18 mth old crying in night neighbours complaining??

aliasojo

asquiths wrote: »

A girl answered the door and I started to explain. She was mortified!
She told me the lad who has the room next to ours is in the middle of being evicted due to not paying his rent. She said he had quit uni before xmas and was addicted to his xbox and online poker which he plays all night then sleeps all day!!!! She couldn't appologise enough she told me not to worry and said she would tell him.

See what communication does. :D

Glad it's been straightened out and good luck with the little one.

money_honey

Brilliant! Glad the neighbours were ok in the end, as as PP said, good luck with the sleep issue.

galvanizersbaby

That's great news Asquiths - good luck with the LO

Mojisola

asquiths wrote: »

Went back to old routine last night. Got her to bed at 10, she woke up at 3.30 and i just put her in bed with us. She went straight back off to sleep.

Am going to keep doing this for week or so to reenergise myself b4 trying to reduce the time 15mins a week.

As for the neighbour well.....
I went around this morning due to hubby being back from work late yesterday.
I decided to knock with a bottle of wine and an explaination.
A girl answered the door and I started to explain. She was mortified!
She told me the lad who has the room next to ours is in the middle of being evicted due to not paying his rent. She said he had quit uni before xmas and was addicted to his xbox and online poker which he plays all night then sleeps all day!!!! She couldn't appologise enough she told me not to worry and said she would tell him.

Thanks for all your support now i feel like the pressure is off abit it might help us all settle down.

Great result all round. You'll feel like different people after a few nights' sleep. You can see why sleep deprivation is used as a torture method, can't you?

milliebear00001

I'd say ignore your (nosy and useless) HV and go back to doing what was obviously already working for you and your family!

Oh, and ignore your incredibly stupid neighbour!

Mupette

I'd like to give you a view on this from a neighbours point of view.

At the weekends i go the OH house for respite, and we have issues with one of our neighbours and their children,

6pm ish every evening we hear the children screaming and banging on the doors as they are put to bed, and they are left, you get the odd, shout of shut up, but mostly the screams and banging.

and then from about 7am in the morning the screams and banging again for at least 3 hours until the parents get up, at least of of the children is locked in their room, they claim he has ADHD although they admit that they do not have a dx from a doctor. They have taken this title and used it to brand their child for his behavior

Occasionally we talk over the fence but every time we talk about their kids, its oh yeah he has adhd that's why we lock him in his room to stop him disturbing the others.

I am assuming/hoping that the children have potties in their rooms, it annoys me as i need all the rest i can get, and there is our box room between our bedroom and the children next door, but the screams are piercing.

I wonder OP do your neighbours feel they can approach you?
Perhaps you can go and talk to them and explain what you are trying to do?

We don't feel we can approach our neighbours, ok we don't bang on the walls, be we do feel very resentful of them when we are loosing out on rest and sleep, especially as i am ill and i need this rest.

butler_helen

Muppette I'm with you, I suffer from night terrors and need a routine myself, without this I suffer. However we are lucky with the neighbours we all tell each other and chat away about events coming up and children not sleeping or when to expect problems so I am armed with ear plugs and know I will lose out on sleep. Without this relationship I'd be wall banging an resemtful and to be fair when I myself am screaming no doubt the neighbours would be annoyed, but they know it's short term.

Although I would expect them to have a little more empathy for a small child than a grown adult!

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine

Sorry OP, I do empathise with it being difficult for you, but I completely get where your neighbours are coming from. Students may have lectures from 9am every week day, as well as having copious amounts of study, coursework, and revision to get through each night when they're at home. This is a madly important time for them, they're paying thousands of pounds to try and attain a degree(on top of accommodation) - having to try and get through often intensely difficult lectures on the minimum of sleep, for months at a time - must be absolutely horrible! I probably wouldn't be feeling best disposed to come to your house to speak about your child constantly keeping me up at night either, and possibly would be feeling a little irrational and bang on the wall if I was awoken for the umpteenth time that night!

For the past few weeks, all undergrad students will have been revising for and attending exams - I can't imagine how frustrated and desperate they must be feeling, contending with a screaming child waking them up at all hours of the night. At the end of the day, sorry to sound harsh, but they didn't choose to have a baby - it'd be common courtesy to go around in person and apologise, and also look into setting up the cot downstairs / in a room furthest away from the neighbours bedrooms.

skintchick

Great news! Sounds like the neighbours are fine and you're getting things sorted the way that works for you and your family. Result!

aliasojo

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine wrote: »

Sorry OP, I do empathise with it being difficult for you, but I completely get where your neighbours are coming from. Students may have lectures from 9am every week day, as well as having copious amounts of study, coursework, and revision to get through each night when they're at home. This is a madly important time for them, they're paying thousands of pounds to try and attain a degree(on top of accommodation) - having to try and get through often intensely difficult lectures on the minimum of sleep, for months at a time - must be absolutely horrible! I probably wouldn't be feeling best disposed to come to your house to speak about your child constantly keeping me up at night either, and possibly would be feeling a little irrational and bang on the wall if I was awoken for the umpteenth time that night!

For the past few weeks, all undergrad students will have been revising for and attending exams - I can't imagine how frustrated and desperate they must be feeling, contending with a screaming child waking them up at all hours of the night. At the end of the day, sorry to sound harsh, but they didn't choose to have a baby - it'd be common courtesy to go around in person and apologise, and also look into setting up the cot downstairs / in a room furthest away from the neighbours bedrooms.

Tut tut...someone hasn't read the whole thread. :D