Who pays what in your house?

treetrunks

i pay for everything, my fiancee stays home and looks after our son. I believe i had the better deal. As much fun as he is hes hard work.

MillicentBystander

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Sounds like he's both a miser and a spendthrift - not a good combination.

IME the truly tight people are rarely tight when it comes to spending on themselves. Just for others.

lauzt1987

Felt compelled to post. I know I shouldn't be so judgemental as I don't know all the facts but my first thought was, why would you ever want to spend your life with this man? He sounds incredibly selfish and petty.

I think the only fair way to do this is to work out how much all your household expenses, groceries etc cost a month, split this down the middle and pay that set amount into a joint account where all your direct debits etc come from. This is how my partner and I do it and it works great. The joint acc covers our rent bills and groceries, then from our own current accs we each pay our own mobile phone bill, car expenses, presrnts entertainment etc.

If you're not willing to have a joint acc with this man, this would suggest to me that you either don't trust him or don't see a future with him. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you sound like a really good person and I hate the thought of you being taken advantage of!

floss2

Since we got married, we have a joint bills account & each have our own account into which our salaries go. DH takes home roughly twice the amount that I do, therefore he pays 65% of the household & shared bills, I pay 35%.

These joint bills include mortgage & endowment, buildings & contents insurances (house in DH's name as had it for 18 years before I moved in); car tax, insurance & fuel for our own car (DH's is company car); gas, electric, water & food bills; life insurances; mobile phone bills; TV licence, cable, broadband & phone line.

We both put money in our savings accounts each month; DH pays his credit card bill off (which has just included £1k for a new boiler, glasses for me and the Christmas shopping); I support a student son and we each have roughly £50 a week spends for things like my hair appointments, magazines, books, beer money etc.

I have to say that paying a share based on the %age of income works for us, but it may not work for everyone.

sueeve

Doesn't he eat the food that you get from the supermarket?
He is taking you for a ride.
He si not your other half, or your partner. That implies mutual respect andworkng together.

scorpiolady

These days hubby earns more than me but i have in the past earned more than him or not worked for a while and the same goes for him , both our wages go into a joint account all the bills are paid from that account , if either of us needs cash then we just mention it to each other and thats it, no arguements and its worked for us for the last 25 years.

Mupette

Get some chalk, draw a line down the the living room, if you pay for the tv etc, have that on your side and russle up a curtain...
(Steptoe and son)

if he complains tell him if he pays towards the tv he can watch the tv.

if he wants a lift to work he can pay towards the fuel.. or bus and walk.

play him at his game. Oh and STOP giving him spending money, if he runs out to bad... I bet he wouldnt give you any money if you run out.

Tell him to grow a pair and grow up

Jalapee

Couldnt read and run... from what i read he sounds very lucky to have you! I would have shown him the door already!

Tropez

No mortgage or rent to pay on my place so perhaps it is a bit easier, but gas, electric, water, council tax, tv licence, home insurance etc. comes from a joint kitty - it isn't a 50/50 split because I earn more, so we pay a percentage of our income into it and that covers that.

Things like mobile phones, pet insurance, car insurance etc. is paid for by whoever is using it and I pay for the Sky because I'm the one who generally watches it.

The majority of groceries I pay for because I have a delivery once a week or so but my partner might pick some stuff up herself one night so it balances out a little.

jcr16

when i first met hubby i earnt more than him slightly. as he was an apprentice. Within 6 weeks of being together we opened a joint bank account and moved both sets of wages into this. ( we were buying our first home) . we never said this bill is xx lets go 50/50. once the money was in the account it was seen as both of ours. we paid the bills. what was left was ours to enjoy.

Now i'm a stay at home mummy. have been for nearly 8 years. hubby has a great wage. but he pays for everything. although we don't see it like this. if i worked my wages would have to pay a child minder. so it levels itself out.

We pay the bills and what is left is ours to enjoy. My husband and i are married so therefore it is simple we just share it all.i personally don't think in a marriage u can have his and hers as it is a partnership. but then i am quite oild fashioned when it comes to marriage even tho i'm only 29,lol.