How do I get my bf to give me rent.

fimonkey

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

You can't set up a tenancy agreement when the owner of the property lives on the premises. The only way to protect one's interests would be to have a lodger agreement but that might not fly because they are a cohabiting couple.

So what happens if a tenant genuinely then falls for his/her LL. Does that lodger agreement then become null and void?

Surely there are also instances where couples live together in a bought property but manage to keep everything financial seperate? I know of one friend who's OH has a shopping addiciton (I Kid you not!) They work round it by EVERYTHING being in his name so she cannot risk any of it by using it as security for store/credit cards. He merely gives her 'pocket money' for the week and takes care of all the financial stuff. She has an appalling credit record which makes him extra careful to never have his finances tied up with hers, and she pays him 'rent and bills' and he even has a rent book he signs for her. It works for them - I've never questioned whether it would stand up in court though.

Also, say for instance a guy had a great inheritence and could then afford to buy his own property - whilst doing so meets a lovely young lady. The house is bought in his name, with his deposit, - the relationship is going well and they want to test the water by living together. How would that then wash in terms of him protecting himself incase the rose coloured spectacles turn clear?

Thanks

BitterAndTwisted

If someone lives with a partner in their fully paid-for house then any monies paid by them could not be construed as having made a contribution towards it.

IronWolf

I dont think you should charge him rent, but he should definitely split all bills with you 50/50 AND pay for his own food!

tbh I think you should dump this sponger

Meadows

yvonne13 wrote: »

When I told him he has to start paying rent and bills he said he would rather go back to his mums and stay there for free.

So open the door and send him on his way, there is no such thing as a free ride why should you have to pay for him and be out of pocket, go back to having him over a few nights a week and tell the Council Tax office you are a single occupier.

jamespir

yvonne13 wrote: »

Ok I have been with my bf for 6 months and the last 3 he has been staying with me 6 out of 7 days even though he has no property or clothes here.

I told the council tax people and now I have to pay full council tax plus more for him. When I told him he has to start paying rent and bills he said he would rather go back to his mums and stay there for free.

Am I being unreasonable? He has given me no money for anything not even food but he still eats, watches tv and has 4 showers a day. I pointed out to him that all my bills had more than doubled since he has started staying here and I cannot and will not carry him anymore. He said I don't pay rent so why should he. I actually pay my morgage once a month but he seems to think that I should be lucky that he wants to spend so much time with me.

Anyway last night I told him he better sort himself out or I will rent my spare room in January as I cannot afford all the bills he has left me to pay. I have already gone to my local estate agent and they have suggested that I charge £450pcm which includes rent of the room, council tax and all the other bills.

When I told him he said he will give me £100 a month cause he still lives at his mums!!!!

So it looks like I will be renting my room in the new year, am I asking to much? I am sure when you speand one night in a hotel they don't let you stay for free.

tell him to do one

yvonne13_2

jamespir wrote: »

tell him to do one

Well I have just finished speaking to him and he told me to do one.

I don't really care as I am struggling paying the extra bill's and renting the spare room is the best option for me. The lodger option for me mi thinks, and someone from work to rent the room is ideal.

sonastin

If you don't want to go the whole hog and throw him out (don't see why you wouldn't but it does take all sorts ), start small by no longer feeding him. Cook dinner for one, or better still stop buying groceries and come home each night with a single ready meal or takeaway for one. I bet his belly will give him the message pretty soon.

And if that doesn't work, step 2 would be to take the shower head away with you when you leave the house. After all, if he doesn't live there, he should only be visiting when you're home. He can shower in his own home if he doesn't want to help pay your bills.

And if he's still not got the message that he should be paying for the things he is using, it is DEFINITELY time to dump his a$$ :rotfl:

Meadows

yvonne13 wrote: »

Well I have just finished speaking to him and he told me to do one.
I don't really care as I am struggling paying the extra bill's and renting the spare room is the best option for me. The lodger option for me mi thinks, and someone from work to rent the room is ideal.

Well done you for standing up to him. Sorry if it means the end of the relationship but perhaps it was not meant to be.
Rent your room out in the new year and look forward to better things for yourself.

diable

yvonne13 wrote: »

Well I have just finished speaking to him and he told me to do one.

I don't really care as I am struggling paying the extra bill's and renting the spare room is the best option for me. The lodger option for me mi thinks, and someone from work to rent the room is ideal.

So he is a bit of a c0ck and a user, good riddance I say, you just need to rent the room out to a "fit looking" lodger wink wink

mlz1413

yvonne13 wrote: »

Well I have just finished speaking to him and he told me to do one.

I don't really care as I am struggling paying the extra bill's and renting the spare room is the best option for me. The lodger option for me mi thinks, and someone from work to rent the room is ideal.

I had hoped you two would work it out, but if he only wants you as a replacement mother then best its happened soon than later.

Take the next couple of weeks to think about how a lodger would work, read the tenancy agreement forms available and have a merry xmas.

Better luck for next year.