September 2012 Brides and Grooms

Roz_V

Nat, the dress is beautiful, and is a bargain at half price!! I love the lace detail on it. You know when it's "the one" don't you? It's a fab feeling I keep thinking about mine and can't wait to wear it

Scotsbride, :mad: people can be so awkward. Can you maybe have a word with the other part-owners and "gang up" on the one being a pain?

Invite pic as requested, going to make a start on the actual ones this weekend:

fawny

Hello Ladies,

Natc, sounds like a good deal on the dress & so pleased you are happy. No point in having one you don't love, it would spoil the day if you felt down about the dress. I'll have to look at the pic at home as it's not coming up as i'm at work, it does that sometimes(probably cause I should be working:p)

Roz, glad you got your invites sorted - same again on the pics:(

Scotsbride, sorry to hear you are having problems regarding the holiday house, can't you pull rank on them or something, have a brizilla moment:D

Nothing new from me, H2B has just sent me an email saying he is really not happy at work & needs to run through a few options with me tonight - :eek: I hate emails like that-I will now spend all day worry what he is thinking. I knew there was something wrong & he has been really quiet & not just because ManU lost last night!! Last few morning he has been up really early like 6am on Sat & Sun saying he could not sleep & generally looking unhappy, so at least I know what the problem is now just how we will sort it, roll on 5pm so I can go home.

Roz_V

fawny wrote: »

(probably cause I should be working:p)

I'm sorry, I don't understand? Is browsing MSE not classed as working?! :rotfl:

Sorry to hear your OH is unhappy at work, hopefully you'll have a good chat tonight and he'll have a few options. Try not to worry too much before then - there's nothing you can do from where you are. My OH changed jobs in January and it's like he's a different person now, I didn't realise how much his old place had affected him and brought down his confidence.

ghawdon

Hi everyone,

Nat the dress is beautiful- love the lace!

Nothing much new from me- confirmed a DJ for the evening do yesterday. Its an old family friend of OH so got him at mates rates!

Feeling a bit down this morning over wedding stuff.... Feel like I've been getting a lot of hassle recently. One of my bridesmaids has gone a bit awol- she was a bit put out when I said she wouldn't be able to bring her boyfriend to the reception. I've only ever met him once and they've not been together that long. She assumed she would be able to bring a +1 as she was bridesmaid even though I've never even so much as hinted that she can. As a rule we're generally not inviting partners- we don't have the space/money to invite all the family/friends we want to the day so why should we have to make room for peoples partners that we barely know?! I've said he can come to the evening which I think is fair. I think she's upset because I've invited another one of my BM partners but I've known him for longer than I've known my BM, I am godmother to his son and he was my housemate at one point!! Am I being unfair?? My other 2 BMs partners are not invited (including my sisters!)
She's been really quiet since I told her this, not replying to emails/texts etc. She lives in Newcastle and I've asked her to do a couple of weddingy related things for me that I need done up there (I live in Bristol) and she's just not done them- I feel like I don't have much support from her at the moment. It's like shes happy to be a bridesmaid without the responsibility! I've had to ask my mum to do the things i asked my BM on top of her making all the stationery, the cake, organising my hair and makeup and she's currently studying for an exam at work!

My other issue is my hen party. First the organising started off well with all 4 BMs sorting it out between them. Recently, it has all fallen on one of them which she is fine about- shes been getting extra help from my mum too. We were going to book a spa day as part of the weekend and she sent me a list of places she found a while back- most we're either miles away or really expensive. I found a package within walking distance from my house £45 which includes a facial, a back and shoulder massage and lunch but said it would probably be best to ask everyones opinion as I know cost is an issue for a lot of people and I don't want people to say they can't come because they're put off by cost. I'd rather have all my friends there and do nothing! She sent an email round last night with all the spa options but completely left out the one I found. BM herself is a final year student so is pretty skint herself- I kind of get the impression that she can't afford a spa day on top of the other activities we have planned so therefore just sent out a list of the more expensive options (which in all honesty I wouldn't pay for as they're all overpriced and miles away from my house). I don't mind not going to a spa but I'd rather she told me that she doesnt think she'll be able to afford it. I also don't want to send round another email with the details of the spa package I found cos I feel like I'd be stepping on her toes a bit. Im more than grateful for everything she's done so far- its amazing and I know it'll be a fantastic weekend whatever.

