Been asked out....timing awful...any advice?!? **UPDATE POST #38!**

ema_o

boo emsy, definitely his loss. Chances are his fb pic is several years old too and he's not left himself enough time to lose the beer belly / moobs and get hair implants
I was planning to reply to your post when I thought you were going to say go but with no expectations other than a catch up with an old friend. Not worth reading more into it. You may not fancy him or vice versa.

How about using the nanny to get out for a few hours with your friends instead, you'll probably have more fun

emsywoo123

ema_o wrote: »

How about using the nanny to get out for a few hours with your friends instead, you'll probably have more fun

I did think about this, but TBH I was looking forward to a good old catch up and gossip with Mr Aforementioned, so I think I'd be lil' Miss Grumps if I went out now :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

FakeIrish

Emsywoo123

Your tag line says it all.

joeblack066

Well I'm a single Mum of ( 3 grown up) and have had some terrible relationship experiences, BUT I also have a date with a guy from school (I'm 48!) and it's put a big smile on MY face, so I say go for it - it's a date for goodness sake not a lifelong committment! I think that we need to be more like the Americans when it comes to dating - we seem to think that one date means permanent and exclusive - rather than what it is, a date! Emsy, go for it!

themull1

I wouldn't leave my babies when they were three weeks old, in fact, i waited years before going out! I say each to their own, at the end of the day, its your baby and its your body. But i didn't want to leave them.

peachyprice

ali-t wrote: »

It is entirely up to you what you do, but if I was in your shoes and thought I might be tempted by a hottie but also aware that my hormones are all over the place which might lead to some poor decision making I would....
.... not shave my legs, wear the biggest bridget jones pants I own and leave my bedroom in a mess.

This would mean that although I looked ok on the outside there would be no temptation to take him home, go back to his house or have anything more than a hands off catch up/date.

I think the fact that she had a c-section 3 weeks ago would be reason enough to make sure there was no temptation to take him home.

MrsE_2

peachyprice wrote: »

I think the fact that she had a c-section 3 weeks ago would be reason enough to make sure there was no temptation to take him home.

I had an ectopic & had a hip to hip cut.
I "think" we waited less than 2 weeks:o
I think that was partly because I wanted to waste no time trying again.
But its probably different with a new partner.

Sambucus_Nigra

themull1 wrote: »

I wouldn't leave my babies when they were three weeks old, in fact, i waited years before going out! I say each to their own, at the end of the day, its your baby and its your body. But i didn't want to leave them.

Oh my. Talk about



'I must never leave my babies......'

Honest to goodness, stop trying to make the girl feel guilty for even thinking of having any sort of life. She's already said she's not going out but you just have to have a dig if you can.

LittleMrsThrifty

I still don't see the problem. If you have a babysitter you can trust and a mobile they can call you on if need be then go out and enjoy yourself for the evening.

thatgirlsam

i honestly don't think anyone has been trying to make emsywoo feel guilty for going out ... or not going out as the case may be

just that the time after having a baby can make a woman very vulnerable.. for all sorts of different reasons

not saying this guy is after anything, he is most likely 100% genuine, but emsywoo is in a vulnerable time in her life and i would hate to think of her being taken advantage of

deep down i really feel that dating just 3 weeks after giving birth could be a recipe for disaster, althouhg im sure someone will be along to tell me their success story in a minute!