Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

bubbs

Mooloo wrote: »

We have snow here! I went to the Dentist in the Sunshine, and 20 minutes later its snowing heavily already! Eek.

Oh no, not snow can you keep it mooloo please im in northampton but not got any and dont want any :rotfl:

Savvy_sewing

bubbs wrote: »

Oh no, not snow can you keep it mooloo please im in northampton but not got any and dont want any :rotfl:

Did you get any?

Luckily it went to mush and the rain took over. But that was unfortunate as the local Santa Sleigh went by in the evening, and it was persisting with rain.!

Somewhere along the line BF got intouch, and without meaning to, I ended up talking Via "texting" of course, for the next 5 hours! We were either on text of Skype!!!! Only thing established, other then chit chat about its snowing, and DGD wanting to have a surfboard for christmas, that she was going to see her Grandad and that his kids were going to their Mums so he is alone on Xmas day, we went all around the houses really.
I did ask a few pertinant questions but of course they take time to answer and so once again we are really not much further other then it is obvious that its not going to be easy to actually end things when neither really seems capable of not saying anything.!So do we end up texting again? or going back to a few more days of silence then a random text sets us off again? Probably, dispite all my determination and best efforts I am far too soft. (and still love him! ).:eek:

thorsoak

Mooloo... Who called who? -s he angling for an invite for christmas day as he'll be onhis own???

Savvy_Sue

write him a letter ...

Errata

This is a bit blunt, but still ............. stop txting stop skyping stop talking on the phone. Have a face to face sit down and thrash it out once and for all. Life's too short to keep going round in circles in a relationship which doesn't satisfy you.

minimoneysaver

Why don't you tell him, if he wants to talk, the door is open, but it MUST be face to face. Not via text/skype etc. xxx

Savvy_sewing

I have asked for a meeting all the time. Every time he is intouch etc but he side steps the questions.
I am not going to text him, or invite him for Christmas. I told hiim it was a shame how it could have been different but its not. So if he is on his own perhaps he will learn the hard way.
If he wants to change things I have told him what it is I am asking for in the relationship. So there is nothing really more I can say. If I start to ask for meets etc he disappears off saying that "too much has been said to just go back to normal!" well I dont want to go back to normal thats the whole reason for the breakup in the first place. I am getting rather fed up of him at the moment.
Molly and my daughter were here this morning. We have decided that he has cut off his nose to spite his face, and if he has to be on his own at Christmas he may just learn something from it all. I am going to Biggest of mooloo's for the day now. DGD is going to her grandads.

Re Christmas I am not ready yet. I have been rather ill and unable to do more than the one thing or so a day thats been booked in. Life is just that way. I cannot complain, and with some help that I have had from some lovely friends I have met via MSE DGD will have lots of little things to open for Christmas and hopefully even the Surf board that she asked Santa for. Thats all that matters.
My parents next on the list will have the gifts that I made for them.
There is a gift for Biggest of Mooloo, her BF and his Mum, who will be there on Xmas Day.
I have ordered 2 x 50 wash washing powders and I am wrapping them up for the Twins!!! along with a £ shop bottle of scent.
DS has some Deo, showergel, party poppers and I helped him with the cost of his girlfriends gift, and he had his shoes. So thats the main people having something. (there are also calanders with wipeboards & Pens, and some cosy socks for the girls stockings, forgot about them.

My gifts that I really am still not ready for is for Molly and her Daughter, but I have a week left to still do that so thats fine.

On the food front I have just done an Asda delivery for Tomorrow. That will bring in the wine, the washingpowder, the party type bits for Boxingday/s when DGD is back, and we may not want a set meal. The cereal, UHT milk, squash, and a few bits for the freezer, so I am happy with that.

I have to sort out my cards still! Alas I have only got around to the 4 I made the other night. Maybe I will get a few more done today.

I have heard that my sister and her partner are going to be at my parents on a flying visit (approx 1hour) on Tuesday, so I must makesure they have a card made, but we no longer exchange gifts. That stopped years ago when we all had our children.

So now that I look at it like that, Christmas looks more organised than I had realised. I can stop panicing now. If the other bits and bobs arrive then thats good, or if i get to finish making the bits I wanted, thats all well and good too. But if it doesnt happen then its not a problem.

I beleive that the twins and DS are eating together at twin1's on the day. I have told them to do a chicken not a turkey, waste of money. But its up to them what they do, I am not supplying it this year.

Right what else was there? Oh yes the boys presents etc from my parents were ordered from Argos for Delivery today, ready to take with us tomorrow, and so I thought that was organised. Except last night I had a message from them to say that they were not sure they could deliver today afterall, and didnt tell me when they were going to deliver, just that they would do it as soon as possible. I am really annoyed as tomorrow is the only time we will get to see the boys until the 20th January, which is after DGS2's birthday as well.
Luckily I had nipped into a different Argos yesterday (before the text) and bought a few more bits, for Twin2 to give to them, so they will at least have something from us, just not mine or my parents stuff!.
I saw the councillor for the first time yesterday, it was a bit more of a form filling exercise, and then he asked about my life so far!! So I gave a brief as possible, but then it went off on a tangent as he tried to get his head around it all!! Oh well, I got to the bottom of what is getting to me the most, and that I feel the failure for not being able to have the boys, and at the moment, I feel some resentment to the twins for taking up so much of my life and energy, and that I feel that I would not have been ill if it wasnt for all the stress of them. Oops.
But then thats probably what we have all known since I started writing down my problems with Twins, babies and bills! back in 2007/8
Tomorrow is also the school party for DGD1, and so we have asked her if she wanted to go to the school party or go and see the boys. (she could go to the party for an hour, but would not be thier for the food side of it). She chose the party. (who would blame her). So I have for the first time asked a favour of one of the mums to have her from the school, until after I have finished with the boys and dropped off twin2. The mum kindly offered to do DGD's tea as well, and bring her back later. So that I can get a rest before I have to deal with her for the rest of the evening. Result.

Phew!!!

Errata

You sound quite positive and organised. I wish you a lovely Christmas and a very excellent 2012.
As for the BF, it sounds like it's his way or no way. He can't make it much clearer that you're not worth his time and any effort on his part.

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

You sound quite positive and organised. I wish you a lovely Christmas and a very excellent 2012.
As for the BF, it sounds like it's his way or no way. He can't make it much clearer that you're not worth his time and any effort on his part.

Thanks Errata. I hope everyone has a good Christmas and a better 2012!
I am being positive, and I am looking on the best of all the ups and downs that I can. (Sometimes not so easy of course.).

Re BF, he is rather Bullheaded, or is it an osterich? Alas this time if he thinks its his way or nothing, its the nothing!! I may be feeling weak at times, but not that weak!

Savvy_Sue

Then I'd say that his next and all future contacts with you should be met with either no response, or a standard "when you're ready to meet, let me know. Until then, I'm not replying to texts / skype etc". Can you not block him on Skype? And ignore his texts?