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LittleBoots Big Dreams
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I hated finding out that my ex found someone but now I don't give two hoots. You will be like that soon. Break-ups are never easy. You just need to remember that you are fab and are too good for him!0
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LittleBoots wrote: »Having a down day
poor me!
Poor you - are you feeling better? :ASometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes - that's why we need really special ones!Total debt @ Oct 2008: £29,226.42 Credit Card- £[STRIKE]7493.56[/STRIKE] - £7243.56Weightloss : 0/34lbs0 -
Hmm my down day turned into pretty much a down week
. Have been festering and finding it hard to pick myself up this time. Had a lot of false positivity before. Now I know I have to move on I have no idea what to do.
Sorry for the glumness, my lent thing ain't going so well!0 -
When my last 'proper' relationship ended I was in a dark place for a while. I made lots of teeny tiny steps until I realised that I made huge changes in my life.
Sundays aren't a part of Lent anyway so eat as much choccy as you want!0 -
shinytoaster wrote: »When my last 'proper' relationship ended I was in a dark place for a while. I made lots of teeny tiny steps until I realised that I made huge changes in my life.
Sundays aren't a part of Lent anyway so eat as much choccy as you want!
Thank-YouI had been making wee changes but have been totally floored this week. Keeping myself busy next week so hopefully will be okay
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I ended up going to the doctors who referred me for therapy (I had other stuff going on as well) and I will never forget my doctor saying that I must always remember that when I start feeling gloomy that the feelings will soon go as every beginning has an end. And he was right.0
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Hi LB,
can totally relate to the falsely positive thingbut am much more aware of it now. Sounds like you have made massive changes to your life already, it's good to keep a diary like this as you can look back and see how far you have come.
Ex moving on, well it sure is tough. But, I saw this on someone else's diary, can't remember whose, and will be keeping it with me. What is for you, won't pass you by.
And also, my music teacher has been telling me repeatedly, you are making massive, massive changes to yourself and your life, and the other person who maybe isn't doing that (your ex), is not seeing things in the same way, i.e. they maybe grasping at straws because they haven't faced all their demons etc.
I hope that makes sense. I love reading your diary, you have a lot of spirit and I think you are doing just great. I think it's important to wallow a little when wallowing is required, I know i did it a lot last year
Big hugs and lots of love!
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Thanks little_h, I think whats getting to me is I now know that there were lots of lies told by him while we were together and my happy memories are kinda tainted. The stupid thing is I think I always knew deep down but convinced myself otherwise. Looks like the gut instinct should always be trusted, I just tried to ignore mine. The good thing is that it has lifted that feeling I had of him being the most amazing person in the world! I dont think he ever intentionally meant to hurt me, I think he just says things he thinks people want to hear (even if its a total misleading lie) without thinking of the long term effects.
Rant over, I am trying to find myself again, thinking about what I want in the near future. Fresh new start i guess0 -
shinytoaster wrote: »I ended up going to the doctors who referred me for therapy (I had other stuff going on as well) and I will never forget my doctor saying that I must always remember that when I start feeling gloomy that the feelings will soon go as every beginning has an end. And he was right.
Sound like an understanding doctor you have, theres 2 doctors at my local. One is amazing therefore always booked up, the other is bonkers! Actually bonkers, she is all hippy and new age like, disagrees with things like the pill, not sure how she got to become a GP!0 -
Oh you poor thing! Having read my ramblings you will know that I have been there too, although the lies/misleadings were about different things.
At least you know it wasn't you doing anything bad.
May I recommend a good listening to of the Paloma Faith album. Particularly tracks 2 and 4 (4 is Do you want the truth or something beautiful!) which are about lies, lies, lies.
(and I am saying this while trying desperately to listen to my own advice) - at least you know now that he wasn't as great as you thought. It is brutal, and it does taint things as you say. I made the decision that it wouldn't affect my looking for the good in everyone, but it would make me that bit more aware that not everyone was always quite what they said they were, and there is a difference between that awareness and complete bitterness/cynicism. I am not bitter/twisted/cynical despite some people giving me reason to be!0
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