Been asked out....timing awful...any advice?!? **UPDATE POST #38!**

emsywoo123

hngrymummy wrote: »

I'd say it's bloomin good timing, not bad timing. Just when you need real company, the kind that doesn't vomit on you when you give it a cuddle, up pops this offer. In your FB profile pic you look lovely, so stop panicking about what you look like!

Why not suggest meeting for a coffee in the daytime. It's a bit less formal than an evening date.

BTW, :beer: on being asked out.

My profile pic is 3 years old :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

My hair is crap, I wear glasses now.........so much wrong :eek:

Daytime tricky as I have bubs, I sometimes have a night nanny so actually evening is the only time I can do

emsywoo123

Nicki wrote: »

I suspect 3 weeks postpartum with a chap she hasn't seen for 10 years, this will not be high on her list of priorities. Particularly if she opts for the spanx

This made me LOL, as it is soooooooooo true :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

emsywoo123

dustystar02 wrote: »

Plus, if nothing comes of it, what have you lost?

I know this sounds sad, but at the mo it's exciting, checking my phone etc, lil' texts and fun, just someone that says "good morning" cos they are thinking of you, not cos you bumped into them or they are just being polite.

I know it probably sounds daft, but if I do meet up with him and turn out to be the disappointment I think I'll be, I will really miss that. Already! How silly I know

JimmyTheWig

Why not set a date, now, for when you think you'll be more ready - 3 weeks time, maybe.

If he's a dad, he'll know you won't be looking your best right now.

But also, especially if he's a dad, why not meet up in the daytime with your newborn. I would have thought that any dad would realise that a single mum with a 3 week old baby will come with that 3 week old baby.

emsywoo123

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Why not set a date, now, for when you think you'll be more ready - 3 weeks time, maybe.

If he's a dad, he'll know you won't be looking your best right now.

But also, especially if he's a dad, why not meet up in the daytime with your newborn. I would have thought that any dad would realise that a single mum with a 3 week old baby will come with that 3 week old baby.

More ready? I feel less ready now than I did 24 hours ago.......... :eek: :rotfl:

and I am super nervous about it, I'm not sure that meeting with bubs will be helpful, plus he works.

He offered to drive over for a coffee as he assumed I wouldn't be able to get out, but I was thinking if it all falls flat on its face, at least if we are out it'll be easier to escape :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

JimmyTheWig

The thing is, you've got to the point where whatever happens, you can't continue as you have been. You've either got to say you're not interested in meeting (which is fine, if that's how you feel, but the chances are the flirting will finish) or that you want to meet up with him again.

What sort of support network have you got around you? I don't want to be concentrating on the negatives (as I think the chances are that you will be (a) what is expecting and so (b) what he is wanting) but I don't think that now would be a good time to suffer a rejection if, after meeting, he's not interested in taking things further. If you haven't got good friends / family around you then it might not be a good idea.

emsywoo123

Jimmy good points, I am worried about the rejection, but I have always adopted the "give it a whirl, see what happens" kinda girl.........possibly why I am a single mum to 2 gorgeous tiddlypeeps :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

But you are also correct, if I don't go, then this is going to stop anyway, so I sort of think I have to, and take that risk.

Right, I'm going to do it........I think :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

JimmyTheWig

Good for you, emsy. Good luck.

gratefulforhelp_2

I'm with Jimmy, set a time a little while ahead, and you have something to look forward to and a bit of time to get your head around the idea. Then take it very s l o w l y!

fluffnutter

Hmm, thinking about starting a new love affair when your baby's just three weeks old?! Each to their own but it wouldn't be my priority. You look like a dog's dinner for a reason just after firing one out. It's so you concentrate on your kid, not your lovelife.

What's the rush? If he's a decent bloke he won't mind waiting a few months. Stay in touch online for the time being. And concentrate on your children.