"so why don't you want children?"

tbourner

shellsuit wrote: »

If a woman is 47, healthy, plus she is financially sound and is in a loving relationship, then I don't think it's too old at all.

Neither do I.

rachbc

shellsuit wrote: »

If a woman is 47, healthy, plus she is financially sound and is in a loving relationship, then I don't think it's too old at all.

Put any age into the above and it's still the right age.

ha ha, this is funny - I'm 37, healthy, financially sound (ish) and in a loving relationship and now is absolutely not the right time for me to have a child.

however, when I was 23, healthy (ish) not financially sound, nor in a loving relationship I managed it perfectly well!

thebaileys

shellsuit wrote: »

If a woman is 47, healthy, plus she is financially sound and is in a loving relationship, then I don't think it's too old at all.


Im sure some older Mam's will be great parents, but I can't help thinking the child is going to be without there parent/parents at a young age.

Could you really be bothered with a 21 year old, coming home late etc at the age of 67?

My Gran was 44 when she had my Mam, but my ,Mam has been without her mother since the age of 30, and her Father since she was 26 she oftens feels sad when she looks at friends her age, who still have parents.

shellsuit

thebaileys wrote: »

shellsuit wrote: »

If a woman is 47, healthy, plus she is financially sound and is in a loving relationship, then I don't think it's too old at all.


Im sure some older Mam's will be great parents, but I can't help thinking the child is going to be without there parent/parents at a young age.

Could you really be bothered with a 21 year old, coming home late etc at the age of 67?

My Gran was 44 when she had my Mam, but my ,Mam has been without her mother since the age of 30, and her Father since she was 26 she oftens feels sad when she looks at friends her age, who still have parents.

My husband is 30 and lost his Mum when he was 6 to breast cancer, so anyone can be without a Mum at a young age, regardless of how old the Mother is.

I understand what you're saying though, because I wouldn't like to be woken up by a youngster when I'm in my 60's, but for some people, that would be fine and wouldn't bother them.

shellsuit

rachbc wrote: »

ha ha, this is funny - I'm 37, healthy, financially sound (ish) and in a loving relationship and now is absolutely not the right time for me to have a child.

however, when I was 23, healthy (ish) not financially sound, nor in a loving relationship I managed it perfectly well!

It was just my opinion, it wasn't gospel.

I was in the same situ as you when I was younger and managed it perfectly well too.

I just think the ideal circs around having a baby would be the ones I mentioned, that's all.

scooby088

I am 36 now and i cant really be bothered with having children my only reasons are i am selfish and that i dont like children in particular. I too was given the burden of actually being the last one to carry the family name on it dies with me, as my sister is gay and she too doesnt want any children.

As for age if i wanted them i'd have had them by now.

Mister_aaa

A friend of mine summed it quite well.

Children are like farts. You can put up with your own, but you think everybody elses are disgusting.

sportbeth

missbishi wrote: »

Neither me or OH have ever wanted children either, but at 34, I'm sick of people telling me that "time is running out"! Thankfully, my mother is very accepting of this and does not think it is her "right" to have a grandchild. Possibly the worst thing I ever heard was "Who's going to look after you in your old age?"

Do people really have children for this reason?

I've heard this one a million times (also childfree by choice or a "lifestyle choicer" as I once heard it called)

Ricky Gervais's partner once said in a magazine interview "why on earth would I do something that I know will make me unhappy for the next 18 years of my life just so that I can be happy for the last 3 years of my life?" now I just quote this to people.

tbourner

Mister_aaa wrote: »

Children are like farts. You can put up with your own, but you think everybody elses are disgusting.

I'm completely the opposite, I love kids as long as I can give them back when they !!!!!! in their pants and start screaming.

thebaileys

shellsuit wrote: »

thebaileys wrote: »

My husband is 30 and lost his Mum when he was 6 to breast cancer, so anyone can be without a Mum at a young age, regardless of how old the Mother is.

I understand what you're saying though, because I wouldn't like to be woken up by a youngster when I'm in my 60's, but for some people, that would be fine and wouldn't bother them.

Sorry to hear that, I know that being a young mum definatly doesn't mean you will be in there lives for many years to come, as tragic things can happen.

My MIL had her youngest when she was 43, he is coming up to 13 now, and is finding it very hard going. On the other hand you see some 56 year old's that are young and spritely for the age, and could cope with a 13 year old no problem. So I suppose it depends on the person and there lifestyle etc...