12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

pigpen

I have loads of babies they are all pretty much the same.. loud, snot, poo, pee, keep you awake.. kittens are so much better.. litter trained.. feed 2 or 3 times a day.. deflea and deworm.. sorted...

mizzbiz

pigpen wrote: »

I have loads of babies they are all pretty much the same.. loud, snot, poo, pee, keep you awake.. kittens are so much better.. litter trained.. feed 2 or 3 times a day.. deflea and deworm.. sorted...

Apart from the snots, my cat and kitten are no different to your kids. Clingier too!

pigpen

mizzbiz wrote: »

Apart from the snots, my cat and kitten are no different to your kids. Clingier too!

I have 6 cats and they are all a breeze compared to just 1 of my brood...

Apart from the furry shark that bites me whenever I walk past on the stairs!

jenjade

pigpen wrote: »

I have 6 cats and they are all a breeze compared to just 1 of my brood...

Apart from the furry shark that bites me whenever I walk past on the stairs!

is furry shark the name of one of your kids? And i was stuck for baby names i must become a bit more creative...

Blue_Monkey

Hi ladies! Haven't been on for a while as we've been busy at work and socially! Hope you're all doing ok?!

Yesterday evening I was horrific. No idea what was really wrong with me (though I'd been feeling super-sicky all day) but I was vile to OH....

It's our anniversary round about now (we don't know the actual date) and it's a long weekend coming up here in Oz, so I'd asked OH if he'd had any ideas what we could do. He looked a bit vague, and I got a bit cross. This will be our 9th anniversary and I've been hoping for a proposal for a couple of years now - which he knows.

OH cooked a nice dinner and shortly after I announced that I was grumpy and tired and was taking myself off to bed (at 8:50pm).

Then I got into bed and stropped (loudly) as I'd forgotten to order my friend's birthday pressie online and needed to do it there and then otherwise it wouldn't get to her on time. So I burst into tears, and ranted at OH that I was fed up with having to do all the grown up things (like ordering birthday presents and arranging anniversary fun). I also said that some people have a husband to make them feel better, or who arrange lovely things for their anniversaries and that I don't even have a husband. He looked like rabbit caught in headlights - had no idea how to deal with my outburst (which made me even crosser), shut the bedroom door, left me crying and spent the night on the sofa!

So - today I feel the best physically I've felt for weeks (practially no sickness), but am now feeling slightly shame-faced about my hissy-fit last night. OH has generally been great and has looked after me loads whilst I've been feeling gross.

But.... whilst I shouldn't have got cross like that, I know that part of it is because it really bothers me that he hasn't proposed. We talk about about getting married all the time and have done for years, but his standard, ironic-trying-to-be-funny answer is "don't rush me"....... I didn't want to be an unmarried mum, I don't want to have a different surname to my baby (or for him to have a different surname to the baby if it has mine). It's now more important to me than ever and he knows this - and says that he agrees.

Given that this is our last anniversary just the two of us before baby arrives, and whilst we're living in lovely Sydney for just a few more months, I'd really hoped that he'd have something special lined up this weekend to celebrate (and yes, to propose too).

He is very sweet and considerate a lot of the time and I know that we'll be together forever... We do lots of nice things together but its mainly because I've suggested/arranged it - he just seems cluless when it comes to booking stuff or looking into it and you know what - right now, I want some effing romance - I want him to book something and surprise me and treat me. Now would be the perfect time (anniversary, long weekend, newly preggo) but I know he's got nothing sorted and before long we'll be back in the UK where we'll be rushed off our feet settling back in, getting work sorted, finding somewhere to live, then having a baby - so if he doesn't propose now, I don't know when he will. He knows that I would love love love to get married on our 10 year anniversary next June, but doesn't seem to connect the dots (ie need to propose, have time to plan in between moving across the world and having a baby etc).

So I do feel bad for unleashing the hormonal beast, but my underlying gripes still exist. And what makes it worse, is that I now don't want him to propose just because I've nagged him into it :cool:

He says that I'm demanding - I reply with the fact that I thnk I've been very patient. And that at 31 years old, 9 years in to a long-term relationship and 3 months pregnant, it's not that outlandish to want to get married (when we've been talking about it for years anyway - grrr).

Sorry - properly waffling now; needed to get that off my chest....

Blue_Monkey

Thank you, thank you, thank you MizzBizz! It's reassuring to know I'm not alone. I don't seriously think he's just having me on, but I just got all impatient... We've had a big talk tonight and I think he finally sees how important it all is... Now just remains to be seen as to how the words get put into actions

He is so lovely, and I think my outburst was a bit of a suprise to him last night - I wish I'd taken a photo of his face - baffled/scared/horrified/overwhelmed/gobsmacked - I must've looked a right state too - mascara all down my face, and greasy mophead hair...................... I'm a bit of an Unstable Mabel at the best of times, so pregnancy is clearly going to turn me insane

The joys!

Kitten_Pie

Hey Blue Monkey, if its any help I have been married 2 1/2 years and had to give OH an ultimatum.

I informed him quite calmly that we had been dating for 7 years and living together for 6, if he didn't propose soon then he was probably never going to do it. I told him I had a date in my head and that if he hadn't proposed by then then I was prepared to leave. - I think that shocked him quite a bit and he did propose within 6 months (went over the date that I had set but had brought the ring so thought I would let him off a little)

With regards to emotional rants. I don't think I have been too harsh on OH but I have been very emotional, hyper one minute and then in sobs the next. His been quite supportive about it all.

pebblespop

i had my nuchal transluceny scan 4 weeks ago and i haven't had the results yet.

i had my 16 week midwife last week but it was when they couldn't hear the heartbeat and packed me off for a scan so maybe they forgot to tell me.

should i have got a letter or the midwife tell me the results? who should i ring to find out the results?

not really worried as the measurement was very small and they just needed to follow up with blood test before giving the result but i would like to know.

mizzbiz

pebblespop wrote: »

i had my nuchal transluceny scan 4 weeks ago and i haven't had the results yet.

i had my 16 week midwife last week but it was when they couldn't hear the heartbeat and packed me off for a scan so maybe they forgot to tell me.

should i have got a letter or the midwife tell me the results? who should i ring to find out the results?

not really worried as the measurement was very small and they just needed to follow up with blood test before giving the result but i would like to know.

I got my results by letter about a week after the scan. I would chase up your midwife about this - she should be able to track the results down for you.

SkipE

I got my letter three weeks after my scan. I started to panic as I was told 2 weeks but my midwife said to wait. I thought they had lost my bloods or something (wouldnt be the first time)

Could you maybe give the hospital a call to find out? If you have your NHS number it should be fairly easy.