Makeup decides to stop making it up as she goes along and actually have a budget

Souk08

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Am I bad

No you're not. You're right! There's just too much what folk with partners call 'compromise' and I call giving up what you want for the sake of a relationship. Whoever I love, i will always love me more!

Lula-Hula

Souk08 wrote: »

No you're not. You're right! There's just too much what folk with partners call 'compromise' and I call giving up what you want for the sake of a relationship. Whoever I love, i will always love me more!

Phew :T

thank goodness for you :A

Shoe_Gal

Good vibes coming your way makeup - fingers crossed

makeup

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Same as that ^ from me.

Bursting with curiosity though .

Good to hear you've recovered your own brand of 'makeup sparkle' ... I was rather concerned at your sudden feeling of need for a permanent man. Your bit about not being sure of actually wanting one did make me giggle - seeing who's available & what is 'expected' from a girlfriend, certainly made me question what on earth I was doing on a dating site :rotfl:


Am I bad

I think I'm a drama junkie though, I love the 'exciting' thrill at the beginning..... however I'm not really sure I could do the day to day stuff. I'm not overwhelmed at the thought of going to see someone elses family on my precious weekends.

I love going out and I'm so glad I've got my flatmate (who is 7 yrs younger than me) and my gay friends to go out to bars and dancing with. That is the worse thing about hitting my thirties is that all my friends are settling down and all our socialising revolves around restaurants and other peoples front rooms.

Anyway I've got a date with a fireman on Thursday and I messaged someone who had a very funny profile so I've not given up completely and I'm seeing if my strange allure for 24 yr olds continues....

I forgot to mention a hilarious message I got from someone which included this classic line:

"I dated someone as old as you before but she had an accident and died"

This did not give me much hope for a successful date.......


Lula - in answer to your question, of course you are bad but who wants to be good??!! dull dull dull ....:cool:

Souk08

Make up, gay friends are the answer as you can still drag them out dancing on odd nights of the week!

I love mine and dont have many friends who are in couples. I'm aware that this may change as I get older but I'll be dragging them out to play kicking and screaming!!! XXX

Souk08

Oh and LOL at the bit about the older lady!!!!

Shoe_Gal

makeup wrote: »

I forgot to mention a hilarious message I got from someone which included this classic line:

"I dated someone as old as you before but she had an accident and died"

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Dan29

makeup wrote: »

I think I'm a drama junkie though, I love the 'exciting' thrill at the beginning..... however I'm not really sure I could do the day to day stuff. I'm not overwhelmed at the thought of going to see someone elses family on my precious weekends.

This is exactly how I feel, although I don't think I've ever been able to sum it up so succinctly. I think most of us need some excitement and romance in our lives from time to time, but as Souk says, it so quickly becomes all compromises, like going for Sunday lunch with the in-laws when you'd rather be doing something else.

So many people seem to think they have to be in a relationship to be happy, but I don't think that applies to most people here, as we're already happy anyway - which ironically is the best time to meet someone, I think.

See, I go round in circles trying to work out the answer!

makeup wrote: »

That is the worse thing about hitting my thirties is that all my friends are settling down and all our socialising revolves around restaurants and other peoples front rooms.

I've noticed that people seem to be going out less in the last couple of years, but had wondered whether it was partly because going out is so much more expensive than staying in these days. I quite like it sometimes, but then I'm more into chatting and watching films than dancing.

One thing I have decided I'm never going to do again is stop seeing my friends and doing the things I enjoy doing now, if I do get into a relationship. I think a lot of people put too much pressure on their partner to be their best friend, companion, confidante, lover, housemate, entire social group, entire life! That's a lot to expect from one person and it means that if it goes wrong, you lose everything. Healthier to have different people in the different roles, I think - and friends can provide much of the companionship and social aspect of being in a relationship anyway.

makeup wrote: »

"I dated someone as old as you before but she had an accident and died"

Maybe her zimmer frame collapsed and caused her to choke on a Wethers Original?

makeup wrote: »

Anyway I've got a date with a fireman on Thursday

Good luck! (avoids any of the obvious jokes :whistle:)

rainbow81

makeup wrote: »

I'm feeling like I don't even want to be in a relationship which probably isn't a good frame of mind when on a dating website! This just all seems like too much hard work!

Ha ha this made me laugh. I met my boyfriend on PoF and both of our profiles were basically "go away please". Goodness knows how we got together, but it was a slow process and we still have our own space and room to do what we want which suits us both.

There's nothing worse than someone wanting to be in your pocket all the time, it drives me mad.

Good luck with all these young men! I can't say I got any such attention :rotfl:.

Lula-Hula

Wise words Dan - you'll go far I quite agree about people expecting an all round entertainment package wrapped up in one person, I dont really do needy / clingy / bored so would find that terribly tedious in someone else. It quickly becomes claustrophobic & then I just want to run . I do love the excitement & anticipation, but once I've been disappointed / let down then it's kind of all over & time to move on.

Cant wait to hear about the fireman makeup - can think of loads of cliches/double entendres but as Dan is being so restrained I wont be the one to lower the tone.