Love, lust and the percentage of each...

hieveryone

Thanks Pixiechic, I agree with most of what you are saying. It's not so much to do with the actual sex though, more to do with the 'fancying' part. As in, I don't. And I think you do need to fancy someone to be truly in love with them?

Also, I meant making an effort for a man i.e to turn him on (sorry if too much info! lol), whereas right now I couldn't care less if bra and pants match lol

hieveryone

Thanks Pixiechic, I agree with most of what you are saying. It's not so much to do with the actual sex though, more to do with the 'fancying' part. As in, I don't. And I think you do need to fancy someone to be truly in love with them?

Also, I meant making an effort for a man i.e to turn him on (sorry if too much info! lol), whereas right now I couldn't care less if bra and pants match lol

NickyBat

Not read the whole of the thread (got school run and work to do) but Pixiechic speaks a lot of sense.

Me and hubby have been together years but married for 3 and i have found the dynamics of a relationship do change over the years.

The lust and sex do become less important than in the early days, but a deeper love seems to take over. I don't always get "that" feeling when i look at him, in fact sometimes when he does that "willy waving" that some men do (you know the one when they get out the shower) i just think "oh please put it away" because i've either got DS to see to or i'm just generally tired etc, but then when you go to bed together and just do that nice comfy cosy down thing the warm feeling of love i have for him far exceeds the lust feeling.

What i would say though that is if he is irritating you now before you are even married it's time for you to have a think about things and decide if you want to work on the relationship or not.

Trust me general everyday life is hard enough at times (especially when kids come into the equasion)

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"willy waving" :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

unfortunately I know what you mean