* Advise needed - benefits... *

Blue_Diamond

She is 57 yr old, divorsed. She refuses to go counselling, it has been a condition she has had for many of years

MrsManda

Blue_Diamond wrote: »

She is 57 yr old, divorsed. She refuses to go counselling, it has been a condition she has had for many of years

Has she ever worked?
How long was she claiming JSA for?
What's changed?

dmg24

I know it is difficult for you, but maybe you need to leave her to it, and then she will have to do something about it? I have (far from mild!) MH issues, and it is easy to get into a pattern of avoiding anything vaguely difficult and relying on others too much, and sometimes it does me the world of good to be made to get on with things myself.

If she won't go to counselling, there is a very good website which may help. It is recommended by the NHS.

She could apply for ESA again, but she will get sent straight for a medical, so it won't really solve anything.

Blue_Diamond

She worked 10 years ago, and has not worked since. I supported her for 8 years, but as circumstances have changed finacially for me, I am no longer able to support her anymore. She was claiming JSA for 6 months, but decided then she just could not work and stopped the claim. From there she claimed DLA and ESA, but these have come to a stop now too...

Blue_Diamond

dmg24 wrote: »

I know it is difficult for you, but maybe you need to leave her to it, and then she will have to do something about it? I have (far from mild!) MH issues, and it is easy to get into a pattern of avoiding anything vaguely difficult and relying on others too much, and sometimes it does me the world of good to be made to get on with things myself.

If she won't go to counselling, there is a very good website which may help. It is recommended by the NHS.

She could apply for ESA again, but she will get sent straight for a medical, so it won't really solve anything.

Thing is, I have been advised from family to call social services and speak to the MH Dept reference my mum. However, I am scared to do this... My mum would not be happy with me... And I have no idea what that process would entail......

dmg24

Blue_Diamond wrote: »

Thing is, I have been advised from family to call social services and speak to the MH Dept reference my mum. However, I am scared to do this... My mum would not be happy with me... And I have no idea what that process would entail......

I doubt SS will do a lot without a GP referral, they would expect you to go through the Community MH Team first. Is there no one else in the family who will talk to her, or could seeing a different GP help?

Blue_Diamond

I SOOOO wish there was!!! She ONLY has me.... And I am all out of ideas

My GP just says she doesnt know what to do!!! That is no help nor no use

dmg24

Blue_Diamond wrote: »

I SOOOO wish there was!!! She ONLY has me.... And I am all out of ideas

My GP just says she doesnt know what to do!!! That is no help nor no use

It is incredibly difficult to help anyone with MH issues who does not want to be helped, even for medical professionals.

I know it is tough, but unless she is at immediate risk, she is the only one who can make a change.

Blue_Diamond

dmg24 wrote: »

It is incredibly difficult to help anyone with MH issues who does not want to be helped, even for medical professionals.

I know it is tough, but unless she is at immediate risk, she is the only one who can make a change.

I know. She is not at risk to herself nor others. Nor is she interested in progressing or helping herself.

Would she not be entitled to any benefits?

dmg24

Blue_Diamond wrote: »

I know. She is not at risk to herself nor others. Nor is she interested in progressing or helping herself.

Would she not be entitled to any benefits?

The only thing she could be entitled to is ESA or JSA, but I really cannot see her qualifying for either.