How do I get my bf to give me rent.

diable

Lokolo wrote: »

Where do you live yvonne...?

Give her time to get over it ...............

zzzLazyDaisy

bristol_pilot wrote: »

Wrong. The other way an unmarried person can gain entitlement to a share in another person's house is on the whim of a judge. The courts have very wide discretion and if the property had been called 'our home' for example or an individual has contributed to minor DIY/ household bills / food (which may in practice be indistinguishable from contributions to mortgage payments) then judges can and do award a portion of the house to one party simply because they lived in the property.

Okay, we have to agree to differ on this.

In the case of a cohabiting couple the courts have limited powers in relation to property owned in the sole name of one of the partners (in contrast to married couples who have additional protections under matrimonial laws). The only way an unmarried partner can claim a share of property held in the other partner's sole name is to show that they have acquired a beneficial interest according to the law. They cannot acquire a beneficial interest simply by living in the property, or by paying their share of food they have eaten, and gas/electric/water they have used.

The best way to protect against a non-owning partner acquiring a beneficial interest is to have a solicitor draw up a 'cohabitation agreement' setting out the parties' intentions in the event of a break-up, including a declaration that the non-owning partner will not gain any beneficial interest in the property. It may not be romantic, but as a sole-owner, I would certainly take that step if a bf moved into my home, because it would make it almost impossible for a future claim to get off the ground.

But the second best way is to ensure that the non-owning partner never makes any contribution to the mortgage or pays for any improvements or maintenance of the building, but just pays for his/her share of the food and utility bills (which should also remain in the owning partner's sole name). Any payments should preferably be made in cash so there is no paper trail.

It is also worth seeking advice from Shelter who will give free advice to both owning and non-owning partners on their rights in the event of the relationship ending.

yvonne13_2

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

The best way to protect against a non-owning partner acquiring a beneficial interest is to have a solicitor draw up a 'cohabitation agreement' setting out the parties' intentions in the event of a break-up, including a declaration that the non-owning partner will not gain any beneficial interest in the property. It may not be romantic, but as a sole-owner, I would certainly take that step if a bf moved into my home, because it would make it almost impossible for a future claim to get off the ground.

But the second best way is to ensure that the non-owning partner never makes any contribution to the mortgage or pays for any improvements or maintenance of the building, but just pays for his/her share of the food and utility bills (which should also remain in the owning partner's sole name). Any payments should preferably be made in cash so there is no paper trail.

And this is exactly what I was going to do why he kicked of. I have worked hard to sort myself out and why should I just let someone take all what I have.

I had a nice surprise waiting for me this morning, the phone bill was £436.97 and the same mobile number was all over it. So it appears I have been blind to what has been going on, I called him to ask for the money and his mum answered and told me I am a greedy jumped up money grabber and she doesn't know why her son is going to propose to me on Christmas day and all night her son was crying ect, oh and I am not invited to Christmas dinner no more.

That was the best news I had heard in a while cause as soon as she slammed the phone down on me I called my neighbour and he changed the locks to my house. Now I am of to the shops to get some food in so I can have the best Christmas ever am just sad that I cannot spend it with my father as he is in Aruba at his holiday home.

I have had a lucky escape he was not for me and as for now another bill landing on me well its a lesson in life I will have to learn from.

nell53

Well done for making the decision. Even if you wobble over the next few days, you'll look back on this relationship in a few years time and ask yourself What was I thinking? Been there, done that...Enjoy your Christmas as much as you can.

poppysarah

yvonne13 wrote: »

I had a nice surprise waiting for me this morning, the phone bill was £436.97 and the same mobile number was all over it. So it appears I have been blind to what has been going on,

Send him a polite letter asking for payment of the calls to numbers you don't ring yourself. But don't ring or bother them again.

Photocopy (scan and print) the bill and black out your own numbers.

What a monkey he was. Lucky escape!

Have a great Christmas and look forward to a Happy New Year!

diable

For the future and for anyone else it is always worthwhile to phone the telco that you are with and place a maximum spend on the line.

@yvonne13 looks like his Mum is just as bad as her son and delusional as that quote about proposing was just to throw you,

mlz1413

Give the number he called all the time a ring and say that he has racked up £xx.xx of money on your bill but won't pay anything towards it. Just to warn them what he is like, fore warned is fore armed.

Merry Xmas Yvonne I think you are ending the year on a high and going into the New Year for a much better stand point.

DVardysShadow

yvonne13 wrote: »

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I had a nice surprise waiting for me this morning, the phone bill was £436.97 and the same mobile number was all over it. So it appears I have been blind to what has been going on, I called him to ask for the money and his mum answered and told me I am a greedy jumped up money grabber and she doesn't know why her son is going to propose to me on Christmas day and all night her son was crying ect, oh and I am not invited to Christmas dinner no more.

That was the best news I had heard in a while cause as soon as she slammed the phone down on me ....

Never marry into debt. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: But you had worked that out anyway.

BTW, it would be interesting to find who is on the mobile no he was ringing .... you might not realise how big your lucky escape is.

sonastin

If he was going to propose, ask him to pawn the ring to pay off the money he owes you...

geoffky

a girl i know ended up falling in love with her landlord but they carried on claiming as landlord and lodger..she got two years jail..