Crush

Janey3

I think we all feel like this at times, that the grass might be greener elsewhere, but it isn't always the case. I think you are in need of some TLC from your partner. How is he horrible to you?

Crushed

I text him earlier to tell him i was being promoted and was expecting him to come in and be happy for me and maybe say well done but all he did was moan about how he had to wait 10 minutes for his tea.

When we argue he tells me how useless i am and goes on and on and on until i just switch off and ignore him. It feels like the happier i am the more he needs to bring me down IYSWIM.

I think i'm over sensitive at the moment too because i am feeling guilty and i am comparing him to this other man who seems to be so sweet and caring.

swiss69

Crushed wrote: »

I'm trying really hard to be nice to my Partner because i'm feeling guilty for feeling like this. Then when he's horrible to me i think well i bet the other man wouldn't treat me like this.

I bet he would after a couple of years ! Most men like the thrill of the chase and the initial honeymoon period better than the day to day drearyness of bills, kids and the rest of what a long term relationship brings.

swiss69

Janey3 wrote: »

I think we all feel like this at times, that the grass might be greener elsewhere, but it isn't always the case. I think you are in need of some TLC from your partner. How is he horrible to you?

Sometimes it is much greener though!

Crushed

I just don't know what to do. If i could find out that the other man wasn't interested then maybe the crush would go away.

swiss69

Crushed wrote: »

I just don't know what to do. If i could find out that the other man wasn't interested then maybe the crush would go away.

If his emails/phone chats are flirty then he is interested. If they are not then it is unlikely he is interested. We can sense when a woman likes us generally and we act accordingly.

Crushed

I wouldn't call them flirty more friendly and all contact has been work related. He has asked all of us to go for a drink with them on our last day together but that's about it. He has helped me more than was expected of him. I really don't know if he likes me or not and i can't just come out and ask him.

Janey3

Aaw, yes, I can see why your thoughts are wandering and I wouldn't be feeling guilty but enjoy your "secret". Your partner seems to be jealous of you, perhaps things at work are not going so well for him and he's going through a bad patch. Your not useless and he knows it. Have you told him how he is making you feel when he goes on at you?

Crushed

I tried to tell him tonight how hurt i felt that he didn't even acknowledge my promotion but as soon as i started he told me he'd walk out if i said anymore. So i told him to go but he didn't. I can't talk to him because it just turns into an argument which turns into him ranting at me for hours and then apologising the next day.

Janey3

It doesn't look like all the problems have been worked through judging by his behaviour, or whether he's going through a rough patch, but not nice for you to be ranted at and I can understand your "crush" even more.