bad mood I tickle bump to let him/her know that Im not grumpy with them, just daddy .lol

wendz86

Just back from Breastfeeding workshop. Was quite good, learnt how to hold baby etc and feel like I might actually have a clue what to do. The lady was really nice as well. I felt like my bump was really small and most the other ladies were only 3 or 4 weeks ahead of me!

Car started to struggle on way home and engine light flashing again, this is the problem we thought had been fixed last week. The car is literally driving me mad. OH has just taken it back up to garage.

Vroom - glad the physio went well!