September 2012 Brides and Grooms

nuttymummy

yeah i suppose your right, everything everyone has said has made sense...im probably being to cautious about the whole transport/what people will think etc.

the seventh....LOVELY photos! really nice! just make sure you see a full set from one wedding too as the ones i saw where from different weddings, they clearly know what they are doing though...lovely images!

yeah im not going for sit down meal either...rather just let people mingle and pick at food ha ha eat like animals...afterall we are in the right setting

White_Sapphire

Hi everyone!

Hope you're all well. I had a lovely wedding-themed weekend with my mum; we went to a vintage market and I bought two necklaces, either or neither of which I might wear on the day, and both of which I'll get good wear out of anyway, and we did more work on the dress, which is taking shape nicely! :T
Here's a link if you want a peek. The password is Sep2012 :cool:
It looks a lot fuller than the finished dress will be, because it's made from quite a stiff fabric so it doesn't really drape (apart from the back of the bodice, which is made out of an old sheet :rotfl:). And, we found out about a fabric market in Birmingham which could be worth a look. It's a bit of a way away, but worth it if we can get 2/3 off the price of mine and MoH's fabric!!

Right, next up is finding a Humanist celebrant, a photographer, and band/DJ/random musical entertainment...I feel all motivated!!!

x

EDIT: Piccies of the necklaces - before someone has to ask!!
Necklace 1:

It's opal and cubic zirconia/diamante/something like that on a gold chain. Sorry about the rubbish pic - it's much prettier in real life!
Necklace 2:

Detail of clasp:

natc

Wow! Love the necklaces, and the dress looks a lovely shape, can imagine how it will hang. Think someone may ahve mentioned before, but looks like it could be Pippa Middleton looking....very nice : )

Very jealous of your progress! Really need to get a wiggle on!!!

White_Sapphire

Thanks Natalie! I did think when I saw the Royal wedding that Pippa's dress looked weirdly familiar!! I'm not quite as lean as she is though so have been looking at underwear to hoik in the wobbly bits

How are things going with you? x

natc

Hahaha. She has a lovely figure doesnt she.Her dress was beautiful. Yours looks gorgeous already! Can just imagine it, im sure it will be just perfect when it is donw, bet you cant wait to finally wear it!!! Thinkeither of the equally gorgeous necklaces will go lovely with it too

Thanks for asking Fiona, but not got very far yet! Only booked the Church so far, still need to confirm the time though! And we are just looking for a reception venue. Me and OH have found one we really like, think i posted a link onto here a few weeks ago, its a golf club. But there is a bit of a problem with the disabled access. My step bro is in a wheelchair and the room is upstairs with only a chair lift for access which is no good, so we are taking my dad and my step mum there this weekend to have a look.

My OH is adamant he wants that venue, i took my mum and step dad there the other weekend and they loved it. its juat got lovely views, and the staff are so nice and pleasant, and helpful. I dont want to leave anyone out, or make my dad and stepmum feel like we have left him out if we cant get him up there, but its the only place we both like. The only real way we can get him up there is for a few men to carry him up the stairs.

My dad has actually been a pain, my OH is fed up with him. CAn see a long post here now...sorry!!! Dad has had me crying on 3 occasions now about my wedding...long stories (!!!) but OH proposed on hol in 2009 which was just the best : ) but rung everyone to tell them, and dad was like, oh right, so hows your holiday then..???.!!! Like he just wasnt interested...Also we had a blazing row a few months ago and never rowed with my dad before, all because he thought he was being left out and thought i was going to ask my step dad to give me away....he has had me crying tonight aswell, rung him to ask if he and stepmum will come look at venue at weekend, and then he started on about wanting to know whats going on with wedding and that we need to talk about it coz he doesnt know whats going on. Ive told him that he knows just as much as my mum and step dad knows, and as much as me and OH knows for that matter! Ive told him hes not being left out if thats what he thinks......anyway, OH is fed up of him, and has said hes having the Golf cluc whether my dad likes it or not! Oh Please God, someone help me!!! LOL What a 'mare!

