Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

meeps

my son started preschool in january just after he turned 3, he wasn't trained, but they were fine with it, they suggested pull ups to make him feel a bit more grown up, and also told me they didn't have the facilities to change a pooey bum so I said I was happy to nip round if needed (which happened a couple of times) -we potty trained over the easter fortnight and when he went back they were great with asking him a lot to begin with and teaching him to manage, he also learnt to wee standing up by being taken to the loo with the bigger boys. once he had a week with no accidents (there were maybe half a dozen times they had to put dry pants and trousers on him) they gave him a certificate.
Its a shame all places can't have the same supportive policies!

Zziggi

macymoo wrote: »

My 2 and a half year old DS has been offered 2 mornings a week at playgroup, but have specified that he has to be dry. Well we are potty training at the moment but I'm not sure if he will be done in time?
A friend has said that they have to take him even if he is not dry as they are not allowed to specify either way?
Anyone know the correct ruling???
Thanks

Yep, this is what i was also told. All to do with "discrimination". What if a child isn;t out of nappies due to a health reason?

I also pointed this out when my DS was still in nappies and wanted to go to pre-school. They accepted him once i pointed it out.

bunty109

tee_pee wrote: »

I hope one of you mums ( or dads) out there can advise me. I currently have my 2 1/2 yr old daughter at nursery 2 days a week while I am at work. She is 3 in Feb so today I went to the local school to apply to put her on their nursery list. I go on maternity leave in Dec so was hoping that her nursery would be from around the time she turned 3. But the school secretary told me today that they would offer her a place in September 08.

IS that right? I didn't like to question as she seemed so authoritive, but it seemed late

Tee pee, school nurseries take children who are rising 4 so that sounds right. Your daughter is the academic year below my son so she would start nursery school in the year 08-09.

You might be able to find a pre-school place rather than a nursery place but this may be at another school (many schools won't have a pre-school - ours doesn't and my son goes elsewhere until he starts nursery in January)

tee_pee_2

thanks for the replies sorry the thanks button isn;t working:o

Spendless

tee pee- at my local school nursery it depends on how many places they have available. So if they've 10 places spare in December, they will offer those places to the 10 eldest born from the year below (whose birthdays fall Sept 1st-Dec 31st), if someone refuses it goes to the next in line and so on. If there are still places after Easter then these would be offered to those children born Jan 1st-march 31st of year below, again in date order.

In some years (my sons and the year below) there were no early entry places as their school intake year was chocka. ln my daughters year (last year) there was about 4 places to fill. Both mine have March birthdays so have never stood a chance of getting in the school nursery early so I took the funding to a private nursery instead.

ppolly

Our playgroup has a nappy policy! They do prefer children to be out of nappies, they will change a dirty one, but not wet ones (because it is hard to tell). Potty trained childeren are asked to bring a change of clothes. Only staff/volunteers that have had a CRB check are allowed to be alone with a child. Most playgroups should have a written nappy policy - or will make one if enough parents ask. I don't think ours is a standard one, its one that the committee (run by parents) have agreed on.

keelykat

Hi, my sister is getting concerned about this as my niece will be starting nursery early next year (i think) and won't use her potty or the loo yet! Fingers crossed, things will sort themselves out before then!

keely.

code-a-holic

My son started playgroup at 2.5 and was still in pull ups. He will use the toilet at home but iof he has a nappy on he gets lazy - and why not!! Yesterday was the first day i sent him in pants. And he was fine for 2hrs and 20 mins. Wet himself 10 mins before pick up!! My other son was 3 and a bit before he was dry, went to the same playgroup and they have never complained, they are very happy to work alongside me in training.

annaangeluk_2

A friend of mine has enrolled her little girl into nursery at our local primary school starting at the beginning of November, a week after the little girl's 3rd birthday.

Her mother has made absolutely no effort at all to get her daughter potty trained and seems to think that nursery will be happy to do most of it or keep changing nappies.

Her attitude has really wound me up. My dd was in a private nursery from 4 months old when I had to return to work. I paid a fortune in fees but still had to potty train my own child!

The little girl doesn't start reception until September 2009 and I think her mum seems to think it's okay for her to be in nappies until then! Which I think is disgusting, lazy and totally wrong if there is no need for her to be kept in nappies. My little brother (he;s 18 and over 6ft tall so not that little!) was in nappies until he was 6/7 becasue he;s autistic and took longer to potty train but mum managed to do it without any help!

Will the school expect her to be dry before she starts in Nov?

Sorry for the rant, but her attitude just really annoys me!

Thanks

conradmum

The school will most certainly expect her to be dry. How they react if she wets/soils herself varies from school to school. I have heard of schools that will phone the parent up and tell them they have to come in and change their child.

(A long time ago - and in a different country - I heard of a woman who took her child to school for her first day and handed the teacher a pack of nappies and a bottle. :eek: The teacher handed them back and told her to bring her child back when she was normal!)

Your friend's attitude is appalling, and it simply won't work anyway. If the child isn't consistently encouraged at home and at nursery then potty training is going to be long and probably traumatic for the child. I feel sorry for her.