This debt must go

starnac

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

- must be lovely to be organised and tidy ALL the time mustn't it?!

Unfortunately I wouldn't know

Well done on hanging the pictures. It is so nice when you finally do a job that's been hanging round for ages

starnac

Evening all. It's very wet here at the moment. We had lovely sunshine this morning but that's been eaten by the rain clouds.

Payday tomorrow so a bit of money shuffling needed then. We have had a grocery budget of £200 this month and we are doing pretty good with it. We are half way through the month as we used money from DH's wages and he gets paid on the 15th. We had a very cheap (although not very healthy) tea tonight. Kiddies shared most of a small pizza which had been reduced to 3p and chips. The chips I worked out to be less than 8p a serving. So pretty good. There's another reduced pizza in the freezer so DH and I might have the same later when he gets home.

I am away this weekend on a youth weekend so I won't get chance to post on here while I'm away. Hope you all have a good weekend

clearmydebts

Have a good weekend Star

Lemon_Tree

hope you enjoyed your weekend

starnac

It's been a funny kind of day today. I heard this morning that my grandfather had passed away and I am really struggling with knowing how I should feel about it. I am sad he's gone but he was 92 so had a good innings. However there is more to the story.

He was my dad's dad and didn't have much to do with us as children as my dad and my nan were always falling out. After my dad died we didn't really see much of them. The year I turned 18 they didn't even send a card. They weren't really interested when I went to uni, except to say to their friends "my granddaughter is in uni you know". I invited them to my wedding and they declined. They never made an effort to meet my husband even at my auntie's wedding they didn't acknowledge him. When my DD was 18months and we had moved back south I posted a letter to them complete with pictures of her, telling them I had moved home and they were welcome to meet their great granddaughter whenever they wanted. They didn't! they have met my children twice. Once when my grandfather turned 90 and had a party and again when they had a party celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary. Both events which I made the effort to go to.

I have never minded them not wanting anything to do with me as they never had much to do with my dad, but how could they not want to meet their great grandchildren?? I struggled with this but I cleared my conscience when I sent that letter. I decided that it was in their hands then, I had done my bit it was up to them. I even dealt with them not contacting me. I felt a lot more comfortable (if that is the right word) with the situation. But now he's dead and I feel sad about it and I don't think I should. I feel a bit hypocritical crying over someone who didn't really have much to do with my life. I feel bad when I get upset but then why shouldn't I be upset? He was my grandfather! I feel so confused

Tete_en_l'Air

Oh Star, I'm sorry to hear your news Grief is a funny old thing and I think it can affect you in ways you wouldn't necessarily expect. Perhaps you always hoped that they would come around and want to get to know you and your family, and now that's definitely not possible, at least for him, and maybe an element of your sadness is that lost chance? Bit of pop psychology there for you, sorry! Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be upset for him, just means you've got a heart xx

poorbutrich

Sorry to hear your news Starnac. Your grandfather is your grandfather and I totally understand your feelings at wanting to grieve but finding it hard because he wasn't a great dad or granddad. You'll probably go through a maelstrom of feelings but please don't feel bad as you did your very best to get to know him while he was alive.

Take care of yourself at this sad time.
xx

Lemon_Tree

not much I can really add to the lovely comments above cept to say i'm sending you hugs.

starnac

*tiptoes quietly back in* wow I have been gone for ages. I really miss this site when I am not on here.

Nothing very exciting has been happening tbh. Don't know if it's the whole "new year" thing but I really felt like I had to come back on here. I'm being a bad mummy and allowing Ben and Holly to babysit for a bit while I'm on here. The kids don't watch too much TV so it's not too bad (I hope)

Our debt hasn't gone up while I have been away from here but it hasn't really gone down either. I have told DH that whether he likes it or not this year is going to be a tight one. Yes I know I say that all the time but I am really fed up now. If we don't get rid of our debt then we won't be able to do anything nice in the future.

Gosh I'm a bit moany.

Think I'll go and do a money count to see if that makes me a bit less grumpy.....on second thoughts it may not!!!!

starnac

As it's the beginning of January we emptied our sealed pots last night and I put the money in the bank today. The kids loved going on a bus although I can't believe it just cost me over £5 for the three of us to go into town on the bus :eek: and they wonder why people don't use public transport???!!!!

Anyway, money is in the bank and the joy of cash means I don't have to wait for anything to clear. So I have just paid £103 off the window loan. Add that to the amount that came off from normal monthly payments and that's a total of £167.43 paid off the loan.

I am pleased with that. DH switched our gas and electric accounts before christmas so we should get some money back from those too soon. Anything we do get back will go straight to the loan.