MSE Parents Club Part 16

gizmodo_2

MERFE wrote: »

Not off your head cos me too but I am done no matter how broody I get. There was 15 months between the first set, if I was having another I would like a bigger gap than that about 2-3 years.

Been swimming this morning and am shattered, have put a casserole in the oven for mine and the little ones tea and some swede to mash later for bob, now just waiting for him to wake up so we can go to baby group.

Can I ask why you would like a bigger gap?

We were going to start trying for number 2 in January - so if we got pg straight away that would be a 21 month gap. We weren't going to have a second baby after the horrendous 2 weeks we had with DD. But already I'm forgetting how bad it was

The thing I worry about the most is not getting a water birth for the second baby. It was so amazing. I don't think I'll be allowed a homebirth (or want one really) after the bleeding I had this time.

tsstss7

Baby gaps! Well mine was 10 yrs between 1st and 2nd and will be just over 3 1/2 yrs between 2 and 3. I definately couldn't have done it any sooner as Lo is now reasonably independant and so doesn't have to be carried around much etc and also does playgroup so that gives me time to rest. I would have been a right winger with a 2 yr old I think - they are v. hard work at that age imo.

That said I imagine there is a payoff in that the closer together they are in age the more you can count on them making good companions for each other as they grow (even if they resent each other to some degree). Two members of my family have had babies within a yr of each other and they've never had to put themselves out to befriend people so their LO's have playmates - that must be a relief in a way...although I've made a few good friends that way over the yrs so can't complain too much but it can be hard work at times (I think I'm a bit of a boring sod though 'cause I am quite happy in my own company).:D

pigpen

I think 2 is when they get easier... Under 1 is horrible, they don't communicate or do anything for themselves or anything interesting they are demanding and time consuming and so incredibly boring... I LOVE toddlers

I would have liked a bigger than 13/14 month gap.. it scares the bejeepers out of me!

tsstss7

pigpen wrote: »

I think 2 is when they get easier... Under 1 is horrible, they don't communicate or do anything for themselves or anything interesting they are demanding and time consuming and so incredibly boring... I LOVE toddlers

I would have liked a bigger than 13/14 month gap.. it scares the bejeepers out of me!

Funnily enough at the time I would have loved to have had mine closer together - but I don't do pregnancy that well (tend to put on loads of weight) so I'm glad now i didn't.

I found mine easiest when they can't protest too much when you want to do stuff. My littlest now has been the biggest pain doing just about everything from 2 plus...before that he was a darling. He's now 3 and still an awkward bug but will now at least be [STRIKE]reasoned with[/STRIKE] blackmailed into doing things like brushing his teeth and all other regular activities :rotfl:.

pigpen

My oldest turned in to a demon at about 18 months and I'm still waiting for him to outgrow it at 19.

Mine strops constantly.. she wants to go play with the older ones and can't.. she wants entertaining which involve bouncing her about and I can't do it.. at least they entertain themselves sometimes when a bit older.. I'm not allowed out of sight at the moment.. she is 8 months today! and a clingon!

I gained loads with several of my pregnancies I amhoping I don't ain much with this one.. though I have lost half a stone so far.. just need another 4 stone off and I'll be happy!

I wanted smaller gaps until I this one happened.

CL

tinkwings wrote: »

Now am I totally off my head ????????? Is it wrong that I am really broody already & Lily is only 19 weeks old? :eek:

How long a gap are people planning or do they have......not going for another 13 year gap :eek::o;)

Lily is born on the same day as my LO and we've talked about trying for another at Christmas.

brednall

Afternoon ladies.

All going well here. Had a busy weekend starting to sort a few things out ready for our impending house swap. Got so many little girl clothes from DD that she's grown out of so starting to make little bundles and pop them on ebay (PM me if you want any more info on these - gorgeous tops and socks and shoes and dresses etc etc the list is endless!!!)

Also got a couple of pairs of M&P under bump maternity trousers if anyone is interested in those - I seem to remember I couldn't get on with them personally.

Took DD to look at a nursery this morning - was a bit worried but she didn't seem bothered one little bit.


Emma
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MERFE

gizmodo wrote: »

Can I ask why you would like a bigger gap?

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I enjoyed it the first time round but it had some really tough moments. Some things could be slightly easier if there is a larger gap, like it would have been nice to have had more 1-1 time with DD before I was exhausted with pregnancy whenever I wasn't at work. There was a good 6 months when neither of them napped but neither had started preschool either and by 4pm I was shattered but still had a good couple of hours before OH was home, once DD started preschool it got so much easier. I'm enjoying having Bob all to myself and when I see the older two play so lovely I think it would be great for him to have a playmate at home like that but when they are argueing I remember how hard it was. It's nice to take bob swimming etc on my own and not need another adult there like I did with the other 2. Nothing wrong with small gaps at all, I'm glad they were the only 2 I had at the time and to have 2 close together again would be even harder with the older two still to look after.

ethelsmum

Evening all

Tinks I've been broody since E was about 6 weeks old . I'm not sure if we will have another baby though so I'm a bit sad at that.

I have a 21 mth age gap between my big two. This time I have a 5 1/2 yr age gap. I don't find either better/worse.

Sammy_Girl

Good evening

I'm loving the talk of babies sleeping through the night - it gives me hope for the future! MV - I would just enjoy it!!

Tinks - That's nice that you are broody. If you want another then go for it - why not?!

My good news of the day is after losing 18% of her birth weight, DD is now 40 grams above her birth weight We had our first Health Visitor visit today and she was lovely. She was here for ages and gave us loads of useful information, weighed DD and did the hearing check and all went well.

Also, went to the registry office to register DD's birth which was nice. Although DH and I couldn't decide who would sign th register, so we had to toss a coin and he won! Oh well, if we have another child then I get to sign the register. Whilst in the registry office, I was most upset to discover a puncture in the front tyre of my iCandy But a trip to Halfords and playing the helpless woman got a nice man to repair the punture!