Makeup decides to stop making it up as she goes along and actually have a budget

makeup

Thanks for the tip .. I'm gonna give it a go.

I figure I need to go on more dates so that I don't get too hung up on one person....

Souk08

Don't put all your eggs in one basket lady! XXX

makeup

Exactly....probably I should be sleeping rather than putting up profiles on internet dating sites....

Will report back on progress....

Lula-Hula

Hi makeup -

dates ! How exciting :j

Definitely have lots of different ones, try Guardian date section too, I had a browse the other day

Cant wait to hear how you get on - dont forget the No Freaking Drama rule you urge us all to live by :T

Dan29

Hello!

With the internet dating, my sister met her boyfriend on Guardian Soulmates. I don't think it's the cheapest site though - same for mysinglefriend; does seem to work, especially for people looking for 'proper' relationships, but does cost quite a bit.

Of the free sites, as well as Plenty of Fish, a lot of people I know are using okcupid.

As a compromise measure, match.com works out quite cheap if you sign up via a cashback site.

Good luck!
Dan

makeup

Aargh, I'm feeling terrible today and haven't gone into work. I've got the most awful headache and my stomach is a bit dodgy. I cam home from work early last night and then woke up at 4am convinced I'd overdosed on paracetamol :eek: I took some at 12noon, then about 4.15pm when i got in from work and then I had it in my head I'd taken some at 6pm as well and then i definitely took some at 10pm. I woke at 4am with my headache still killing me and trying to work out what painkillers i could take meant that I was doing the maths and became convinced I'd overdosed...I had to ring NHS direct in a panic and in the end she said it was ok and even if I'd taken the tablets at 6pm I'd be ok......

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Hi makeup -

dates ! How exciting :j

Definitely have lots of different ones, try Guardian date section too, I had a browse the other day

Cant wait to hear how you get on - dont forget the No Freaking Drama rule you urge us all to live by :T

I'd forgotten that rule....must remember to stick by my own rules!

Dan29 wrote: »

Hello!

With the internet dating, my sister met her boyfriend on Guardian Soulmates. I don't think it's the cheapest site though - same for mysinglefriend; does seem to work, especially for people looking for 'proper' relationships, but does cost quite a bit.

Of the free sites, as well as Plenty of Fish, a lot of people I know are using okcupid.

As a compromise measure, match.com works out quite cheap if you sign up via a cashback site.

Good luck!
Dan

thanks for the tips. I had considered Guardian Soulmates as I am a somewhat obsessive Guardian Online reader....(such a cliche!) and the men on there do seem to share quite a few of my interests.

A couple of friends have done MySingleFriend - was quite surprised to read that one of my bessie mates was a big fan of entertaining at home and cooking for dinner parties. I had to call her up and demand to know why I'd only ever got bacon sandwiches in our ten years of friendship..... She then told me it should have been called MySluttyFriend .............


So far so interesting on PoF. I've had a 25 yr old message me to say 'I'm hot!' (:j) and what are my thoughts on the younger man. Yes please.

I think I need Souk's help, there is this function called 'meet me' and various men have clicked this to indicate they would like to 'meet me'. However some of them seem to have clicked me in error, two of them live miles away (like over 200 miles away) and at least two of them have demands in their profiles that I clearly do not match. (ie if you need to see me on a webcam to make sure I match up with my pictures before meeting me you are clearly very bothered by personal appearance and attractiveness and I doubt very much that I would match up to your required levels.....)

So, Souk, if you're out there, should I pay any attention to men who would like to 'meet me' or should I just ignore this function? There are a couple of possibles on this though so maybe I should message them direct?

EHarmony has matched me with some cool guys (although can't see their photos) but unless they've paid the money I don't think I'll be able to hear from them.

The strange thing for me is that previous boyfriends have never really fitted into my idea of what an ideal boyfriend should be. Quite often we've not had that similar interests or come from similar backgrounds and so I don't know that this is the best way of picking someone. On the other hand my last boyfriends haven't exactly worked out well so maybe this is much better!

