Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

MatyMoo

Sending hugs to all of you Mooloo.

rolo-polo1965

Hugs and love to you Mooloo and to your children.

There is nothing any of us can say to make you feel better, apart from the fact we are here for you!

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

Another thought occurs to me, Mooloo - do you think that all this upset with Twin 2 will actually seep into Twin 1's brain, and get her getting her act together a bit more? Will she realise that she has to become more responsible - not necessarily for DGD, but for herself? I'd like to think it might.

{{hugs}}

Thankyou for both posts.
I hope every day of my life that we can find the linch pin to get the girls to work out the jigsaw pieces to make thier lives whole. I still wait. I hang on to something that was once mentioned at a stage of thier testing as children. It was the length of time they were behind thier peers by the progress they had made, and it was suggested that by the time they were 25 they would have caught up with their selves, at say 18. So that would be reasonable to still hope that they would get enough ideas as to help them to learn to cope. But I think I may need to find a healthy income to be able to pay for that kind of help, or treatment privately.
Dispite the normal brain in me saying I should accept. The mother in me always hopes that the trigger will appear one day and then everything will fall in place and they will survive without me. I just wish that thier father would be a little bit more helpful.But he never has done much. He has infact done the most since I moved back to the area then he did before we ever left it. Alas that is life. Still its too little too late.
He said at New year he would have DGD regularily, but he never had her again. We are now 5 months on. Its always we are too busy, or we are away in our caravan etc etc etc.
Such is life.
At least she is able to depend on good old granny.

I am glad that your friend has found some comfort in finding out about her situation. I take hope that our boys will also find out that they were loved and will be loved from afar.
Thanks

Dazi

just catching up on your thread

Not really sure what to say to you, just (((hugs))) for you and twin 2 and the usual best wishes xxxx

Violetta_2

:grouphug: Aww Mooloo, we knew this was going to happen, I read your post earlier but couldn't post, shed a wee tear for you & your family. Nothing I can say, I can only imagine a tiny bit what you , your daughter & the whole family is going through. Good luck to your beautiful boy's for their future.

Molly, when you can, could you please give Mooloo & big cuddle from me. xxx

Skint_Lynne

Hugs to you all Mooloo. xxxx

Savvy_sewing

Morning, well I sat up with a few sewing lessons on the laptop till about 10.30. Although BF sidetracked me by talking to me on MSN. Thats a rare occasion, but we were on fot a while.
I did sleep to start with, but since 3.30ish I have tossed around with too much going on in my head.
I still have everything to do this morning to get us ready to take twin1 home, and drop DGD at Nursery before I go and collect Molly for our day out.
Twin2 did ring a few times in the evening, to moan about DS and I tried to be peace maker but I am not sure it worked.
I kept calm but wanted to scream at DS for his insensitivity in taking over a boy to stop, who twin2 didnt want there. Not sure what the outcome was, but I dont think she got to win the round.!
I am having a cuppa in my room. Finally bought a replacement teapot on fleabay for the teasmade, although it was for a different model, it fits, so have that little luxury again.
Wracking my brains as to think what to wear for today. Something comfy and loose! Mmmm not sure I have anything in that department of late!
Thought I might wear my maxi dress, but I cannot find it anywhere to hand anyway.
But then that is not surprising as I still have so many clothes unaccessible and waiting for me to get some proper wardrobes! (I never did get them from the charity when I moved, as they had closed for Christmas by the time I moved, and too many boxes in my room since!).
Anyway I better take a look at the route map of where we are off to, so I know where I am driving today.
Thanks everyone for the kind thoughts and messages. I appreciate them.
Going to try and think about each day and not the far off future. (Then I will eventually try and think of them as living in a far off country so I cannot see them for a while!).

gizmo111

Hi Mooloo,

See its been all go whilst I've been away!
The adoption will take a few months from now as they will start matching and you will have notice of the final contact, have you had any photos taken at contact that will go in the boys memory boxes? You will want some for yourself anyhow, usually the supervisor takes them or you can take your own.
At least now the proceedings are concluded and you know deffinetly what the future holds for the boys, hard as it is.
Re the garden what is your solicitor doing with the special guardianship application and support package?
whoever asked about the passport - DGD is a looked after child and the local authority are her corporate parents and as such are supposed to behave in the manner reasonably expected of a good parent, and this includes enabling holidays ie paying for the passport.
Take Care
You know where I am if you need me xx

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

Hi Mooloo,

See its been all go whilst I've been away!
The adoption will take a few months from now as they will start matching and you will have notice of the final contact, have you had any photos taken at contact that will go in the boys memory boxes? You will want some for yourself anyhow, usually the supervisor takes them or you can take your own.
At least now the proceedings are concluded and you know deffinetly what the future holds for the boys, hard as it is.
Re the garden what is your solicitor doing with the special guardianship application and support package?
whoever asked about the passport - DGD is a looked after child and the local authority are her corporate parents and as such are supposed to behave in the manner reasonably expected of a good parent, and this includes enabling holidays ie paying for the passport.
Take Care
You know where I am if you need me xx

I hope that your OK too? I know its been tough on you lately.
Yes we have been taking pictures ever since they were taken into care. Although not every time. Alas Twin2's BF deleted a lot that she had taken on the iphone or what ever, that had been downloaded onto his phone. But I have a lot, not brilliant photos but I have regular ones and I will take the camera tomorrow. and Will make sure that Mum has her picture with the boys as well as DGD and myself, hopefully.
I am alas not a good photographer, but we will do our best.
I will now have to really sit and work on the Memory Boxes and the Life Story stuff, and see if we can give them the best information we can, and where to find us if they should want to when they are old enough.

Today we have been for our Spa Day. I had a complete body massage including a facial and head massage so I currently have oils working on my scalp and hair. Suggested I try to leave the products on over night to work best. Good job I wasnt planning on seeing anyone tonight.

Good news is that the cheque for the travel expenses from Dec and Jan/Feb has finally arrived. So I can put that back into the savings pot. (Ready to pay for the car to be serviced so we can stay on the road and safe.).

SuziQ

Mooloo I am terribly sorry for you and your daughter. As you say, it has seemed inevitable for a long time but now the end of contact is hurtling towards you.

My 2 beautiful god-daughters are adopted, their mother was a drug addict and they were removed from absolute squalor (obviously worse than your daughter.) They both have 'life story books' with photos and details of their birth family-will your grandsons have anything like that? My gd's are 15 and 16 now and are very interested in contacting their mum (their father's are both dead from drug overdoses.) My best friend and her husband who have raised them have given them a lovely, happy life and they are both in Grammar school and thriving-but they still want to have contact with their mother and any other birth family as soon as social services will allow. I know it's little consolation to you or your daughter but the grounds for removal must have been strong if things were dealt with so quickly-when I was giving evidence in court in child cases I have sometimes been on call for up to a week whilst things are thrashed out. I hope and pray that your daughter finds a way to deal with this. Is she going to be offered any sort of counselling? Totally heart breaking for all involved.

ETS Sorry, I didn't see the bits about memory boxes and life story books before I posted.