Love, lust and the percentage of each...

manda1205

I agree with above, if after 6mnths you dont have that OMG feeling, Id imagine you'll never have it. I have had relationships in the past where Ive not had that OMG feeling and thought it'll get'll better, but since being with my hubby it made me realise I could never have stayed with them as he gave me the OMG feeling from day 1 and although we have been married for 7mnths, together for over 7years, he can still give me that OMG feeling (just not every day anymore, lol)

hieveryone

Sometimes I wonder if I should just stick with it and make do.. I worry I won't find anyone better. And I may not be all that myself..?

I don't have many single friends and the thought of going out on the pull fills me with dread

moneypuddle

My Partner and I have been together for nearly four years and I definitely feel the lust for him - the same as the day we met. I would say if you have lost it already it's unlikely to come back. Ive been in your situation before and had to get out

**curlywurly**

hieveryone wrote: »

If you asked me if I'd rather watch P.S I Love You or you know what ;) then I'd rather watch the film..

Awww, bless you. When we were in our twenties we were very poor, and time was always of the essence because he was away more than he was home. At the weekend we would hire a video (ha! showing my age!). We saw the beginning of a LOT of 1980s movies ... but very rarely the end ...:rotfl:

moneypuddle

Just read you last reply - DO NOT MAKE DO. Everyone deserves at least a chance at a fairytale

hieveryone

moneypuddle wrote: »

Just read you last reply - DO NOT MAKE DO. Everyone deserves at least a chance at a fairytale

I think I had mines and messed it up. I was young, insecure and thought he was 'too good looking' for me! :rotfl: From one extreme to the other!

Alikay

You don't fancy him that much, he irritates you, you still think your ex is gorgeous, and you'd rather watch a pretty poor romantic film (albeit starring the tasty Gerard) than get frisky with your fella. He might be perfect but he ain't perfect for you, is he?:rotfl:

hieveryone

Alikay wrote: »

You don't fancy him that much, he irritates you, you still think your ex is gorgeous, and you'd rather watch a pretty poor romantic film (albeit starring the tasty Gerard) than get frisky with your fella. He might be perfect but he ain't perfect for you, is he?:rotfl:

True. I feel awful though.

manda1205

hieveryone wrote: »

Sometimes I wonder if I should just stick with it and make do.. I worry I won't find anyone better. And I may not be all that myself..?

I don't have many single friends and the thought of going out on the pull fills me with dread

Oh thats very sad that you feel that way, and I mean that in a I could just give you a hug way, not you are sad IYSWIM. Digging a hole here I think. But you really shouldnt feel like that. No one should just make do, you may as well be on your own than make do. And surprisingly you are prob more like to meet someone out in supermarket, work, anywhere other than clubs etc going specificly to pull. He could even live a few doors down and youve just never crossed paths yet, thats the point you just dont know when you could meet him. But making do just wont do!

headoutthesand

I've been in a relationship (marriage anyway) where I had what you are describing just now. I ended up hating everything he did down to the way he drank his tea. I was with him for 8 years, married and had 2 kids. I'm with the others and say you already know the answer.

Re the settling comment.....
I left my husband when I was 27 making myself a single mum of 2. It's a lot easier to find someone when you're mid twenties and without kids. Let your hair down and live a little. If you were dating before you met him (7 months ago really), then you'll be dating again soon enough.

Lifes too short, and it's not fair on him once he learns he's the consolation prize - cos he will. Trust me.