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Am I mean
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This man is a gold digger. When people use this term most usually think of a woman but that is just a stereotype. There are just as many male gold diggers out there of which he is one. You are being used and disrespected. You deserve better.0
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If I were out of work and my partner was paying everything, I would be spend every single morning, 0900-1300 looking for a job. ANY job. Cleaning, babysitting, gardening, waitressing, washing dishes - anything. And I would spend every afternoon taking care of the house so that I was doing equal work (as I would treat job-hunting itself as a job) to the person working full time.
Redundancy is tough, and of course it's right to support your partner. But I can't believe he's found absolutely nothing, and yet doesn't nothing around the house, gambles what he does have and has managed to strip for walls and paint a ceiling in a year. When I stopped work for 3 weeks I had my entire house re-carpeted, re-painted (every single room) and not a speck of dust to be seen - and I did that alone.
He's taking you for an absolute mug. I'd give him an ultimatum: unless he spends every day looking for work and does ALL the housework (and I mean ALL) then he gets nothing.
If he were already doing this, and desperately job hunting then I'd be encouraging you to support him but I don't believe this is the case...!
KiKi' <-- See that? It's called an apostrophe. It does not mean "hey, look out, here comes an S".0 -
When he's got a spare minute, after he's finished sulking, you wanna show him this thread!!
Sorry but he's a dead leg.
:heart2:Baby boy due 4th March 2011:heart2:0 -
If you're paying for sky and you're in debt, I suggest you cancel it until your finances are better, or until he can pay for it. Why should you get yourself in to debt to pay for his luxuries? Paying for essentials is one thing, but luxuries is another.
Kiki - please can I have your motivation, even just a little bit will do? I'm on maternity leave and only manage about half of what I want to do each day
If having different experiences, thoughts and ideas to you, or having an opinion that you don't understand, makes me a troll, then I am proud to be a 100% crying, talking, sleeping, walking, living Troll. :hello:0 -
The_New_Caz wrote: »No nothing
In that case, to answer your question "Am I mean" - no you're not, but you do need to screw your head on a little tighter..................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0 -
hngrymummy wrote: »Kiki - please can I have your motivation, even just a little bit will do? I'm on maternity leave and only manage about half of what I want to do each day
I wouldn't worry, being on maternity leave is different - no-one would expect your day to be jam packed with activities and keeping the house spotless etc!0 -
hngrymummy wrote: »Kiki - please can I have your motivation, even just a little bit will do? I'm on maternity leave and only manage about half of what I want to do each day
Yeah - you have a BABY to look after! That's more than enough, quite frankly! The house can wait!
But yes, I'm happy to share.
KiKi' <-- See that? It's called an apostrophe. It does not mean "hey, look out, here comes an S".0 -
He sounds like his chancing getting more out of you. Maybe not in a mean way but he obviously doesn't mind letting you foot the bill. Is he not on JSA or any other kind of benefits?
I'd sit him down, if you haven't already, and say you've got debts which need paying off and they come first. Then explain to him that you are going through all your finances and cutting back and actually cut back. Sky can go to start with, get a freesat card. My boyfriend's parents have that and it's great, more than adequate (I have bogstandard freeview on an Argos Value box). Then look at your other areas of spending - do you buy high quality food, do you do a big shop once a week or lots of little bits? If you want ideas how to save the pennies and you haven't already checked it out the OS boards on here. This shows him you're really serious about paying off your debts and making savings which will kind of hammer it home to him. Also he doesn't sound like the kind of man to embrace frugal living (I may be wrong) so it might be the kick up the *** he needs!!
With the season ticket don't buy him it. It's a luxury he definitely doesn't need! If he has a birthday coming up you could buy him a ticket for it but I wouldn't give him money for it. If he has to have it go and buy it yourself! With his gambling issues, depressed or not, he can't be trusted with the money.0 -
I am sorry but everyone on here is completely right. Why are you with this guy? Saying he is acting like a child is an insult to children. You are not his slave why should you go out to work only to give him all the money to amuse himself whilst he sits on his backside? I really hope this thread is a wake up call and you decide either he changes or he is out the door!0
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