Been asked out....timing awful...any advice?!? **UPDATE POST #38!**

JimmyTheWig

thatgirlsam wrote: »

becuase your children need you, they need a happy strong mummy!

A good reason to go for something that will make her happy, in my book.

emsywoo123

thatgirlsam wrote: »

emsy-woo im sure it was you who posted on a thread i was on.. and you agreed with me when i said i wanted to stay single becuase i can't be dealing with introducing a new partner to my kids,

This is true, I did, perhaps I am being naive in not looking that far ahead, and perhaps I sound selfish, but I was thinking of just having an hour or so for me, as Emsywoo not Mumsywoo.

Rockinbikergal

Go out and have a couple of hours of Emsywoo time, you will probably not stop thinking about the kids the whole time you are out but at the same time you will be catching up with an old friend you haven't seen in years and you deserve to have some fun

SingleMumOf2_3

God help the children, I am sure they will be severley effected and traumatised by mummy have an evening to herself.

Have fun on friday chick

SugarSpun

If she'd invited the guy to her house there'd be someone horrified that she'd put her kids at risk inviting someone over she's not seen in a long time without so much as a CRB check. It's the nature of the internet.

I hope you enjoy it for what it is emsy and I agree with the majority - go, catch up, enjoy the smiling and the flirting and the rest of it but be careful of yourself at the same time.

Blobby8_2

This thread is a wind up, right ?

ali-t

emsywoo123 wrote: »

This is true, I did, perhaps I am being naive in not looking that far ahead, and perhaps I sound selfish, but I was thinking of just having an hour or so for me, as Emsywoo not Mumsywoo.

It is entirely up to you what you do, but if I was in your shoes and thought I might be tempted by a hottie but also aware that my hormones are all over the place which might lead to some poor decision making I would....
.... not shave my legs, wear the biggest bridget jones pants I own and leave my bedroom in a mess.

This would mean that although I looked ok on the outside there would be no temptation to take him home, go back to his house or have anything more than a hands off catch up/date.

Good luck whatever you decide but I am surprised that you can be bothered with going out when you are dealing with the demands of a baby and another little one - your energy levels sound far greater than mine. I think I would be struggling to stay awake

emsywoo123

Well I have decided not to go

He has been very quiet, so I think he has probably changed his mind, and TBH I believe things happen for a reason, so I'm not going to pursue it

JimmyTheWig

That's a shame, emsy.

His loss!

FakeIrish

I cannot believe anyone would consider dating 3 weeks after the birth of a child, regardless of the hgistory. Especially with someone you knew from 10 years ago. People lose contact for a reason and the past should stay there. Move on, focus on your 2 kids, and when you're ready, then start dating.

You know you're not ready yet, hence asking for advice in the first place.