MSE Parents Club Part 16

alamaya

Hi All,

Sorry for not coming back sooner. This little one of mine is keeping me quite busy lol.

In the end i decided bottle feeding. I had discussed problems with latch and even with further instruction neither of us were thriving with it so i took the decision to end breastfeeding.

Yesterday the stinging while peeing stopped yey.

Now tmi here. Last night i was constipated held a pad against me to lessen the horror. Then today it feels like i have been kicked in the groin and its so sore. I have scared myself stupid by reading up on prolapses and stuff.

What are the odds of me straining a little and causing that or am i expecting too much for 7 days post birth.

Krystaltips

I think the chances are pretty minimal... You'll be very tender down there and lots of things are moving back into place... Make sure you drink loads of water, see the Dr if the constipation continues... But most importantly of all... Step away from google!

pigpen

alamaya... your insides won't drop out lol... It can take a few months for the bruising to go away completely esp. with an instrumental birth.

Kh hasn't turned up for the children... So he can either have them overnight Saturday or he won't be having them until Tuesday.. he is such a tool.. he told them he was coming today.. I don't usually mention to them until he texts sayin he is on his way but they know what day it is now and have been waiting for him all day.. I am SO cross!!!!

Pi$$ing me about is one thing.. pi$$ing them about is another entirely!!

wendz86

Hello everyone,

MV - what a gorgeous little man you have.

Pigpen - that is out of order of him, poor kids.

Took Poppy to be weighed today and she is now 8lb 1 oz so is still gaining well.

I still need to do my birth story, will be pretty long i think.

pigpen

I have told them I have text asking when he is seeing them and that they are not happy so he has some truth to tell!

Becles

Sounds like you've had a rough day pigpen. That's bang out of order with kh letting the little ones down. Did you decide on the weekend? I think if the older ones are sensible and you trust them, I'd be inclined to give it a go.

MV - he's lovely :cool:

Boot camp was really gruelling tonight with loads of leg work and running. My legs feel like they are on fire already

digitalphase

Thanks for all the welcomes ladies

madnessandmayhem wrote: »

digitalphase I also needed forceps with ds 2 and I (along with dh) also found it a very traumatic experience. After having an emergency c-section with ds 1 , this time i was desperate for a c section as i would rather that than risk having a forceps delivery again, but my consultant wouldnt agree to it. Max was 3 weeks early and my midwife 2 days before had thought he was breech so i was scanned at the hospital when i was in labour and I was praying that he would be breech so i could have a c-section (yes, i know some people would think this is a silly reaction but i was so terrified of things endiing up needing forceps) and when they discovered he was head down i burst in to tears-in the end though Max came so quick I didn't even have time for any pain relief, and it couldnt have been more different from the other 2. But noth dh and myself were terrified throughout the pregnancy as we both had very poor memories from bith previous deliveries.

It might help to talk the labour/birth over with your midwife x if you want someone to chat to, feel free to pm me xx and MASSIVE congratulations on Alexander!!! xx

Anyway, i'm sure I will become a regular here, asking for advice from the wise!! xx

Thanks hun I was really against a C-Section as read up some horror stories, but hadn't factored in forceps and how awful they are. I'd have needed a section of course if the forceps hadn't worked. I wanted a water birth, with TENS prior, G&A and pethidine if needed. Instead I got G&A, Pethidine, Epidural and forceps Things moved on too quickly for TENS as we were sent away from hospital as my contractions were not regular/strong enough, then midway back they got worse so straight on G&A. Very sad I didn't get a water birth, but my SPD prevented me from getting in the bath they had instead of a pool

I will definitely write my birth story when I get some free time

Sammy_Girl wrote: »

I'm sorry Digital, but I still can't get over an 11lb baby at birth. Hats off to you. Were you measuring big beforehand? I hope you and baby are settling into your new house well

Thanks hun No, I wasn't measuring overly big, an extra cm or two on the fundal height at MW checks. Nothing to give them any reason to think he was going to be big, and he was my first as well. Thank goodness I didn't go more than 3 days overdue or else he may have put on more :eek:

Krystaltips wrote: »

Hey digital, welcome to the 11lb baby club... ;-)

Don't worry about having enough milk, your body knows how much to make and as long as you keep sticking him on, he'll get plenty

Jess was 11lb 4oz at birth and at her 8 week check was 14lb 12oz so she's obviously satisfied, even sharing it with her big sister (Who, incidentally, was 9lb8 born but at 22 months only weighed 22lb lol!)