Dan29

Hullo. Hope you're starting to feel better? Sounds like it's been a pretty awful day

makeup wrote: »

The strange thing for me is that previous boyfriends have never really fitted into my idea of what an ideal boyfriend should be. Quite often we've not had that similar interests or come from similar backgrounds and so I don't know that this is the best way of picking someone. On the other hand my last boyfriends haven't exactly worked out well so maybe this is much better!

I've been thinking about this recently and reckon that common interests aren't necessarily the best way of judging who we'll be compatible with. I think that having similar personality traits can be more relevant, and also the two of you potentially have new hobbies etc to share if you don't already like all the same things.

However I'm not sure that internet dating really enables you to know how well you'll get on with someone, or how similar you really are, until you meet up with them! The same goes for the pictures on dating sites - I think some people are more attractive in photos than in real life, and others vice versa.

I do think it might be worth paying to join a site though as I think the free sites can attract people who - as they've invested very little in the process - aren't necessarily taking it very seriously.

Souk08

I probably agree Dan. I'm not prepared to pay for what will ultimately be a roll in the hay at the mo but maybe if I wanted a boyfriend and wasn't going to meet one at work or through friends then I would. I have only ever used free sites myself and have had some long term flings from them which have been grand. I occasionally look at the men who want to meet me but haven't seen anyone I like so personally I ignore that make up and just find pretty men by scrolling through and then message them direct. Word of warning tho LOADS on Plenty of Fish say they want long term but then message me for no strings. Not saying that's uncommon just that I encounter it a lot. I don't have a problem with it as I get to have fun while they look for a sockwasher but it might bother you!

Let me know how you go! I'm meant to be on a POF date tonight but he hasn't messaged since the weekend so am happily festering instead!

makeup

Thanks Dan, feeling a bit better - sticking to ibuprofen today as it feels safer

I think I'm going to take today as annual leave as I'm already on 'probation' for too much sick leave (I'm honestly not that bad but I've just had 3 periods of sick leave in three months which is a BAD THING) plus we're going through some stuff at work and I know they're already looking at sick leave records....

I think you're right as well about the personality traits thing. And also about 'attractiveness'. I remember looking at a photo of the last guy I dated and thinking he didn't look as great as I remembered, but face to face he had the most amazing eyes and that totally transformed him. Plus we definitely had chemistry.

I wrote on one of my profiles that I would always rather regret doing something than regret not doing something. So I'll give the free sites a bit of a trial, I'm hoping that eHarmony might send me some kind of special offer if I don't sign up with them??

Otherwise I'll give Match a go.

Moneywise - I've spent hardly anything over the past two days. Just spent £1.80 yesterday on some soup and rolls which a wonderful colleague went to Tesco to buy for me...she wasn't even going for herself. :A

makeup

Souk08 wrote: »

I probably agree Dan. I'm not prepared to pay for what will ultimately be a roll in the hay at the mo but maybe if I wanted a boyfriend and wasn't going to meet one at work or through friends then I would. I have only ever used free sites myself and have had some long term flings from them which have been grand. I occasionally look at the men who want to meet me but haven't seen anyone I like so personally I ignore that make up and just find pretty men by scrolling through and then message them direct. Word of warning tho LOADS on Plenty of Fish say they want long term but then message me for no strings. Not saying that's uncommon just that I encounter it a lot. I don't have a problem with it as I get to have fun while they look for a sockwasher but it might bother you!

Let me know how you go! I'm meant to be on a POF date tonight but he hasn't messaged since the weekend so am happily festering instead!

So far I've recieved a few imaginatively worded messages along the lines of 'Hi How are you?'

And quite a few people seem to have 'don't want commitment or long term relationship' and then in their profile bit put stuff which completely contradicts this.

And I'm not adverse to having 'fun' and I'll never be anyone's sock washer....I can barely keep up with my own washing and don't even mention ironing...(hmm *contemplates the real reason for still being single*)