Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Molly41

Some interesting comments and nothing that Mooloo has not thought about or tried to instigate. My thoughts, and I have seen the problem, are that the clearing of the garden is a job for professionals who have the proper equipment to detect and dispose of the paraphernalia - because that is effectively what it is:eek::eek::eek:

Once it is cleared then the twins and DS could be called upon to maintain it and that would be reasonable.

thorsoak

tired_mum wrote: »

Er yes Thors oak I have and i did say i wasnt condeming Mooloo at all but what a surprise i am flamed straight away personaly i dont think i said anything wrong i thought that poeople were allowed to voice their opinions
You dont know me you dont know what my life is like as i choose what i post I wasnt judging at all i was stating facts if any of those have been wrong then i will stand corrected and pologise for that to Mooloo
I do know there are flaws in the welfare system but I dont see for example how a passport is a necessity? I would say it was a luxury whilst the garden made safe deffinately is people have different ideas Mooloo leaves her DGD with the childs mother but the mother cannot under her supervision do an hour in the garden in exchange for a lift
I have made no judgement just stated all the things Mooloo has stated in her threads and said their is always other peoples opinion
Or is this just a thread where no one can question or make comment ?

If my post can be construed as a flaming attack then I apologise profusely - that was not my intention.

grandma247

Mooloo The ha should dig up and take away about 1ft off the top of the garden and put down fresh topsoil and reseed. That is the only way other than double digging that you will be sure to get every dangerous bit of rubbish.
The likelihood of it happening is about zero I should think.
Have you mentioned the dangers to your solicitor?
Be careful yourself out there we don't want you cutting yourself and getting a nasty infection from the soil.

elisamoose

Sorry my views were so unpopular.I have followed the thread from the beginning and really feel for Mooloo. I am just amazed that the twins and DS are so unwilling to do anything for their Mum and that Mooloo is left to either do things herself or spend hours trying to get agencies to help.
to expect the HA to do the garden is probably a dream - if you privately rented or were buying it would be your own job to do and the HA may feel the same.
I am really not ' having a go' but those young adults need to see things a different way. The idea of a lift for an hours work may be a start!

Molly41

Mooloo tries very hard to engage her kids into purposeful activity. She asked DS to go over and mow the lawns for her whilst on holiday but he didn't do this for whatever reason. Its not black and white and until anyone of us has walked in Mooloo's shoes can we fully understand her predicament. What I will say is that Mooloo is very reflective and will take onboard these comments. Its all very well this tough love but its very hard on a daily basis to instigate it.

floss2

elisamoose wrote: »

Sorry my views were so unpopular.I have followed the thread from the beginning and really feel for Mooloo. I am just amazed that the twins and DS are so unwilling to do anything for their Mum....
....I am really not ' having a go' but those young adults need to see things a different way. The idea of a lift for an hours work may be a start!

Mooloo's twins are, through no fault of their own or their mother's, both classed as having learning difficulties, and as such, they do not see the things of the same priority as you or I and do not always comprehend dangers or offer their help to Mooloo.

Her son is like many other young adults - wants a life of his own and would prefer not to have to do 'chores' to get it!

As regards the garden being the responsibility of the HA, Elisa is right in one way in that if it were you or I it is up to us to sort it, but Mooloo receives Social Services funding for her DGD, and I would suggest she approaches them for help with finding a contractor, as they are willing to pay.

Savvy_sewing

Gosh I take a break and war has started.

One thing I would like to point out is, that yes I get SS help. No I do not get Childbenefit or tax credits for my granddaughter.
I do get them for my son, or I did, but now that he has moved in to his sisters house, I dont.

Re the garden. I would as mentioned normally be doing the garden myself. However its a struggle when you find 6 or 7 razor blades 1" below the top of the earth.In an area of 2ft, square.
The reason I am complaining is becuase the Social Services said that they would pay for it.
They also say they will pay my fuel expenses for contact time, but that is again not been paid since New Year.
The twins indeed do have to try to take responsibility for thier situations, however it is due to thier mental problems, which is basically what it is, they are not "mentally" capable of bringing up thier children. It is a sad fact that those of us in the community who are touched by these issues, are left to pick up many a piece that we willingly do do, but we are a nation where we are told we can get help.
I do not have an entourage of friends and neighbours who I have known for years who could rally around and help.
Twin1, DGD's Mum, is left with her very rarely unattended, no more than about an hour, although at one stage it was tried to be longer. But she cannot cope and will call me when am I coming back. This is why when she has DGD it is either at my house, where I am also, or it is at a Stay and Play facility, followed by a collection point of a local football club, where she knows the staff, who were longterm family friends, (all over 60, and so no they cannot dig the garden).

