MSE Parents Club Part 16

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quoted from missymoo For all those other new mums out there, how do you find the time to do anything?

we dont theres no secret lol. i must admit i found it so much easier with my other two but it was 9 and 12 yrs ago, i feel so old and slow and im only 32 argh

wendz86

It is definately hard at the begining , I dont think i got anything done. Don't think its much better now, i have just accepted it haha.

gizmodo_2

basscadette wrote: »

Hi all,

Lo is 7 weeks tomorrow and I haven't managaed ot post since my last one since 5 weeks as I barely get a minute to myself lol.

Wondering if anyone has any advice - my baby hates his bouncy chair so he is constantly on is back, either in Moses basket or on playmat. I feel really guilty about it but have no idea what else I can do with him in the day!! I can't carry him round all the time and I'm going out of my tree being stuck to the sofa with him. During my pregnancy I spent a lot of time on the sofa and in bed so I was raring to go once I had him and I feel I'm still stuck sitting around :-( We do go for walks but it has been really windy and rainy so we don;t go out on days like this. Does anyone else keep leaving their baby in their basket during the day? I'm worried about his development.

I think DD spent a lot of time in her moses basket at that age. After a feed I'd put her in it and she'd sleep. I reckon it was probably even later maybe 10 weeks when I really started putting her under the play gym and she'd start to bat the toys a bit. I think prior to that it seemed pointless. Also keep trying the chair as mine hated it till about 3 months.

Winnie_in_Pooh wrote: »

Hi Mirror i'm in exactly the same position with Finn! He's nearly 10 weeks and feeding constantly (anywhere from every 45 mins to 2 hours ) I asked the HV at clinic last week for some advice on getting him onto a bottle and she glared at me and told me to just put up with it needless to say I left in tears because nearly 3 months with next to no sleep is affecting me really badly - GP wants me on anti-depressants, but I'm sure all I need is some sleep!

If anyone has any advice I'd be really grateful

Wow if you're feeding all that time I honestly don't blame you.

I do recall in the beginning I was feeding her only 10 minutes on one side then switching her over to the other boob and the BF expert told me to feed longer on one side so she got the hind milk (but I also had the green poos as evidence that she was getting too much foremilk), so everytime she came off (which was after 10 mins) I put her back on the same breast. I found this helped a lot.

Are you planning on expressing, or are you switching to formula? With the bottle, I guess it's just perseverance. I couldn't get DD to take the bottle but she did gulp one bottle down when I was in hospital but it took hours of screaming before she succumbed apparently. I would be tempted to go cold turkey myself, it might be a few stressful days but it's worse if you cave because then you're back to square one. I have no idea if that's the 'right' way to go though.

gizmodo_2

missymoo81 wrote: »

For all those other new mums out there, how do you find the time to do anything? Sometimes i barely get chance to brush my teeth!!Have done nothing again today, apart from make lunch, bath baby and wash up, really dont want to go out when im this tired and its so cold.

I got a lot more done when she was less than 16 weeks old. Mainly because she woke up at 5am, and then went back down at 6am - 9am, so I always stayed up and got the tidying up done during that time and I'd usually have some me time to catch up on a bit of TV.

Since she's been mobile it's got much harder! She seems to wake up a lot easier during nap times so I'm too terrified to clean the bathroom/hoover while she's napping anymore. I always said I wouldn't tip toe around but your view kind of changes when it's nice for them to be asleep to give you some time! The other problem is she sleeps too late now and I've got in the habit of waking up at 8:30! I actually quite liked being up early but now I can't drag myself out of bed.

I wonder what it's going to be like with two kids. I just assumed it would all fall into place the way it has with one kid.

jennynoo

missymoo81 wrote: »

hey, sorry haven't had much time to catch up, posted this o my diary but i thought i would post it here too as feeling a bit emotional about the whole thing, pretty sure its the 2 nights of 2 hrs sleep catching up with me.

well health visitor has been and gone, baby isnt putting on as much weight as he should be, eventhough he seems to be constantly feeding! Apparantly he needs to feed less often but for longer so that he gets the good milk feel really bad that hes not doing as well as expected, as im solely feeding him, feels like its my fault

For all those other new mums out there, how do you find the time to do anything? Sometimes i barely get chance to brush my teeth!!Have done nothing again today, apart from make lunch, bath baby and wash up, really dont want to go out when im this tired and its so cold.

Don't worry, your on track now and babies are born with stores of fat so they can cope with a bit of weight loss. As LO feeds from one breast the milk gradually gets fattier so you need to let LO finish ( LO should could off naturally) before offering the other breast. How long this takes is different for different people, anything from 10 mins to an hour is normal! Also feeding at night is really good for increasing your milk supply but it is going to be constant feeding for a while as LO grows so don't worry about chores, make the most of some good films on tele

jennynoo

Wonder_Womble wrote: »

Oh that doesn't sound very good!! How old is your LO?