I've also had friends complaining about having to travel to Bristol for the hen do/splitting the cost of my part of the hen do (which my mum is now paying in full for me cos there was so much !!!!!ing)/ travelling to Newcastle for the wedding but I'm not getting into that lol,

Sorry for bringing the mood down but just feeling a bit low

ghawdon

Oops! Sorry, didn't quite realise how long that last post was

fawny

Roz_V wrote: »

I'm sorry, I don't understand? Is browsing MSE not classed as working?! :rotfl:

:rotfl:Well it is in my book:D

Ok so now I can see the pics:D Natc the dress is beautiful & such a great price:j

Roz your invites are very elegent & classy:j

ghawdon = sorry to hear you are having a tought time, don't worry about moaning on here thats what we are here for we all go through it at some point. Sorry to hear you bm's are causing trouble for you, if she did not have the time to help you, it would have been nice if she had said rather than just not doing it. I'm assuming you are getting married in Newcastle if you are asking your friend to help with things up there, it must be hard sorting things fromwhere you are. As for the hen, it's always difficult i'm having mine in Birmingham as i'm in Staffordshire, but \i have friends coming from Yorkshire, Humberside & London as well so most people ar having to do some travelling for that & the wedding:rotfl: Do what you want to do & maybe mention to your bm you just want your friends round you. Hope you are feeling better soon.

natc

Thanks Roz, Fawny and ghawdon! So happy. Going back on Thursday to try on again and show my mum as she hasnt seen it yet, aside from the pic ive shown you guys :j Fawny, that is exactly how i was feeling, dreading feeling like that on my day, would completely ruin it! Everybody I have shown the pic of my 1st dress to said they think its lovely but its got to be what i feel right in hasnt it.

Thanks for the pic of your invites Roz! They look lovely! And similar style to what I would like actually....where have you got all your stuff from? Ive been looking on Ebay, but difficult when you cant touch the materials. This is an idea of what id like mine to look like....again, another pinched pic off net!
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fawny, i know the feeling about OH not liking his job, I have the same problem here...he hates his job, only started about 6 weeks ago after working for the council for 4 years, left there as it was mundane and ideally wants to be self employed, but took another job elsewhere which seemed to offer better prospectgs, seems he jumped out of the frying pan into fire as they say But he has had an interview today for the NHS and sounds very promising. (He is a gardener incase you were thinking he wanted to be a self employed brain surgeon!) Awww your poor H2B , something else will come along soon hope you have had a good talk and seen what the options are.

ghawdon, sorry you are having problems with your BM. Its really difficult pleasing everyone isnt it! Just this week, after saying that its exaclty upto me what i do for my wedding, its my day (had problems with my real dad in the beginning), my mum is NOT happy that my Step mum wants to come along to look at my dress on Thursday with us!!! What a fricking nightmare! Ive told her to stop stamping her feet! LOL Shes OK now....

What a 'mare. Has she not replied to anything youve sent her recently? I think ppl should understand that some venues only have a certain amount of guests allowed during the day, and that you would want the closest ppl to you to be there. And that you are paying for them to be there too. It sounds like your other BM's partner has a lot of right to be there if you consider him a close friend, its entirely upto you! Why do BM's end up being the bridezillas?!!! lol! That is the main reason I decided on young BMs only. My oldest one is 6! :T Your BMs should be there for you, not to add to stress. If she doesnt reply, why dont you give her another email or text and just ask her in a jesting way if you have upset her or is everything ok as youve not heard anything back from her in a while. x

Roz_V

Hi Nat, I bought the card wallets, inserts & envelopes from Craftcreations.com, and the ribbon & heart buckles from eBay. I ordered a couple of sizes and colours first to check the quality, colour etc, and to make sure I could actually make the invitations look like the picture I'd seen, and then ordered the full quantities when I was happy. They've cost £50 for 75, just need to get cutting & sticking now!!

Ghawdon, sorry to hear about your BMs the one kicking up a fuss about the +1s is just being selfish IMO, you're being more than fair in inviting him to the evening - wouldn't he just be on his own for most of the day anyway as BM should be helping you?! As for the one helping with the hen, could it just be a mistake that she missed your offer off the email? Maybe reply to the email and say "did you forget about this one? I thought it looked like a good offer" - that way you don't email the full group and look like stepping on her toes? On a brighter note, your mum sounds amazing :A If things are getting on top of you, maybe have a weekend or two away from wedding stuff? Even just doing nothing over the long bank holiday may help :grouphug:

Re. Hen parties, I need a minimum of 10 people for my hen do (in Bristol ), I invited 16 who all said yes, but now 6 have dropped out for various reasons. This hasn't bothered me, it's the fact that only one of them has actually bothered to tell me that they can no longer come, the others have all told mutual friends who have then passed the message on :rant: surely that's just basic manners?! ijust hope nobody else drops on me or I won't be able to do the cocktail making final balance has to be paid in 3 weeks...

White_Sapphire

Hi all!

Welcome back ghawdon, I'm sorry that some people are being awkward. :mad: It's such a shame when weddings bring out the worst in people. Don't have any advice to add to that you've already received, so have a ((((hug))))

Natalie, the new dress is stunning, especially the detail at the hem! :T Hopefully you'll be able to sell the other one - it's absolutely right that you need to feel right in your dress, as I have found out!

Beautiful invites Roz! Simple and elegant, lovely!

