real life MMD: Should I keep dating for freebies?

Sublime_2

Its simple, don't. You are taking the p.

Optimistme

If you have to ask the question in the first place then you are obviously not a very nice person to know. So the chap will be a lot better off without you, do the right thing and tell him its over now.

Gareth_Lazelle

Optimistme wrote: »

If you have to ask the question in the first place then you are obviously not a very nice person to know.

Better someone that was asking the question than someone that didn't even see it as a dilemma...

Augustus_the_Strong

I think Aldahbra's right. How do you know there's nothing in it if you've only been on a few dates? Get to know the guy a bit. If you are looking for the perfect guy and love at first sight, and reject everyone who doesn't instantly meet your requirements, forget it - you're going to be a lonely person.

The other point is, does the guy have so much money that spending on these fancy restaurants means nothing to him? If so, why not carry on enjoying these places together? You should offer to pay for the two of you sometimes, but make it clear it won't be such an expensive place, more like the Stockpot (if you live in London) or better still, why not cook him a delicious meal yourself?

My point is not about finding a rich guy and milking him for all he's worth, but rather, that people who earn a lot of money don't think twice about spending lots on fancy restaurants. Be nice to him and give him a chance - it may lead to something more in the long run.

matchmade

Like several other people I can't quite believe this "dilemma" is real: I feel really sorry for the guy that he has spending his money on such a gold-digging loser of a potential girlfriend.

This woman needs to change her whole approach to life. How can she ever get to know this man if all they ever do is go to posh restaurants? That's the whole problem with the "dating" scene: it's so artificial. Perhaps if she spent some time doing something simple like going for a walk or offering to help him in the garden (OK, not in these current temperatures), they'd find something in common and actually enjoy themselves.

catnatlady

oldtrout wrote: »

You should be honest with him asap and tell him how you feel. He might not actually be so keen on you, just enjoys your company and is quite happy to pay for you to join him. Find out by asking him, not people on a forum.

There's nothing wrong with going out with a guy who buys you nice meals in exchange for your company, as long as you make it clear that there will be no sex involved and it won't be forever.

C_Mababejive

RE the OP,the guy is too keen.

Cod n Chips twice would be the true test of love.

carooley

I don't think it's going anywhere = a very good reason

carooley

I don't see anything wrong with an exchange of good company for a meal/drinks, it's the kind of thing people do all the time for friends. however, if you don't see any future in this 'friendship' you must have lots of dead time on your hands to fill. wouldn't you rather fill that time with a lasting relationship/friendship. life is too short.

fatal1955

It sounds like you're only in the relationship for what you can get out of it, which means it isn't a "relationship" at all. I cannot believe there should be any dilemma between your stomach and his feelings. Be a friend at least once: tell him the truth.