I am having the same problem and hoped it would settle down. LO is a week old today and seems to have some form of seperation anxiety during the night. But when myself or OH put her in her moses basket she will snooze for about 10 mins then wake up crying. OH has been up all night last night with her to let me get some sleep. She will happily sleep in there for about 45 mins to an hour during the day! Someone please tell me that this is normal and it will pass soon!?

The breast feeding support worker came out yesterday and we got LO feeding from both breasts and I was really chuffed. LO seemed so content and it seemed really straight forward while support worker was there. However once she left LO decided she would now use my nipples as a dummy to soothe her to sleep.

I'm combi feeding at the mo until my milk flow increases, but every time I pick her up she is looking for my breast and won't settle until I let her on, she does a couple of sucks and then falls asleep. If I try and dislodge her she screams. We even tried giving her a dummy last night to soothe her but she wouldn't entertain it. Anyone got any hints or tips?

Also her body clock seems topsy turvey, happy to sleep in her basket all day, but won't settle when we go up to bed. Has anyone else had this and got any advice on how to change it?

Thanks in advance ladies

It's late so this is going to be short but combi feeding will not help you increase your milk flow, LOs demand is increasing and if you don't exclusively bf then your body will not get all the signals it needs to increase its supply. Also you say that LO falls asleep when you try to feed and to me that sounds as if she isn't latching on properly, Get your support worker to come out as many times as you need to get that sorted, that's what they are there for. With the right help you could really make a success of bf but it is a learning process for both of you and something you have to work at.

jennynoo

mirrorimage0 wrote: »

ok so lo is nearly 10 weeks old now, and im seriously thinking of putting him on the bottle- he does feed well of the breast but is still like every 2 hrs, im so tired,
he has taken the odd bottle of formula well when hubby has stayed up so i can get to sleep about once a week.
i have tried expressing the milk so i know how much he is feeding and the amount isnt a problem so im thinking basically because i dont eat well at all ( i know this and do take the vitamins) that maybe he isnt getting enough "good" milk hence the reason why he is still feeding so often. when he has formula he sleeps longer.

am i right in thinking this or just seriously lacking sleep which has affected my brain lol

hope everone is keeping well.x

lO will get good milk whatever your diet, you can eat junk food all the time and LO will still be getting everything they need from breastmilk however YOU will suffer so if you want to eat healthily do it for yourself and also it will be good practice for when you start getting LO on solid food.

Are you feeding on one side until LO is finished? This will insure they get the fatter milk towards the end of a feed and will feel fuller for longer. Also is the feeding pain free for you? If not LO may not be attached properly so may not be getting a good flow of milk. However with growth spurts feeding this often can be normal and there isn't much you can do, if you were bottle feeding you would still have to sit there for the same amount of time. Can you get to a breastfeeding clinic so they can check your latch for you? It might really make the difference.

jennynoo

basscadette wrote: »

Hi all,

Lo is 7 weeks tomorrow and I haven't managaed ot post since my last one since 5 weeks as I barely get a minute to myself lol.

Wondering if anyone has any advice - my baby hates his bouncy chair so he is constantly on is back, either in Moses basket or on playmat. I feel really guilty about it but have no idea what else I can do with him in the day!! I can't carry him round all the time and I'm going out of my tree being stuck to the sofa with him. During my pregnancy I spent a lot of time on the sofa and in bed so I was raring to go once I had him and I feel I'm still stuck sitting around :-( We do go for walks but it has been really windy and rainy so we don;t go out on days like this. Does anyone else keep leaving their baby in their basket during the day? I'm worried about his development.

You can go swimming, cinema ( if your local one does baby sessions), mum and baby groups. Erm, running out of ideas! There isn't much newborns can do so don't worry about development! Some bold pictures to look at and talking/ singing to them, something to practice grasping is all they really need at that stage. You can try a bit of tummy time but not all babies like it. Sounds to me like you are doing everything right so keep up the good work.

jennynoo

Sorry for the multiple postings and probably not well thought out answers but I felt I had to reply to a few things even though I should be in bed. Will try and get back on tomorrow night if anyone has any more questions.

Wonder_Womble

*BigBird* wrote: »

Joe was nocturnal for the first few weeks, Wonder Womble, and I'd definitely second what Becles says. Don't creep around if she's asleep in the day, just go about your business as you normally would. Then at night keep the lights low, voices low, no fun. Joe got the idea fairly quickly.

Yeah that's what we are trying to do, I think it made a marginal difference last night.

Jenny I am trying to exclusively BF but with LO's sleep pattern being upside down, sometimes it is hard to wake her to feed. Do you know if we should be waking her up through the night to feed, or just let her sleep and wake herself when hungry?