Yesterday we reached the 4 MONTH MARK!!! Seriously, could time please just SLOW THE :eek::eek::eek::eek: DOWN for a bit!! :rotfl: Still got invites to sort out, the hen to organise, a dress to finish, travel and accommodation info to give to guests, vows to write, music and readings to choose, etc...... My sweet peas are also looking very sickly, as I think they have been drowned by the recent rain, so I've bought some back up seed in case it's needed. I'm also working more hours than normal, as two people have left recently, which is great for the bank balance, but less so for wedding planning time!!

It'll all get done, I know, but now would be a good time for someone to present me with a Time Turner like Hermione Granger's in Harry Potter!!

Scotsbride

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Scotsbride, sorry to hear you are having problems regarding the holiday house, can't you pull rank on them or something, have a brizilla moment:D- Had a major brizillia moment not helped at tall by OH saying I knew this was going to happen so emailed my Dad who emailed my aunt who rang me up and said don't stress she and her husband can stay with your uncle along with her brother his wife and the dog. I know my dad and her talked cause my dad always telling me not to stress!

Nothing new from me, H2B has just sent me an email saying he is really not happy at work & needs to run through a few options with me tonight - :eek: I hate emails like that-I will now spend all day worry what he is thinking. I knew there was something wrong & he has been really quiet & not just because ManU lost last night!! Last few morning he has been up really early like 6am on Sat & Sun saying he could not sleep & generally looking unhappy, so at least I know what the problem is now just how we will sort it, roll on 5pm so I can go home- Hope you get it sorted I hate emails like that too thankfully my OH doesn't do emails or mobiles or passtports until he meet me although he has them he's only topped his mobile up by £10 once in 3 years!

I'm sorry, I don't understand? Is browsing MSE not classed as working?! :rotfl:

It's working in my book seeing as until the doctor signs me off as fit I can't go back to work! In fact organising a wedding is a full time job.



Nat the dress is beautiful- love the lace!- Ditto This like one I tried on sadly it didn't work on me. too pear shaped and too short! but you'll look beautiful in it.

Feeling a bit down this morning over wedding stuff.... Feel like I've been getting a lot of hassle recently. One of my bridesmaids has gone a bit awol- she was a bit put out when I said she wouldn't be able to bring her boyfriend to the reception. I've only ever met him once and they've not been together that long. She assumed she would be able to bring a +1 as she was bridesmaid even though I've never even so much as hinted that she can. As a rule we're generally not inviting partners- we don't have the space/money to invite all the family/friends we want to the day so why should we have to make room for peoples partners that we barely know?! I've said he can come to the evening which I think is fair. I think she's upset because I've invited another one of my BM partners but I've known him for longer than I've known my BM, I am godmother to his son and he was my housemate at one point!! Am I being unfair?? My other 2 BMs partners are not invited (including my sisters!)
She's been really quiet since I told her this, not replying to emails/texts etc. She lives in Newcastle and I've asked her to do a couple of weddingy related things for me that I need done up there (I live in Bristol) and she's just not done them- I feel like I don't have much support from her at the moment. It's like shes happy to be a bridesmaid without the responsibility! I've had to ask my mum to do the things i asked my BM on top of her making all the stationery, the cake, organising my hair and makeup and she's currently studying for an exam at work!

My other issue is my hen party. First the organising started off well with all 4 BMs sorting it out between them. Recently, it has all fallen on one of them which she is fine about- shes been getting extra help from my mum too. We were going to book a spa day as part of the weekend and she sent me a list of places she found a while back- most we're either miles away or really expensive. I found a package within walking distance from my house £45 which includes a facial, a back and shoulder massage and lunch but said it would probably be best to ask everyones opinion as I know cost is an issue for a lot of people and I don't want people to say they can't come because they're put off by cost. I'd rather have all my friends there and do nothing! She sent an email round last night with all the spa options but completely left out the one I found. BM herself is a final year student so is pretty skint herself- I kind of get the impression that she can't afford a spa day on top of the other activities we have planned so therefore just sent out a list of the more expensive options (which in all honesty I wouldn't pay for as they're all overpriced and miles away from my house). I don't mind not going to a spa but I'd rather she told me that she doesnt think she'll be able to afford it. I also don't want to send round another email with the details of the spa package I found cos I feel like I'd be stepping on her toes a bit. Im more than grateful for everything she's done so far- its amazing and I know it'll be a fantastic weekend whatever.

I've also had friends complaining about having to travel to Bristol for the hen do/splitting the cost of my part of the hen do (which my mum is now paying in full for me cos there was so much !!!!!ing)/ travelling to Newcastle for the wedding but I'm not getting into that lol,

Sorry for bringing the mood down but just feeling a bit low Hey we all get low feel free to rant I'm sure that all would argree we are all here to support each other through good and bad and we all have ups and downs be it with bridemaidzillas guestzillas etc!