I would love DS to step up to the mark and help, but this is as mentioned above by someone, sorry cannot remember who, at the moment, its a job for the professionals.
Would you like to clear DRUG PARAPHANALIA from your new homes premisses?
The Housing Authority does have a statement saying that they should be providing a suitable to maintain garden. This is obviously not.
The Social have said its an important thing that must be done, and therefore I am asking for quotes so that they understand the serious ness and the amount of work involved.

I do not mind anyone posting their poiint of view. I thank those who defend me. I can ofcourse see it from every angle.
But have to choose the path god has given me, whether I like it or not.
I was against having my granddaughter, and didnt think I was going to be able to. But Biggest of Mooloo became pregnant and her BF nolonger was onboard, so I carried on.
Thats life.
I never siad I regret it, I just ended up this way. I wouldnt change it for the world now, even though it is a tough decision, I quiery it, but I wouldnt change it.

Lozzy88

Hi i have never posted on your diary before but i have read your diary well i have skimmed the bits i didnt like to read ( no offence i`m just an emotional wreck at the moment with me being pregnant so i cry at the drop of a hat) and my dad has to use the heat pads all the time for the same thing as what you have and he sometimes struggles to get himself out of bed and motivated for the day, and you even attempting to dig over a part of the garden is just a really great thing so your DGD isnt missing out on the lovely sunny weather.

anyways i am waffling what i really want to know is why is there razor blades in the soil is it something your neighbours might be able to answer? i mean its not me having a go, its just a really weird thing to find, glass from the green house is one thing but blades i cant even think what someone would need these in the garden for.

anyways thats been playing on my mind since i first read about them so i thought i would ask

I hope you have a nice day

tired_mum

Afternoon Mooloo
As I said earlier if i was wrong re the benefits claimed i would apologise for my mistake so Sorry I was wrong on that score

but sometimes i am exasperated for you as twin 1 seems to get away with quite a bit twin 2 as well but she is in a far worse position and not really able tohelp at the moment as for DS think he is just a typical teen but needs to make more of a statement i think he thought once the twins had gone he would have most of your time but it was not to be and all his hopes have changed dramaticaly he wont have you to himself for a long time
I wont be posting on this thread again so i hope all goes well for biggest and good luck to you and yours for the future

Savvy_sewing

I am sad to see that Tired mum feels that she has to leave our little community of people on here, I do hope that you change your mind.
I am quite fine about your postings. I didnt mean to offend. There are so many twists and turns in my life, that it is difficult to follow. I have put my life out in the public domain, and therefore I cannot expect not to have people asking questions and quierying my decisions and actions.
I wish I was a stronger person and could have much more tough love then I do. I can think it, but not follow through enough. I do realise that some of the problems are probably of my own making, but I also state that to my defence I do what I can, and at the time, I feel that I am doing things for the best.

I havent reread the start of the queries, as I have a lot to do.
I am just back from my BF's and have the tea etc to do. There is one thing that someone mentioned. that I have a Local Authority House.
Yes I do.
I had a local authority Flat, which I was in with DS before the twins failed in life and came back home.
I had my name on the Local Authority Housing list since 2006. So I was not given the house suddenly. I have been waiting patiently for quite a while.
I may have been given the house earlier then I would have if I didnt have DGD, but as far as I know there was no jumping of the queue, my time had come. If I did jump a queue it was more likely to have been becuase of my disabilities then it was for DGD.
However I am still very grateful that I was given the opportunity to have a house where DGD could be safer.
Eventually the garden will be sorted. If it kills me to do it myself, then for her sake, I will slowly dig inch by inch.

The reason for the razor blades is becuase the previous tenants were Drug addicts and dealers. They used the greenhouse to cut thier drugs. The greenhouse was completely smashed to pieces by someone else? The neighbours do not know why, as they said that if they had known they would have had the greenhouse for themselves.

Anyway, I am looking at all options, all reasons and all angles.
I will continue to fight for what I think is right, for what I have been told I am entitled too, and no more. I am not asking for miracles or special treatment.