Sorry for that!!!

White_Sapphire

Oh Natalie, what a nightmare! ((hugs)) Don't really know what to say - it sounds like he's afraid that your step-dad will take the Father of the Bride role and he will be on the sidelines. He has no right to take that out on you though. Do you have a good relationship with your step mum and could perhaps have a quiet word with her? Hopefully when the planning really gets going and he sees that you are keeping him informed of everything he will settle down a bit. It's difficult when people don't realise that wedding planning has a tendency to start slowly, and assume that things must be happening that they're not being told about. As for how he reacted to your engagement...odd!! No idea, but that was too long ago to confront him with now, just concentrate on the planning.

As for the venue and your step brother, once he's been carried upstairs is it easy for him to get around, and is there a toilet he can use on that floor? I'd have thought that if he's happy with being carried upstairs, as long as everything he needs is there and he can get to all the rooms that should be fine. If he needed people to carry him to and from the toilet or if there was a part of the venue he couldn't get to then I hate to say that you might need to keep looking. Your dad and step mum will be able to advise you when they see it anyway.

x

fawny

Poor you natc, it's hard trying to keep everyone happy, it sounds to me like you are doing the best you can. I had a row with my Mum last night as I said we were going to go & look to buy our rings because of the gold price going up & probably not going to come down. My Mum said it was silly to buy now & should just wait as it will come down eventually & it just really wound me up & we ended up rowing about it, anyway we are still hopefully going next week!

fawny

White_Sapphire your necklaces is beautiful & your dress is coming on great:j

natc

Thanks for the virtual Hug Fion, really needed it! Ha, sorry for going on one last night, but it all just came out, feel better for it though.

Your advice is great thank you. Re the engagement, ive spoken (shouted) to him about it during our row we had. I actually think, even though my dad hasnt said it, that its because OH didnt do the traditional thing by asking him!!! It was awful, coz I have never argued with him, and I think every hurt feeling he ever had since my mum and dad spilt up (im 27 now, I was 2 when they split!!) came out, I think hes been upset about my mum for a long time, and he was arguing with me about it all, but I had to tell him, i was 2 years old dad, its not my fault, I just want you to be here for me. Forget about it all and move on.

I really do think that he feels left out. I do get on OK with Step Mum, and she did tell me after the row i had with him that he was really scared that I was going to ask my step dad to give me away (I call him DAD too, which is confusing to some ppl! But he has been in my life since I was 3) I assured her I wanted my dad to give me away. And he does know that now, he seemed ok after that. He started again last night though after I told him that I wanted him to look at the venue, he said, well what else is there we need to do, I want to pay for something and dont even know what you are doing! He just went on one again! ODD i know! OMG!!! I told him, i said, it seems like you think you are being left out, but you know as much as much as my mum and step dad, and as much as me and OH for that matter!!! Im going to have to talk to him, and reassure him I think. I did try to involve Dad and Step mum by asking them a few weeks ago if they could think of anywhere or look out for another venue due to the access of this place, but they havent got back to me.

With regrds to toilets and things, the venue has been a bit daft, as the disabled loo is dowstairs!!! But luckily, step bro doesnt have to trip to loo, he has an attachment for that, so once upstairs, hell be fine.

My OH is getting really p****ed off with him though, as hes made me cry about it all so many times now, and hes adamant he is having this venue whether they like it or not, and i just feel right in the middle now. I dont want dad and step mum to think we havent tried anywhere else, because we really have, and ive even asked them to look themselves to include them, and to find somewhere that would be ideal for step bro.....GRRRR wedding planning is hard enough as it is without all the upset!

Hi Fawny, yes it certainly is hard (harder than I thought!) to keep everyone happy. Im getting to point that i feel like im just going to organise the day and say to people, come if you want, dont if dont!!! LOL :rotfl:

Hey, i never thought about the gold prices!!! Good thinking!

fawny

Hi,

The wonderful gold shoes I ordered last week from Nine West have arrived & they fit:D Tried them on and they feel wonderful & don't feel as high as I though they would - I love them:jSo thats the shoes sorted.