I'm also trained in breastfeeding support so do feel free to PM me if you're concerned or have any questions... I don't come on here too much anymore since I get spied on so I might miss any posts in here...

11lb baby club :cool::D

That's reassuring, thanks hun. It's difficult to know how much he's getting, whereas with a bottle you know easily. He often falls asleep when feeding, so I have to stroke his cheek or blow on him to get him suckling again Or he releases the latch then gets really cross and it's hard to get past the flailing arms and he goes so rigid, he's so strong. I try holding him across my body with one arm and trying to get him to latch on with my hand supporting his neck. I'm not sure he always gets a good latch and maybe that's why he drops off and gets frustrated. He will stay on there ages sometimes.
Today I have fed exclusively breast and it is very tiring. Especially as I have a really painful back. Will keep persevering though, and will probably take you up on your offer to PM you - thanks

pigpen

I have spoken to DS1 and gf and DD1 and they are fine with it... (see palming my children off on their sibings ) .. I am still really really apprehensive. KH said he will get them at 10 on the Sunday morning.. why he just doesn't have them overnight is beyond me.. twerp that he is.. so it will be about 5 hours on Saturday until they go to bed and about 3 hours on Sunday before they go to his.. they'll be asleep between those times so not need looking after.. I have left them that long to do a tesco shop (3 hours.. not 5) and they were ok.. so it isn't that much different, they have put them to bed before when I have had school meetings etc. and they can put food from freezer to oven to plate without too much difficulty I think. Plus KH having them Sunday means I won't have to rush back and can relax once he has got them... a little.. so then I'll get out of the next few weekends going to the mil's.

I am trying REALLY hard to convince myself this is a good idea but it is so not working.. Why do I ever take any notice of my mother?????

(((And.. at 16+ I was regularly looking after my 2 youngest sisters way more than that.. and I didn't want to but had no say.. at least mine could say no and not have a tirade of abuse.. so it isn't that they have to they had a choice.)))

Now I'll have to find something presentable to wear to a 60th birthday bash.. that gives me a grand total of nothing at all to wear!!!

gizmodo_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

MV, I assumed with DD1 that I would stop at 6 months because that's what my sister did and she was the first person I ever saw breastfeed... When it came to it though, I decided I didn't want to be getting up in the middle of the night making bottles... So I just carried on... Breastfeeding is totally the lazy choice for me...

Although DD2 was such a bad feeder, if she'd have been my first and I hadn't known it improved, I would have totally given up!!

I've been taking one day at a time with bfing as I had such a hard time in the first few weeks. I've also had thrush and mastitis But with the help and encouragement from my mum and OH I've managed to get through and now things are great and I love it and finally I'm loving the closeness. But I have to admit I'm the same, it's the lazy choice for me too and I'm thinking of carrying on for a year now.

Unfortunately the number of breastpads I'm going through - it's not been very MSE and with the bras I've bought (because the first fitting was wrong) it's probably costing the same as formula.

As for routines, DD is 13 weeks and we don't really have a routine. I demand feed and mostly it's around the same sort of times each day but some days do differ. She goes to bed after her last feed of the day which is sometime after 8pm where I change her, put her in her sleeping bag and then feed her in bed and put her in the moses basket and she usually crashes straight away. Mostly she sleeps through till 6 - 7am. Although occassionally she wakes at 3am for a feed.

I miss being pregnant. We're going to start trying for no 2 in January I've been thinking that maybe I want 3 children now! Those with 3 kids...what's the difference between 2 and 3 children? Financially, does it make a huge difference?

pigpen

gizmodo wrote: »

Those with 3 kids...what's the difference between 2 and 3 children? Financially, does it make a huge difference?

No, barely any!

We had the baby stuff, I still had boobs.. I think the biggest expense was due to number 3 being prem I had to buy tiny baby stuff which the others hadn't needed.

I haven't found it made much difference having another until they are wanting adut food portions and get to high school, the uniforms are extortionate!!!

We had hand me down clothes so very little new.. they all have Clarks or startrite shoes and new coats for winter every other year so it really doesn't make much difference.

Ticket prices go up.. 'family' means 2 adults and 2 children usually, a few places offer 3 children but it isn't good.
Cars when you get to needing 3 car seats are awkward.
Eating out.. tables for 5 are non-existant.

Nothing too life alterring!