Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

elisamoose

Well I am probably speaking out of turn here but here goes......you have a dangerous garden which needs clearing and making safe for DGD.You have three able bodied and fit adult children, one of whom is the childs mother . yet you are worrying about who is going to clear it and you are putting your health at risk doing it yourself.
I just don't get it ! why have you not drafted in the kids to clear at least some of it for the pool and a play area for DGD. If you direct them and provide food and drinks it should only be an afternoons work.

sorry if this sounds harsh but sometimes we are all our own worst enemy!

Savvy_sewing

I WISH!
If I could have got them to do anything for me, I assure you I would have. They say yes, but never do.
I would be quicker doing it myself!
Just because she is the mother of DGD, doesnt mean she understands her needs. Or infact Dangers. One of the reasons DGD is with me.
But I do understand where you are coming from.
I did ask DS to do the lawn mowing when I went on Holiday but he didnt bother, dispite a lure of money even.!

elisamoose

But expecting others to do it or pay for it because they won't be bothered seems a bit rich to me!

elona

elisa

You obviously have not realised that Mooloo had granddaughter given to her by social services who promised all sorts of help.

Mooloo has ended up very much out of pocket, out of health etc because she has struggled to do her best for her children and grandchildren with precious little thanks, appreciation, gratitude or help of any kind from anyone.

She deserves a medal and I for one would not be so poor spirited as to begrudge her help which she is entitled to by saving social services a fortune.

tired_mum

To be fair elisa has a point Mooloo chose to have her GDaughter she was not made to have her She has a 3 bed housing Association house her twins have been housed Mooloo as far as i am aware has recieved fostering allowance petrol monies and passport fees for her DGD as well as child benefit and tax credits Nursery place paid for before it was free due to DGDs age so maybe it is time to put something back from the twins if they want lifts then they need to be at Mooloos say an hour earlier and do an hour in the garden
We are in a recession and none of Mooloos children are contributing to their childrens up keep so the least they could do is spend some time doing the garden under supervision
I am not slating Mooloo but i can see other points of view I am also not saying that she shouldnt have taken DGD on I think she is a loving mother who is doing her best in the circumstances but there are 2 sides to this story

thorsoak

tired_mum wrote: »

To be fair elisa has a point Mooloo chose to have her GDaughter she was not made to have her She has a 3 bed housing Association house her twins have been housed Mooloo as far as i am aware has recieved fostering allowance petrol monies and passport fees for her DGD as well as child benefit and tax credits Nursery place paid for before it was free due to DGDs age so maybe it is time to put something back from the twins if they want lifts then they need to be at Mooloos say an hour earlier and do an hour in the garden
We are in a recession and none of Mooloos children are contributing to their childrens up keep so the least they could do is spend some time doing the garden under supervision
I am not slating Mooloo but i can see other points of view I am also not saying that she shouldnt have taken DGD on I think she is a loving mother who is doing her best in the circumstances but there are 2 sides to this story

Have you read Mooloo's other threads? I suggest you do. It shows just how quickly an "ordinary" family can fall through all the holes in the net that is the Welfare State. Sadly Mooloo is now having to pick up the pieces. It could (and does) happen to any of us.

Just pray that you never find yourelves in Mooloo's shoes - or if you do, that you have the courage in facing the same type of problems that Mooloo shows now.

JUDGE NOT THAT YOU BE NOT JUDGED!

Of course her children should be helping her - but because of their difficulties they dont/cant. Had her health stayed as it was at the start of her postings, she would have managed. But it didnt. That's life.

jackieglasgow

I don't think there's any need for a slanging match. Tired mum has also been posting on Mooloo's threads since as long as I can remember Thorsoak, and she made it quite clear she wasn't being critical of Mooloo - she was merely playing devil's Advocate as far as I could see. Her point - and Elisa's - that DGD's mother and her siblings should be helping their mother out, is a valid one, but we all know it is highly unlikely to happen.

tired_mum

Er yes Thors oak I have and i did say i wasnt condeming Mooloo at all but what a surprise i am flamed straight away personaly i dont think i said anything wrong i thought that poeople were allowed to voice their opinions
You dont know me you dont know what my life is like as i choose what i post I wasnt judging at all i was stating facts if any of those have been wrong then i will stand corrected and pologise for that to Mooloo
I do know there are flaws in the welfare system but I dont see for example how a passport is a necessity? I would say it was a luxury whilst the garden made safe deffinately is people have different ideas Mooloo leaves her DGD with the childs mother but the mother cannot under her supervision do an hour in the garden in exchange for a lift ?
I have made no judgement just stated all the things Mooloo has stated in her threads and said their is always other peoples opinion
Or is this just a thread where no one can question or make comment ?

jackieglasgow

tired_mum wrote: »

Mooloo leaves her DGD with the childs mother but the mother cannot under her supervision do an hour in the garden in exchange for a lift

Leaving any bickering aside, I do think this is a very valid point, and something for Mooloo to consider.

Maybe, Mooloo you have excused the girls from taking responsibility for too long and it is now time to tell your children you consider them capable of these things, and to draw up some sort of "swap list" eg lift to DSS/doctors/solicitors in exchange for 1 hours gardening/grass cutting/whatever. Put the list on the wall and the next time they ask you to do them a favour, say "no, but I will swap you for something on the list that I need done" That might actually really work out to your benefit.

tired_mum

Just to make things very clear and plain i will no longer post on this disagreement if anyone wishes to discuss this with me or what i wrote
Please use the PM facility as I have no wish to disrupt Mooloos thread