How do I get my bf to give me rent.

Schwade

Wow, this guy was ex-Army??? I've met teenagers that are more responsible than him!

Wow

zzzLazyDaisy

hazyjo wrote: »

Don't chase for anything, walk away. It's mentally damaging to do anything else. Keep your head high and never contact him ever again. Delete his number from your phone so you don't drunk text/phone, and go find yourself a decent grown up man. The best revenge is never getting back in touch and never showing you're bothered. His mum will never side with you, so don't bother telling her what he's done.

Write it off as a bad chapter and something you can learn from. Someone perfect out there for you - guarantee it.

Good luck.

Jx

This post gets my vote for the best advice on this thread :T

pinkarsenalprincess

hazyjo wrote: »

Don't chase for anything, walk away. It's mentally damaging to do anything else. Keep your head high and never contact him ever again. Delete his number from your phone so you don't drunk text/phone, and go find yourself a decent grown up man. The best revenge is never getting back in touch and never showing you're bothered. His mum will never side with you, so don't bother telling her what he's done.

Write it off as a bad chapter and something you can learn from. Someone perfect out there for you - guarantee it.

Good luck.

Jx

Very sound advice. Mouthing off at him, or his mum, or the other woman is just going to mug you off even further. Cut your losses, cut contact and get yourself down the clinic asap.

amersall

yvonne13 wrote: »

And this is exactly what I was going to do why he kicked of. I have worked hard to sort myself out and why should I just let someone take all what I have.

I had a nice surprise waiting for me this morning, the phone bill was £436.97 and the same mobile number was all over it. So it appears I have been blind to what has been going on, I called him to ask for the money and his mum answered and told me I am a greedy jumped up money grabber and she doesn't know why her son is going to propose to me on Christmas day and all night her son was crying ect, oh and I am not invited to Christmas dinner no more.

That was the best news I had heard in a while cause as soon as she slammed the phone down on me I called my neighbour and he changed the locks to my house. Now I am of to the shops to get some food in so I can have the best Christmas ever am just sad that I cannot spend it with my father as he is in Aruba at his holiday home.

I have had a lucky escape he was not for me and as for now another bill landing on me well its a lesson in life I will have to learn from.

Good for you:j Good luck for the future and i hope you find someone who will not treat you like a door mat;) Hope you have a very merry christmas xx.

poppy10_2

Really don't understand how people get themselves into this kind of relationship. It's different if it's a long term relationship and he starts taking you for granted after a few years, but when he's already treating you with such disrespect just 6 months in, it's a wonder you were even considering staying with him. Indeed, if he hadn't told you to 'do one' you might be still with him, getting treated like a doormat.

MrsAmanda_2

poppy10 wrote: »

Really don't understand how people get themselves into this kind of relationship. It's different if it's a long term relationship and he starts taking you for granted after a few years, but when he's already treating you with such disrespect just 6 months in, it's a wonder you were even considering staying with him. Indeed, if he hadn't told you to 'do one' you might be still with him, getting treated like a doormat.

This isn't really helpful to Yvonne, is it? She may well already be feeling hurt, upset and a bit sheepish to have let herself be treated so appallingly by a real t*sser of a bloke, without having strangers making comments like this.

Yvonne, I hope you manage to enjoy your Christmas. May 2011 bring all good things and a man who's deserving of you.

Schwade

poppy10 wrote: »

Really don't understand how people get themselves into this kind of relationship. It's different if it's a long term relationship and he starts taking you for granted after a few years, but when he's already treating you with such disrespect just 6 months in, it's a wonder you were even considering staying with him. Indeed, if he hadn't told you to 'do one' you might be still with him, getting treated like a doormat.

I don't understand as well but at least in this case, we don't have an issue anymore.

We have saved one! Now....to the rest!

zzzLazyDaisy

Schwade wrote: »

I don't understand as well but at least in this case, we don't have an issue anymore.

We have saved one! Now....to the rest!

I understand it, because this sort of person knows what he is doing....

They kinda sneak up on you... first its the odd shower, then the occasional overnight stay, and slowly slowly they worm their way in until one day OP wakes up and realises her bf is living there.

He was already 'grooming' his next free landlady with benefits, and no doubt he has done this before. It doesn't help that his mother clearly encourages him to believe that he can do no wrong.

OP you have had a lucky escape, but don't beat yourself up - an accomplished scrounger knows all the tricks and it takes an honest, trusting, person a while to catch up!

Focus on having a good christmas - contact your friends, get out there, and have fun!

And may 2011 bring good experiences for you x

yvonne13_2

zzzLazyDaisy thank you for your comment above, what you wrote is true.
I didn't want to get into anything to personal on here as I was really talking about me trying to save money after being landed with some big bills.
Anyway I spoke to the other woman yesterday and I found out all I needed.

I was overweight and size 18 with low confidence, she too is overweight ect. I lost the weight and now I am a size 8 and it's that what he didn't like as I got my confidence back I started asking questions. I was perhaps feeling good that someone was willing to be with me as I used to be ignored and never noticed.
Sometimes love is blind and when my eyes was opened I saw exactly what was going on, I was really upset yesterday when the other woman said that she had been to his house and had stayed in the outside study snug at the bottom of the garden.
She was actually talking about my house!

I was not considering staying with my ex at all, he told me to do one cause he knew he had been caught out. I am only 26 and have finally got my head screwed on, I wasn't looking or allowing someone to treat me like there local cash machine but I was glad his true colours came light and now I will learn from my own mistake.


I will not be contacting him or his mum for any of the money I will take care of it myself and like I said rent the spare room in the new year.

Accountant_Kerry

yvonne13 wrote: »

zzzLazyDaisy thank you for your comment above, what you wrote is true.
I didn't want to get into anything to personal on here as I was really talking about me trying to save money after being landed with some big bills.
Anyway I spoke to the other woman yesterday and I found out all I needed.

I was overweight and size 18 with low confidence, she too is overweight ect. I lost the weight and now I am a size 8 and it's that what he didn't like as I got my confidence back I started asking questions. I was perhaps feeling good that someone was willing to be with me as I used to be ignored and never noticed.
Sometimes love is blind and when my eyes was opened I saw exactly what was going on, I was really upset yesterday when the other woman said that she had been to his house and had stayed in the outside study snug at the bottom of the garden.
She was actually talking about my house!

I was not considering staying with my ex at all, he told me to do one cause he knew he had been caught out. I am only 26 and have finally got my head screwed on, I wasn't looking or allowing someone to treat me like there local cash machine but I was glad his true colours came light and now I will learn from my own mistake.


I will not be contacting him or his mum for any of the money I will take care of it myself and like I said rent the spare room in the new year.

Cheeky Ba***rd! You are well shot of him, go out and have fun with your lovely new figure and confidence sky high. Blokes like this are scum, you will find the lovely bloke u deserve, but not too soon i hope, have some fun first!! x