The Giving Up Smoking Thread - Part 3

jennyo

Hi all, just dropping in to say its still going well for me, rarely think about smoking now.
Re the chewing gum, does it have artificial sweetener in, that can have a laxitive effect if a lot is eaten.
Continue the good work everyone.

Mandamoo_3

Evening all

:mad: i cracked on the first day!!!! I have had 2. I am so cross with myself. I could give you a whole list of reasons/excuses but bottom line. I gave in. How weak am I?????

I am trying to be upbeat (failing miserably) that I only had 2 but I am just so annoyed with myself, and because you have all been so lovely, I feel I have let you down as well

Tomorrow however is a new day and I shall not fall down again.

Night night all

Mmoo

rachel_t

Don't be disheartened Mandamoo, as you say yourself, tomorrow is another day and another chance! Don't let two mistakes phase you, you can still do it!
And think of it this way, 2 cigarettes is a lot less than your previous daily amount.

Kiwisaver_2

@Mandamoo are you going cold turkey? Perhaps might be an idea to have a back up plan, a wee crutch or so with the aid of some lozenges or gum to take the edge off any further urges to relapse. Don't be hard on yourself, you can afterall only give up smoking one cigarette at a time and every single one that you don't smoke is a step in the right direction.

Hopefully day two will be easier, dust yourself off and dump all your smoking paraphernalia: the fags, lighter, matches and ashtray so that they're not in temptations way. You can do it!

Mandamoo_3

Evening all

I have come to hang my head in shame, I have failed miserably:(
I bought twenty of the blighters today and have had 4!
Kiwi I am doing cold turkey and clearly not working for me so need a new plan of action. I am going to see if I can join a cessation service.
I feel such a massive failure at the mo

Hope you have all had a good day

Mmoo

dundeedoll_2

Mandamoo wrote: »

Evening all

I have come to hang my head in shame, I have failed miserably:(
I bought twenty of the blighters today and have had 4!
Kiwi I am doing cold turkey and clearly not working for me so need a new plan of action. I am going to see if I can join a cessation service.
I feel such a massive failure at the mo

Hope you have all had a good day

Mmoo

Firstly............you are NOT a failure!
You came on here, told us all you were going to stop, set your date and when you had 2 on your 1st day you came on here and told us. Today you have come on here again to tell us you've bought a pack of 20.
That to me says that you DO want to stop.

I'm not saying the following in a preachy/nasty way..............just trying to get an idea of how we can perhaps help.

When did you have that 1st 1 yesterday? Why? Was it that you'd try to battle the craving for a while and couldn't stand it any longer? Did something happen? Was it a 'trigger time' - such as after work/dinner etc? How come you had 1 available to have?
How did you feel (emotionally) when you had it? Disappointed/mad with yourself or 'Oooohhhhhhhhhhhh, that's better!' ?

Why did you go on to have number 2? (Depending on the last answer, obviously!! )

And the same for going to get the 20 today. Is the craving too much?

You may well be better off with a cessation group.............willpower alone is not suitable for everyone.

Now, as I say............you are NOT a failure!

I know how hard it is.................I got told by the hospital specialist to stop last January and lit up as soon as I got home :eek:

I could NOT last a day................even driving to the 24 hr garage in pyjamas and slippers at midnight for a pack of 20.

Something clicked on August 1st

Mandamoo_3

Thank you DD

I was coping ok but then I got an almighty headache (I dont normally get them) and it was such a stonker I thought foolishly one may take the headache away.....muppet:mad: the second one followed quickly. How did I feel? Very good question, relieved annoyed and rather miffed with myself all in one.

I think I thought willpower alone would do it, I gave up 4 years ago for 10months and I found it easy, perhaps thats where I have gone wrong. I think this time around I need some extra help. Today seemed particularly hard, its not helped by the fact that my mum smokes and she lives with me. Its a double edge sword, she is trying not to smoke in front of me and then I feel bad that I am stopping her when she wants to carry on smoking (does that make sense)

Thank you again

Mmoo
x

slugger09

Mandamoo wrote: »

Evening all

I have come to hang my head in shame, I have failed miserably:(
I bought twenty of the blighters today and have had 4!
Kiwi I am doing cold turkey and clearly not working for me so need a new plan of action. I am going to see if I can join a cessation service.
I feel such a massive failure at the mo

Hope you have all had a good day

Mmoo

Oh I can relate to that feeling, the only way to shift it is to get of them again ASAP and forget about your failed attempt, use it as a learning opportunity, you'll be prepared better the next time:beer:

I'm curious, any of you old timers at what point do you reach the moment of revelation so to speak as Allen Carr calls it? That moment when you realise "I have finally beat it" I'm now almost 3.5 weeks in and I don't feel any different to the day I went of them, I don't feel any sense of achievement, I certainly haven't noticed any health benefit yet, I'm not about to cave in, just feel a bit fed up or something.

dundeedoll_2

Have 1 of these while I write a reply

dundeedoll_2

slugger09 wrote: »

Oh I can relate to that feeling, the only way to shift it is to get of them again ASAP and forget about your failed attempt, use it as a learning opportunity, you'll be prepared better the next time:beer:

I'm curious, any of you old timers at what point do you reach the moment of revelation so to speak as Allen Carr calls it? That moment when you realise "I have finally beat it"

I think it takes quite a while.
I gave up before for 2 years and then for 4. Both times it was easy peasy for the 1st 6 months.........then I started thinking about it a bit. After a year I was checking hubby's suits to see if he'd left a tin of cigars in a pocket
After 2 years it got worse and worse.............when I relised my boys were going to their dad's for Xmas I thought I could book a week in the sun and then sit by the pool reading and smoking :eek:

I was going to book a holiday just to smoke!!!!
Eventually I did start again etc etc etc

This time it's different..............I understand about stopping much more and actually feel 'No, I do NOT want to smoke again!' wheras previously I always felt I was being deprived of smoking.
(That's why I always say Stopping, not giving up - as in depriving yourself - smoking)

I'm now almost 3.5 weeks in and I don't feel any different to the day I went of them, I don't feel any sense of achievement, I certainly haven't noticed any health benefit yet,

I have only in the last couple of weeks felt any benefit. My legs dont ache all the time, chest not so tight, feel sooooooo much calmer, sleep better etc etc

I'm not about to cave in, just feel a bit fed up or something.

It is a bit of a 'grieving/empty' feeling.
Well done on sticking with it.

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Mandamoo wrote: »

Thank you DD

I was coping ok but then I got an almighty headache (I dont normally get them)

Did you eat enough? I think I mentioned about the much increased effect of caffeine, could it have been that, or do you think you may have been dehydrated?

I suffer from migraines and never smoked when I had one - just couldn't.

and it was such a stonker I thought foolishly one may take the headache away.....muppet:mad: the second one followed quickly. How did I feel? Very good question, relieved annoyed and rather miffed with myself all in one.

I think I thought willpower alone would do it, I gave up 4 years ago for 10months and I found it easy, perhaps thats where I have gone wrong. I think this time around I need some extra help.

Please try to get extra help, either at a pharmacy or NHS cessation service or your surgery.

Today seemed particularly hard, its not helped by the fact that my mum smokes and she lives with me. Its a double edge sword, she is trying not to smoke in front of me and then I feel bad that I am stopping her when she wants to carry on smoking (does that make sense)

Thank you again

Mmoo
x

Ref Mum..............mmmnnnhhhhh...........difficult, very difficult.
Any chance she might join you?

As has been said, put it behind you and start stopping again

(Are you thinking you have to finish the packet?)

I do feel for you.