Crush

pupsicola

When he is in a happy, calm mood sit down with him and ask him how he feels about the relationship. Throw the ball into his court. Tell him from the off that you love him very much but that there are things that are said sometimes or things he does that upset and annoy you. Most people, when approached by their partner in that manner, would want to talk things through. If they still cared about the relationship they would want to work things out.

You are the mum to his kids and his partner. He should respect your feelings enough to want to sort this out. If he throws a tantrum and refuses to deal with it what does that say to you? A partnership is all about give and take and being able to compromise. If one person is always getting their own way and railroading the other thats not a relationship.

I guess his response will give you a good idea of where you both are at and help with whatever you decide to do next.

Crushed

Yes i think that's what i'm going to have to do, have a big talk and try and see if we can save this relationship. If not then no one can say i didn't try. As for the other man i have no idea how to stop these feelings.

GoToGal

Crushed wrote: »

As for the other man i have no idea how to stop these feelings.

I think you'll find it all comes out in the wash, so to speak. I used to have the world's biggest crush on a very dear friend :eek: but once I'd resolved my own unhappiness issues, the feelings melted away.