July 2012 Brides and Grooms

MrsDrink

Tracey - don't panic about booking your notice. When I provisional booked our ceremony date (with the registry office), they sent me a letter saying I had a window of two months (I think) to get our notice done else the date I wanted may be given to someone else. The two months started from 1 year before the date of the ceremony. Being the super organised freak that I am, I just went onto Lincolnshire councils website and booked a time slot within that two month period. (I checked today and ours is on the 1st August). Remember though (I think I'm right -someone will correct me) you don't need to give notice if you are being married in church cause (I think) the baams (spelling?) are the church equivalent. When I booked ours all the slots on the weeks within the window was empty so I wouldn't worry about making sure you get it booked. (But obviously don't leave it too late).

(I am supposed to be exercising not typing on here)

My advice LauraR - would be to sit down with your Groom-to-be and ask yourselves are you happy with the decisions made so far. If the answer is no - either to it all or just part of it - then change it (either wipe the slate clean and start again, or just redo parts of it). xx

Lauralou

Hi

No wedding bits to report. Think i will start playing round with the invites during Half term. woohoo only 1 1/2 weeks left:D

Emma that is a good price for your DJ.

Laura Sorry to hear your having doubts about your venue. I would do what natalie suggested sit down with OH and talk it all through. Is there not anyway you could cut down numbers and invite them to the evening only?

Tracey dont worry i havnt booked to give notice yet either but i think i may ring so i can see how much in advance we will need to book to give notice. I'm thinking maybe off doing it in october half term.

Silaqui

Hi everyone!

Well I got my invitations delivered today - they are THESE ones (cheap, me... nah :rotfl: 20p per invite though, woop!)

I did toy with the idea of making my own but it would have cost too much to get the finish I wanted so decided to go totally the other way and go with cheap and cheerful - these are ok as they're nice and simple.

Laura, what is it you are more bothered about - would you rather keep the big guest list, or the venue you already have? I have a similar dilemma in that we have too many guests to fit into our venue, but I love the place so it'll be snip snip for me!
I would have a good sit down and chat about whats most important to you both, then maybe go for a drive round your local area? Google for party venues as well as venues, they do weddings in the strangest of places! And also if you were planning to do the ceremony and party in the same place, could you possible do the ceremony at a reg office then have the party elsewhere? Might open up your options a bit.

Thats a fab price for the DJ Emma - ours is quite a bit more than that but mostly because he has to set up in the morning. But he did play for Barack Obama not so long back lol.

Right - what in the blazes is giving notice and do I have to do it? Is it the same as having your banns read? Because I think the church do that included in their price... will have to check. Talking of churches, my grandad is getting us bell ringers for free haha.

Although my mum was talking about flowers the other day (which I still don't want) and there is someone getting married in the church on the same day, earlier that us. Do people normally take their flowers and stuff with them? I don't want some other brides skanky flowers left in there?

Hope you have all had a good day xxx

MrsDrink

Silaqui wrote: »

Right - what in the blazes is giving notice and do I have to do it? Is it the same as having your banns read? Because I think the church do that included in their price... will have to check. Talking of churches, my grandad is getting us bell ringers for free haha.

Me and one of the Lauras was talking about this the other week. I think we worked out that having your banns read in church is the same for giving notice at a registry office. Why not ask your church guy (priest/vicar?) about it when you next see him to put your mind at ease? (Or you could phone your local registry office and ask them )

Can't help with the flowers question - as I'm not getting married in a church. I do know the registry office has a flower arrangement on the mantle piece but I have no control over that - it's just whatever they are using that week/month.

Great news about the invites.... yea I have priced up everything we've spent doing our own invites and thank you cards, including things like my cutting mat, my craft knife and blades, my glue, writable CDs... it comes to £92.12 for 25 invites & 25 thank you cards. Not very MSE!! (But I keep telling myself if we'd gone with expensive 'home made' purchased invites/thank you cards at £2.25 each I'd have spent £134.20.

laurarobby

well i have no idea what we are going to do. we have already cut our day guests down as the church can only fit 50-60 so we have 50adults and 8 children to the day and then everyone else to the night. which was meant to keep to 90 but after talking to OH there is probly another 20-30 people we would like to come. i had a dream that we did it in our village hall and it wasnt done up or anything but i was that drunk i didnt care lol x

PinkPrincess83

LauraLou- I would ring up and check whether October would be too late, for where we are getting married we have to give notice between 28th July and 27th Sept and if we dont we could lose our booking so I would just ring up and check if you area is the same.

Well I have had a reply from the £170 dj and he has had he would stick to a strict paylist or he prefers to see what the mood of the evening is- but I know for a fact my oh doesnt want him to just play songs he thinks will get people up, he wants them to play songs that we like. The 2nd one (£180) has said he will play what will like, and although he doesnt know much in the way of Indie he is willing to give it a go. I think they will be pretty much the same but I may go for the £180 one as Ive seen him and he did play quite a lot of power ballards etc which will be just fine!!:D

Hehe LauraR, I think although we have all these images in our head of what we want, on the actual day we probably wouldnt really care as at first we will just be on cloud 9 and then after a few hrs we will be too drunk to care!!!:rotfl:. I agree with others, I think sit down with your oh and discuss possible alternatives, and if there is any alternatives maybe book to look. I also agree with not just typing in wedding reception venues, also look up village/ church halls, community centres/ social clubs, maybe bowls clubs, golf clubs, some of these options may offer you a lovely venue and it may not be that expensive, like my friends reception was in a social club but the room was lovely, mine is in a golf club and its not costing us much (£250 from 4pm-12pm and we can also set up the night before) and their caterers are very reasonable aswell.

MrsDrink

(Hugs) Laura! I really feel for you. I think reading between the lines the company of your guests is featuring quite high on your priority list. And I think it's upsetting you not being able to invite exactly who you want to. May I ask whether there is a specific reason why you've chosen your church? Is it for sentimental reasons? Or just cause it looks pretty say? If it's for sentimental reasons (like getting married in the same church as your grandparents etc) then I think you are right to trim your guest list down. If though it's just cause it looks nice etc then I would suggest look for a larger church. Have you spoken to your vicar about numbers? Is there anyway there could be some standing room only at the back for people to come?

As for the reception - again I think it's time to look at why you can only have 90 guests - is it due to the venue (sorry if you've already said)... is it too small? Or is it cost? 90 guests being cheaper than 120. Because if having peoples company is important (obviously it is), and your chosen reception venue is large enough for 120, then I would say with a few compromises here and there, and a few tightening of purse strings, you'd be able to cater for all 120 people at near the same price as planned for 90. It just means things will be different to your original thoughts - e.g. rather than a 3 course swanky meal a buffet. Instead of a live band a Dj. There are ways and means. Don't give up.
x

MrsDrink

Emma - yay that you've heard back from and chosen your DJ!

MrsDrink

I can't wait any longer... I need to do something weddingy - I'm going to make a start on the thank you cards tonight!

MrsDrink

Heh heh just started by writing my return envelopes for the writable CDs.... lol I'm getting all excited writing Mr & Mrs Drink :T OMG I can't wait!!