Been asked out....timing awful...any advice?!? **UPDATE POST #38!**

emsywoo123

fluffnutter wrote: »

Hmm, thinking about starting a new love affair when your baby's just three weeks old?! Each to their own but it wouldn't be my priority. You look like a dog's dinner for a reason just after firing one out. It's so you concentrate on your kid, not your lovelife.

What's the rush? If he's a decent bloke he won't mind waiting a few months. Stay in touch online for the time being. And concentrate on your children.

I didn't say anything about "starting a new love affair"?!?!?

And thanks so much for confirming I look like a dogs dinner, totally what I wanted to hear

hngrymummy

emsywoo123 wrote: »

My profile pic is 3 years old :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

My hair is crap, I wear glasses now.........so much wrong :eek:

Daytime tricky as I have bubs, I sometimes have a night nanny so actually evening is the only time I can do

Nowt wrong with specs Mine are a permanent fixture.

As for your hair, well having just gone through the trauma of having a baby, I suggest that a treat is in order - a pampering session at the hairdressers would cheer you up I reckon. Then go down the local for a relaxed drink (as friends). If you go as friends, then if you both realise that friendship is best for now no-one will feel awkward.

I reckon it's win/win if you aim for friendship on a first meeting. You'll either stay as friends, which will be great, or you'll realise that maybe at some point you might want more from things - bonus.

barbiedoll

Oh just go for it...being a mum is sometimes the most unglamorous job in the world so if someone is making you feel all giggly and girly, then why not?

And don't worry about what you look like at the moment. My favourite Viz "Top Tip" of all time is......

"Girls, don't worry about spending a fortune on a new dress for that all-important first date. All he's interested in is seeing you naked"

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Men are much less hung up on CS scars, wobbly bits, cellulite etc etc, than women are anyway. Just go somewhere with flattering lighting and slap on a bit of make-up.
Do let us know how you get on

jeffgeorge

Hi Emsy,

I think you sound all loved up and excited and should go for it Carpe Diem and all, you will be self concious if you have had a baby but he has met you and likes you, so go easy on your self and go for it!!

Some people never get asked out atall, so enjoy it and make the most of it, what have you lost? You will still be single but no different to now!

Enjoy and let us know how it goes!


x

Nicki

fluffnutter wrote: »

Hmm, thinking about starting a new love affair when your baby's just three weeks old?! Each to their own but it wouldn't be my priority. You look like a dog's dinner for a reason just after firing one out. It's so you concentrate on your kid, not your lovelife.

What's the rush? If he's a decent bloke he won't mind waiting a few months. Stay in touch online for the time being. And concentrate on your children.

Gosh. There is nothing quite so unpleasant as one woman to another sometimes! :mad:

I hope you do go OP and have a blast. Having a newborn is hard hard work and all the more so I should think if you are doing it on your own with another child to get to and from school too so you can't even catch up on sleep freely. If a bit of online flirting and a night out with an old friend sounds like fun to you, then you'd be bonkers to turn it down for the sake of a wobbly tummy and a scar which probably won't be seen for a while anyway

hitchins

fluffnutter wrote: »

Hmm, thinking about starting a new love affair when your baby's just three weeks old?! Each to their own but it wouldn't be my priority. You look like a dog's dinner for a reason just after firing one out. It's so you concentrate on your kid, not your lovelife.

What's the rush? If he's a decent bloke he won't mind waiting a few months. Stay in touch online for the time being. And concentrate on your children.

Flipping heck! Who invited the wet blanket?


Go for it Emsy, and I bet you don't look as bad as you think, and anyway who cares!

emsywoo123

Ooo quick update.........

We've chatted a bit more, and he has said that it doesn't matter if I'm not ready to meet, he does not want me to be uncomfortable, he will wait and chat as long as it takes for me to feel ok

He also said who knows if it will lead to anything but he'd love to catch up with me either way, and he'll pop over for a coffee and film (so long as it's not moulin rouge-he knows it's my fave :T ) if going out seems too daunting.

Cannot wipe the smile off my face LOL. So yeah. I'm about to suggest Friday. But I know he does a few nights in a pub to get extra cash to buy treats for his DD, so it might have to be another night. Just preparing myself :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Loopy_Girl

Nicki wrote: »

Gosh. There is nothing quite so unpleasant as one woman to another sometimes! :mad:

Sorry but I agree with fluffnutter.

There's been years of her 'issues' with her ex and she's just had a baby.

Maybe she should concentrate on her kids for a change instead of thinking of the next one to be wheeled in and disrupt her eldest

Starrystarrynight

I think the fact that you can't stop smiling speaks volumes, OP!

emsywoo123

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Sorry but I agree with fluffnutter.

There's been years of her 'issues' with her ex and she's just had a baby.

Maybe she should concentrate on her kids for a change instead of thinking of the next one to be wheeled in and disrupt her eldest

ah Loopy I knew you'd be along, you post on every single thread I start, totally negative, nothing constructive to ever say. In fact you sound really bitter.
So sorry if my having a bit of happiness and a smile on my face after all the carp I have had does not please you.
You have no idea of anyone being "wheeled in" or the impact or otherwise it has on my DD.
Terribly sorry, got to pop you on ignore.
Thank you as ever for your input :rotfl: :rotfl: