How do I get my bf to give me rent.

yvonne13_2

Ok I have been with my bf for 6 months and the last 3 he has been staying with me 6 out of 7 days even though he has no property or clothes here.

I told the council tax people and now I have to pay full council tax plus more for him. When I told him he has to start paying rent and bills he said he would rather go back to his mums and stay there for free.

Am I being unreasonable? He has given me no money for anything not even food but he still eats, watches tv and has 4 showers a day. I pointed out to him that all my bills had more than doubled since he has started staying here and I cannot and will not carry him anymore. He said I don't pay rent so why should he. I actually pay my morgage once a month but he seems to think that I should be lucky that he wants to spend so much time with me.

Anyway last night I told him he better sort himself out or I will rent my spare room in January as I cannot afford all the bills he has left me to pay. I have already gone to my local estate agent and they have suggested that I charge £450pcm which includes rent of the room, council tax and all the other bills.

When I told him he said he will give me £100 a month cause he still lives at his mums!!!!

So it looks like I will be renting my room in the new year, am I asking to much? I am sure when you speand one night in a hotel they don't let you stay for free.

Money_maker

4 showers a day :eek:

Tell him to go back to mummy - if she's daft enough to put him up (or put up with him) for nothing then she's welcome.

You are not unreasonable - he is taking the p and your bills must have rocketed.

He can come back when he's grown up

robpw2

450 pcm for a room .... where are you living ..?

giddypenguin

I think you need relationship advice, not financial!

Your boyfriend needs to wake up and realise that you can't have it all for free - wanna move out of mummy's then you've got to pay for it. He sounds like a bit of a leach - if your not careful you could be paying for his keep for the rest of the relationship.

And 4 showers a day?? I'd turn off the hot water after the first.

G_M

This is really a moneysaving foum, not an agony aunt column, however, either you and your boyfriend reach an agreement and understanding of each others' viewpoints, or the relationship is not worth having.

He's offered you £100 a month. That's someting. Probobly covers his food and the extra utility costs, though I guess not the lost single person allowance on the council tax. How much do you feel is fair and would satisfy you?

poppysarah

4 showersm = either some very disgusting personal habits or some nasty clean phobia.

You need a new bf imo.

ILW

Tell him he pays half of everything or you will replace him with someone that will.

paddy's_mum

Tell him that because you also think bestowing your company upon him is a privilege he should be grateful for, you'll move to his Mum's too and pay her the £100 a month he thinks it worth.

He sounds to be either a very immature boy aged about 11, or he's a tightwad. Whatever you do, don't get pregnant or you'l be spending the next twenty years fighting to get so much as a birthday card out of him.

Wonder if Mumsy knows what a grasping little so-and-so he has become? If he's old enough to have sex, isn't he old enough to work out the financial facts of life?

Littlemadam83

I would definitely let him stay at his mums, if my ex boyfriend had refused to help then sod him, what is he going to be like with no responsibility in the future!

I am not saying ditch him, but you have a mortgage and bills to pay, you dont need to support anyone else for nothing.

BadgerFace_2

He sounds lovely...you know what to do!

Jowo_2

I agree with giddypenguin - this isn't a housing issue, this is a relationship issue. Find a new partner who shows you respect. Your idiot boyfriend is leeching off you and is being disingenuous - 'rent is completely different from paying a mortgage',' if his belongings aren't in the property its not his primary residence', and other pathetic theories.

In a situation like this, you can only be exploited with your consent - he's only getting free board and lodging because you allow this situation to persist. The saying is the first time you make a mistake, it's not your fault but the second or continuing time, it is! You've only really got yourself to blame for being so soft and not giving him his marching orders earlier. Take the key back from him now and listen as he comes out with another daft argument.

Also, arrange the following words

coffee the wake-up smell and

Also, I'm not sure why anyone would seek advice from a letting agent concerning a stingy hygiene obsessed partner. Yes, they've given you an idea of the market price for a shared room in the area, but people in relationships who move in together don't necessarily have such a formal business relationship and charge commercial rates to each other, they normally work out a mutually satisfactory arrangement that suits them.

And seeing a boyfriend 6 days out of 7 sounds unhealthy to me, particularly when one is insistent (against the evidence) that they aren't actually co-habiting. Are you seeing other friends and family regularly, do you have a good social life outside of the home (doubtful if you are subsidising that Idiotfriend? Time to have a girls night out, me thinks.

I note from a separate thread that you posted, that the Boyf dropped the same xmas gift hints to both you and his beloved mother, so you both naturally bought them and now you are lumbered with duplicate gifts that you can't get a refund on, so you've had to buy him more items...Is he a mummy's boy?