Been asked out....timing awful...any advice?!? **UPDATE POST #38!**

shellsuit

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

Read back.....that was discussed as well......I think after what Emsy has been through if she really feels the need for a night out then she deserves it....after all they are old friends as well so why can't friends go out for a drink and a catch up if that is what is needed to lift spirits...being couped up in the house for 3 weeks following the birth of her little one must be giving her cabin fever, especially as the baby isn't the only child there....of course there is a possible romantic side but the main thing in the whole story is they are old friends who are going for a catch up and to see what happens you can't put your life on hold forever and when is a good time to meet someone, old friend or not????

Sorry Emsy I wasn't going to repost after saying get yourself out there and have some fun but tbh the people who are being wet blankets and so judgemental are making my blood boil and I just had to post again, lol......and I know I don't have to read the comments before I get told so.....but I think you are wise going out to meet up, you don't want to let the kids get confused even though he is an old friend and tbh even at that he could have changed a lot in the past 10 years so you are better letting people know where you are going and meeting him in a public place...is that not what advice is given when meeting anyone off the internet????

Did emsy not ask for advice?

Does that not mean people will post their opinions?

Did I knock your opinion? Don't think you'll find I did, so lay off and stop knocking mine.

GobbledyGook

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

Sorry Emsy I wasn't going to repost after saying get yourself out there and have some fun but tbh the people who are being wet blankets and so judgemental are making my blood boil and I just had to post again, lol

Having an opinion that differs from the one the majority and the OP have on the situation doesn't make a person judgemental - it means they have a different opinion.

When you ask for opinions on a public forum then you have to welcome opinions that will be different from yours.

So if you ask if it's a good idea to do X then you have to expect that some people will say "Yeah, go for it", but equally expect that people will say "Absolutely no way!!"


Personally I wouldn't go on a date when my baby was only 3 weeks old. There's too many hormones flying around at that time and I wouldn't trust my judgement - everything is too good and fluffy. Although at 3 weeks mine seemed to be feeding 24/7 so there would have been no chance anyway!

I hope it goes well for the OP, but do please be careful. It is a vulnerable time for a new Mum so take care of yourself.

Sublime_2

I personally would wait, but its up to you. If you feel ready go for it.

clairec79

I agree she's being sensible by not having him at her home as I do think you should seperate dates and early relationships from your children and not confuse them.

Personally I wouldn't want to go for an evening out and leave my three week old baby (my youngest is nearly 6 weeks, I am meant to be going out in 2 weeks time and can't see me being more than a few hours as I'll miss him) but that's me, I did go out after 5 weeks with my eldest and although I enjoyed it within 2hours I wanted to be home with her)

Rockinbikergal

Wasn't knocking you Shellsuit was just pointing out that these had already been discussed earlier in the thread. I agree that when asking for public opinion you will get everyone's view but in general and not pointing the finger at anyone, when reading back some posters have gotten a little personal and that was what was annoying me and it was those I was calling judgemental...I did not mean to offend anyone with my post and if I have I apologise.

emsywoo123

I didn't mean to cause such controversy :eek:

I was planning to go, as a friend, I didn't want him to come here as we would not really get a chance to chat properly, and I thought it might be nice to go out.

Regardless of any attraction or not, it does not mean that I would actually do anything anyway.

As it goes, he has been much quiter today so it's probably not going to happen, but thank you all anyhoo

ETA: just found out why he has been quiet, his sis gave birth, on her due date :0) I'm so jealous I went what felt like months overdue LOL

Rockinbikergal

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I didn't mean to cause such controversy :eek:

not you causing it hehe do you know what flavour his sis had????

emsywoo123

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

not you causing it hehe do you know what flavour his sis had????

Yup a lil boy

TBH all the thoughts on this page (mostly ) are thoughts I have had myself. So no clearer :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Sublime_2

Just meet him as a friend, if you really must, and take it from there.

thatgirlsam

sorry but im in the minority too!

it must be dead flattering to be asked out so soon after having a baby but i think you might end up making your life really complicated

emsy-woo im sure it was you who posted on a thread i was on.. and you agreed with me when i said i wanted to stay single becuase i can't be dealing with introducing a new partner to my kids, i just want to concentrate on them.. as you are never going to meet somone who loves them as much as you

i am not anti step parent, i had one myself.. its just that its gone wrong for me once and im not aure if i could take all that again

so.. what i am saying is - what if something does happen - are you emotionally strong enough to withsatnd it if it all goes wrong?

becuase your children need you, they need a happy strong mummy!