Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

SingleSue

Tell me about it.....I almost did a 360 whilst going (slowly) round a roundabout tonight, mind you, I must have handled it ok because the boys didn't even notice whilst rhere was me with my heart banging madly.

I wasn't the only one, the person behind me and the person behind that person did it too...the design of the roundabout is not the best with a lip onto the second lane which has iced completely up, you touch that and round you go....and it is almost impossible not to touch it even in good weather.

Strangely, the roads seem worse tonight than they were yesterday afternoon, the slush has turned to icy slush, deep snow not turned to slush, crazily churned up and leaving no grip and sending your wheels off in the opposite direction you want them to go and snow packed roads which have become icy on top, makes for a good skid pan. The boys had to help me get out of a parking space in town as there was just no traction in the deep churned up snow and also helped someone else get into their drive for the same reason.

Also, much to the boys anger, the sky box stopped working (we only have the free channels - the subscription was cancelled when hubby left) because our dish had become snow bound and icy...so no television available at all, not even terristrial as ex hubby took the aereal with him! Luckily, by the time we returned tonight, the snow had dropped off and television has been restored (phew!).

SingleSue

dopester wrote: »

BBC News have done a few good iplayer video tips for winter driving over the last few years. A few experts say (1st and 2nd video) for better traction from start-off, forget starting in 1st gear and use 2nd gear from a standstill (not for automatics obviously). The high the gear, the better the traction for driving in snow/ice. It works well for me, (starting off from 2nd gear on snow/ice) for better traction where otherwise would have bad wheelspin or be stuck.

There was also a similar piece at BBC News this year (video 3), and the guy said to begin driving from a standstill up an incline. get going by just to slowly release the clutch with no pressing of the acceleration pedal.

Video 1: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/8443690.stm (Mid way down page.)
Video 2: http://news.bbc.co.uk/local/norfolk/hi/people_and_places/nature/newsid_8388000/8388996.stm (Mid way down page)
Video 3: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-12015993

I was lucky in that in the days before I took my driving test and on my driving test itself, conditions were like they are now...so my driving instructor gave me tips on how to drive in snowy conditions.

This has helped enormously as it has meant I am able to keep going in most weathers (I also had dense fog during the driving lessons too!) but I don't get complacent as I know it only takes one slight eye off the ball moment for everything to go bum upwards!

wageslave

SingleSue wrote: »

Ex hubby finally arrived home late last night....a journey lasting 13 hours.

I couldn't go to sleep until I received the text, how sad is that!

TBH very.

This is a man who made you feel as if you were walking on eggshells because of his temper and who eventually fu cked off with another woman.

You should be lying in bed with a voodoo doll and a very long pin.

I am not having a go Sue but this isn't the kind of man who appreciates the martyr mentality. Please tell me you didn't admit to him you were tossing and turning awaiting his safe return to his fancy bit.

You obviously want him back. Women are ever fools (me included).

Invent a bloke. Start talking about a mystery man and ask him (and his slapper) to have the boys for the weekend. Often.

Start talking about how right he was to find someone else and how it has taken you to now to realise you were never suited. It would be good if you could mention pitying him for being stuck with a slapper quite casually too. But you now understand the heart wants what it wants. Even when it wants a wh ore, the poor man.

Frankly he sounds like a total prat and you are far too good for him.

But if you are determined to have him back, doormat wont do it

tomterm8

I disagree. At the end of the day, voodoo doll's don't solve anything. Better to hire a hitman and... er, yes. Thinking out loud. Maybe not. Is it really worth any more of your life to bollox around trying to get him back. He is a !!!!!. There are better men out there. Lots of them.

SingleSue

Lol....no I didn't tell him I was worried, I told his mother I was worried about her as she still plays a big part in the boys life and has been a godsend at times when one of the boys has been in hospital (even if she can be an annoying begger at times).

There is no way I would have him back, no way on earth, I may still have feelings for him but I couldn't and wouldn't go back to the eggshells days and neither could the boys..plus I rather like having control of the remote control, the time I go to bed, my freedom of speech and the fact the boys and myself can actually discuss things without the risk of a flying plate or two.

Oh, and I do have a jealously factor....I speak with a male friend virtually every night and although we are only friends, ex hubby thinks there is far more to it. Unfortuantely, weekend visits to their dad is out...he won't even have them for one night once every 2 years (he has had them for the grand total of 6 hours this year), let alone a whole weekend several times a year.

And he also knows I am no longer the doormat I became during our marriage....bit of a turn on for him as it is pretty much as I was when we met and until he broke me down.

lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

There are better men out there. Lots of them.

this is true. There are SO any good men. I think women seem to get jaded/disillusioned more easily than men.

SingleSue

I just don't get out enough to meet them.....

wageslave

I have had a dreadful night.

I have had a cousin round going through my shoe cupboard and berating me as she set boxes to the side.

I have been screeching, noooooooo, you are not having those as I mounted a pitiful defense against the combined might of my family

She said "fu cking hell wageslave how many shoes do you have?"

At one point, and I am ashamed to admit it, we were rolling on my bedroom floor over a pair of Dune shoe boots.

It seems I have fu cked up. I really didn't mean to and I dont see how parting with three pairs of shoes makes it OK.

A cousin (male) came round ages ago, he was on the horns of a romantic dilemna. He was less than honest with me, he didn't say the other one is a country girl.

I completely deny any responsibilty

Anyways, he has run off with a country girl and it is all my fault. A good family girl is devastated.

I still dont see how this should cost me three pairs of shoes

My cousins are like piranhas

tomterm8

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I've no idea what you are talking about, but surely the ideal solution is to let your cousin take the old shoes, and then secretly fork out money and buy an even better looking pair of shoes for christmas, keeping it quiet from your family.

misskool

send her an invoice for the shoes if you don't mean for her to have them.

Not caught up with this thread and it keeps moving too fast. Loads more to do for christmas.